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THE CHAKRAS

26 Sep

Sound and the Chakras
By Jonathan Goldman

THE CHAKRAS

In 1980 I first began my study of the uses of sound and music as therapeutic and healing modalities. This study ultimately manifested with a Master’s Degree in Independent Study of the Uses of Sound and Music for Healing from Lesley University in Cambridge, Massachusetts. My initial investigation into the area of sound healing was the relationship between sound and the chakras.

The word chakra is a Sanskrit term meaning “wheel”, for chakras are seen as spinning wheels of light by those with the ability to see subtle energy. The chakras are found in many traditions, including Hindu and Tibetan. Many esoteric and occult “Mystery School” describe these energy centers. While the chakras have been incorporated in many spiritual practices, their existence seems to be based, not upon religion, but upon awareness of energy. There is even scientific instrumentation that is beginning to record and validate them.

There are seven main chakras. These chakras are transduction points– places where subtle energy from higher planes begins to become denser. The energy from the chakras then becomes more dense as it comes into the body. It next becomes the acupuncture points and meridians and finally, this energy transduces into the density of the physical body. Imbalances in the physical body can be detected through the chakras. Frequently, healers who work with subtle energy can detect imbalances before they manifest in the physical body by feeling imbalances in the chakras. By balancing the chakras, imbalances in the physical body will often disappear.

There is a feedback loop occurring with the energy of the chakras. The physical body interfaces with this energy and vice versa. Frequently, an imbalance in a chakra will manifest later in the physical body. It is possible, such as through a traumatic injury, for both the physical body and the chakras to be simultaneously imbalanced. Healing of the physical occurs much more rapidly when the subtle anatomy–particularly the chakras–are aligned after physical injury. Frequency shifting through resonating the chakras allows us to help create balance and alignment within ourselves.

There are seven main chakras, seven spinning balls of energy that are located centrally in the front and the posterior of the body. The following is a brief description of the chakras:

  1. The first or “base” chakra located at the bottom of the trunk is involved with the physical process of elimination and the organs which work with that function. It is the chakra associated with the energy of survival. This chakra is also associated with grounding to the physical plane.
  2. The second or sacral chakra, located about three inches below your navel. This is associated with sexual energy, the reproductive organs and with much of the life force. The sexual energy is a divine energy utilized in the spiritual practice of tantra.
  3.  The third or navel chakra is located at the navel and a little above. Its energy is associated with digestion and the digestive organs. It is also associated with power and mastery of self.
  4.  The fourth or heart chakra is located in the center of the chest between the nipples. On the physical, it works with the lungs and the heart. On the emotional, it works with the energy of compassion and love.
  5. The fifth or throat chakra is located at the throat, at the base of the neck. It is a chakra that is associated with the process of communication; speech and hearing. The ears are associated with this chakra, as is, of course, the vocal apparatus.
  6. The sixth or brow chakra is located in the center of the forehead above the eyes. Often called “The Third Eye”, it is associated with imagination and psychic abilities. Mental activity and brain function are also associated with this chakra.
  7. The seventh or crown chakra, is located at the top of the head. It is associated with the induction of spiritual energy into the body. It is said to control every aspect of the body and mind and is associated with full enlightenment and union with God. This chakra is normally not fully open in most humans, though pictures of saints and other spiritual beings with “halos” are depictions of activated crown chakras.

These are the seven main chakras found in the various traditions. These seven chakras are the focus of the sonic resonance I first utilized on CHAKRA CHANTS and now, on CHAKRA CHANTS II. In my study of the relationship between sound and chakras are many different systems of sound that worked to resonate, balance and align the chakras.

CHAKRA SOUNDS

There are numerous sounds that seem to resonate the chakras. Among the most popular are the use of vowels and the use of mantras. This use of vowels seem to be highly effective in balancing the chakras. The Sacred Vowel are considered sacred in many different traditions and Mystery Schools throughout the planet, including ancient Egyptians, Hebrew, Islamic, Tibetan, Japanese and Native American. There are a number of different systems of Sacred Vowels to balance the chakras. I have utilized a system of sounding the sacred vowels that came to me many years ago and that I have shared effectively with thousands of people.

An alternative method of resonating the chakras is to use the Bija Mantras, the Sanskrit letters from the Vedic traditions, which by themselves are said to balance and align the chakras. There are silent Bijas and spoken Bijas. These are the spoken Bijas that are chanted aloud in order to resonate the chakras. As with all systems of using sound, there are variations. Such is the case with the Bija Mantras. I utilize a specific system of Bija Mantras that Dr. Deepak Chopra helped bring to public awareness.

There are many other aspects of using sound to resonate the chakras as well. Each chakra in the Vedic tradition is also associated with a particular element. In addition are sounds from the Shabd Yoga, the science of the Audible Sound Current. These sounds are considered to be Divine Emanations of the Creator.

Another aspect of sonic chakra resonance has to do with the actual frequency or keynote of each chakra. There a multitudinous different keynotes and scales with regard to this. I often will simply sound the vowels on a monotone (in the same key) and let the harmonic (and the specific formant of the vowel) create the chakra resonance.

When I do use different frequencies (or keynote) to use for each chakra, I prefer a diatonic major scale, starting on the note C. This is one of the most popular systems utilized to resonate the chakras. It is, as I have said, merely a system and there are others.

Of particular note is that the fundamental frequencies used for this system are harmonically related–that is the notes are the natural result of the geometric vibrations of a given string (brought within a single octave). The tuning is different than that of a keyboard (which utilizes a C that vibrates at 261 Hz). The notes that are createdcreated from this harmonically related scale are based upon the harmonics created from the fundamental notes of the note C that vibrates at 256 cycles per second (and then having the harmonics transposed down so that the fit within the octave of that C note). 256 Hz. is a harmonic of 1 cycle a second. Many believe this keynote to be in natural resonance with many of the frequencies of the Earth itself. Some belief it is a harmonic of the actual frequency of the Earth.

The following is the system that I have utilized for the CHAKRA CHANTS and it’s follow up recordings:

lst CHAKRA

Root – Muladhara
Keynote: C
Frequency: 256 Hz.
Vowel: Uh
Bija: Lam
Element: Earth
Shabd Sound: Thunder/Earthquake
Energy: Grounding

2nd CHAKRA

Sacral – Svadisthana
Keynote: D
Frequency: 288 Hz
Vowel: Ooo
Bija: Vam
Element: Water
Shabd Sound: Ocean
Energy: Life Energy,

3rd CHAKRA

Navel – Manipura
Keynote: E
Vowel: Oh
Frequency: 320 Hz.
Bija: Ram
Element: Fire
Shabd Sound: Roaring Fire
Element: Fire
Energy: Power

4th CHAKRA

Heart – Anahata
Keynote: F
Frequency: 341. 3 Hz.
Vowel: Ah
Bija: Yam
Element: Air
Shabd Sound: Wind
Energy: Compassion, Love

5th CHAKRA

Throat – Vishuddhi
Keynote: G
Frequency: 384 Hz.
Vowel: Eye
Bija: Ham
Element: Ether
Shabd Sound: Crickets
Energy: Communication, Creation

6th CHAKRA

3rd Eye – Ajna
Keynote: A
Frequency: 426.7 Hz.
Vowel: Aye
Bija: Sham
Element: All
Shabd Sound: Bells/Space
Energy: Insight, Wisdom

7th CHAKRA
Crown – Sahasrara
Keynote: B
Frequency: 480 Hz.
Vowel: Eee
Bija: Om
Element: All
Shabd Sound: Om
Energy: Transcendence
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Chakras: 7 Minute Tune Up

 

 

A profoundly powerful chakra balancing meditation in only 7 minutes! Healing Sounds pioneer® Jonathan Goldman has created this new sound experience to enhance everyone’s busy life. Using powerful chakra imagery created by visionary artist Lahrinda along with Jonathan’s sounding of the sacred vowels to resonate your energy centers, this video will balance and align your chakras, creating greater health and harmony. To receive maximum benefit from the experience, simply tone along with the chakra sounds yourself, and experience additional therapeutic benefits.

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.

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Serie NWO 8/39: «Huracanes fabricados, geo-ingeniería, FEMA, Atentados…

23 Sep

!Importante que veas esto! !Despierta!

 

En este documental extra urgente mencionamos de eventos meteorológicos altamente violentos e imprevisibles que de pronto se dan. ¿Por qué tantos huracanes, tifones, ciclones y poderosas tempestades se están generando, será que existe una manipulación provocada por geoingeniería y muy pocos se enteran de esas maniobras destructivas?
Expertos están impresionados que tres huracanes se hubieran alineado entre sí, algo fuera de lo común, con millones de afectados y obligados a dejar sus hogares de manera improvisada, e incluso muchas islas de las Antillas y el Caribe han sido borradas del mapa dejando a su paso un reguero de destrucción y caos nunca antes visto.
¿Y por qué los medios de difusión casi no han dado cobertura sobre esas calamidades y no están diciendo la verdad en relación a los fallecidos? ¿Será que se intenta recluir a miles de desplazados en los campos FEMA y el gobierno está buscando militarizar y poner la ley marcial en muchos lugares?
También debido a estas pavorosas causas se dan movimientos muy extraños e irresolubles y es el caso del Brexit creado con el fin de desestabilizar a Europa… ¿Y qué decir del misterioso viaje del Rey de España a Inglaterra, y su nombramiento por la Reina en la Orden de la Jarretera, por qué esa coincidencia y el posterior atentado en Barcelona?
Y si a esto le agregamos una fenomenología de tipo astronómico que se está dando durante este 2017 con eclipses de Luna, eclipse total de Sol, conjunciones planetarias, meteoritos… ¿Serán avisos que algo desconocido se aproxima? ¿Será que aparte tendrán que ver con un inusual incremento de virus, bacterias genéticamente mutables en este verano del 2017 o se tratará de coincidencias con el fin de prepararnos para nuevas vacunas más poderosas?

Alcyon Pléyades 61: Huracanes fabricados, geoingeniería, Fema, atentado Barcelona, Virus, eclipse.

 

The Evil Exit

20 Sep

One of your most difficult challenges on your path of personal growth will be dealing with the consequences of seeing your values shift away from the people who are already in your life, such as your family, friends, roommates, or even your spouse.

If you maintain a strong commitment to personal growth, such shifts are inevitable. As you gain more clarity about what’s most important to you in life, you’ll notice increasing contrast between your values and those of others. How you deal with such contrast can really put you to the test.

For instance, you may grow up within a certain religion or culture, but as you mature you may find that those beliefs no longer ring true for you, and you feel the need to shed them and move on.

Or you may grow up with certain eating habits and find yourself shifting away from your childhood diet as you learn and grow.

Or you may have been taught to adopt a certain lifestyle path by default, such as the expectation that you’ll go into the corporate world and get a job working for a large company, but later in life that option may not seem so intelligent to you.

Exploring the Contrast

When you notice this type of contrast beginning to surface, I encourage you to explore it consciously. It may seem a little scary at first — it was for me on many occasions — but I think you’ll find as I have that tremendous growth is to be found within that contrast.

When I was 17 years old and beginning to grasp that my Catholic upbringing was filling my mind with beliefs that didn’t satisfy my intellect, I felt that my only other valid option was to be an evil person. I was never exposed to other possibilities at that time. In my mind I was either Catholic (good) or non-Catholic (evil). So the only valid way I saw to grow beyond this point was to give myself permission to be evil, so I could explore other perspectives. This may seem like a silly choice to someone who’s never experienced that kind of conditioning, but it was very real to me at the time.

Giving myself permission to explore what I previously labeled as evil kicked off an incredible path of growth for me. I shed many false beliefs along the way, had my best year academically, and felt much freer and more alive. The best part was expanding my social circle to include non-Catholics and getting to know them. I dove into evil and found that it was nothing of the sort. It was simply freedom. I soon realized that I’d been brainwashed into thinking that an alternative path was evil by those who were invested in my lack of freedom and self-determination.

For me at the time, there was no other way out. I had to give myself permission to walk through the door labeled evil. That was the only exit I could see.

The Evil Exit

I later found that this is common in many belief systems. The interior of the belief system is frequently labeled good, while all of the exits are labeled evil (or variations thereof). So in order to escape, you have to do what you’ve been taught is evil. The more you accept these labels as real, the more trapped you become.

Which exits are labeled evil in your life right now? Which paths do people tell you are wrong, foolish, crazy, etc?

Is it possible that those paths aren’t actually evil? Is it possible that the so-called evil exit is actually the path to greater freedom? Is it possible that you’ve been conditioned to believe that such exits are evil by those who benefit from your lack of freedom? Who gains from your staying put?

Permission to Be Evil

Another situation where I had to choose the evil exit was leaving my marriage five years ago. Culturally speaking, ending a marriage, especially one with kids, is frowned upon, even though most married people eventually find themselves going that route.

That exit was covered with lots of evil-sounding labels. There’s a ton of social conditioning against leaving an unfulfilling marriage.

One thing that helped me, once again, was to give myself permission to be the bad guy. By this point I knew I wasn’t really doing something I felt was wrong, but allowing myself to be labeled as such anyway, and to accept and own that judgment both from myself and others, made it easier to move forward.

By giving myself permission to be evil instead of trying to resist or deny such a label, I was able to make what I felt was an intelligent choice, even if others might vehemently disagree. Sometimes I found it helpful to exaggerate the path in my own mind and to accept the exaggerated versions, which made it easier to accept the reality.

You’re so right — I’m a quitter!

Yup, I’m abandoning my kids. Total deadbeat!

Why yes… I’m doing this so I can sleep around. Such a slut!

Worst husband and father ever!

Yes indeedy… I’m evil! No good person would ever do this…

Being True to Your Own Values

Giving myself permission to choose the evil exit makes it easier to clarify and stay true to my own values, especially when my values diverge from socially conditioned values. I gain the freedom to choose the less popular path without drowning in struggle and resistance that would otherwise keep me stuck.

You see… from the perspective of someone with certain values that are in opposition to mine, I am in fact evil. Relatively speaking, the judgment is accurate. If I seem to be in denial about my obvious evilness, such people will often feel a strong need to criticize, condemn, or convert me. But if I simply agree with them — if I can “yes-and” their point of view — it saves us both a lot of time.

You cannot invalidate a perspective since a perspective is simply a lens through which reality can be viewed. In order to attempt falsification, you have to use a different lens than the original one. No lens can falsify another lens except an outside-in manner, meaning that falsification is lens-specific and certainly not universal. In fact the very notion of falsifiability only arises within certain lenses; without other lenses the notion of falsifiability is meaningless.

It is an artifact of many lenses, particularly persistent belief systems, to define the interior perspective as good, right, and correct and the exterior as bad, wrong, and evil. Subscribers are right. Non-subscribers are wrong.

To many people with certain religious beliefs, I’m evil because I don’t believe what they believe. I’m an outsider, a non-believer. I’m not saved. I’m going to hell. From within their belief system, these are reasonably accurate statements.

Isn’t it simplest to agree with them?

Yes, I’m evil.

When I die, I’ll be going to hell.

I’m here doing the Devil’s work. Muahahaha!

From my perspective as a long-term vegan, it would be simplest if the flesh-loving people in my life would simply admit that they’re evil. After all, from an ethical vegan’s perspective, it’s completely ludicrous that they should pretend to care about animals, the environment, etc. It would be more sensible for them to say, “Yeah, I totally don’t care about animals at all. Fuck animals! I’m evil and love seeing them tortured and killed for my pleasure.” That would be honest.

Your Relationship With Evil

In the absence of such pre-translated language, you can also do your own translation from another person’s preferred lenses into your own.

Go tell a devout Catholic that you’re an atheist, and don’t be so surprised when your statement gets internally translated as, “I’m a sinner.”

Or tell an ethical vegan about how you like having your favorite animal flesh prepared, and the internal translation of your statement may be, “I’m cruel and unkind.”

From an outsider’s perspective, you may be inclined to label these as unfair judgments. But from an insider’s perspective, they’re reasonably accurate observations.

For whichever doors in your life you may be labeling as evil or wrong, there are countless people who’ve already walked through similar doors and explored beyond them. The first question is: Will you walk through that door too? The second question is: Whether or not you walk through that door yourself, how will you relate to those who already have?

Exploring your own answers to these questions is a significant part of your life’s journey.

Exploring Alternatives

On your path of growth, you’re likely to find many doors labeled evil. It’s a label that one human lens often projects upon another. I think you’ll find as I have that many of these paths which are so labeled don’t actually conflict with your values when you explore them. It can take a lot of reflection to clarify whether or not a potential path conflicts with your values or not. Sometimes the easiest way to find out is to walk through the door and explore what’s on the other side. Then you’ll know.

Giving yourself permission to be evil means giving yourself permission to risk violating your own values. It means giving yourself the opportunity to test alternatives and to make mistakes.

Occasionally you may walk through a door labeled evil, explore the other side, and realize that it’s not for you. While there can be notable consequences to doing this in some cases, much of the time the potential negative consequences are overblown, and the exploration is well worth the learning and growth you’ll gain. Different lenses can distort the way consequences appear.

For instance, if you’re considering a divorce, the interior lens will tend to overplay the potential negative impact on your family. It may encourage you to believe that you’ll be the worst person on earth for causing terrible damage and destruction to a handful of people. This kind of belief can really keep you stuck.

The exterior perspective looks very different, however. By staying trapped in an unhappy situation, such a person is surely spreading stress and unhappiness to many more people and crushing their potential for decades of future contribution. Even if taking the exit door would indeed have a largely negative impact on their family, that consequence must be balanced against the many positive ripples that would be created by seeking a path of greater fulfillment… and inspiring others to do the same.

Take the Evil Door Sooner

On my own path of growth, I’ve learned that in those situations where I suspected that the grass might be greener on the other side, I was usually right. My intuition was accurate. The other side was indeed greener, happier, and more fulfilling. My biggest regrets are of the form: I wish I’d walked through the evil door sooner.

I’m glad I’ve taken risks to explore and clarify my values. Even when I’ve made mistakes, it’s hard to regret them in hindsight because I still learned a lot from my worst choices; they still helped to clarify my core values over time.

When you allow yourself to be evil, you gain the ability to float more freely between different lenses. Doors that are labeled evil exit transform into doors that are merely labeled exit. You’re pre-approved to walk through them without having to worry about judgment or resistance. This gives you the freedom to make more open-minded and conscious choices about which alternative paths to explore.

If you’re feeling stuck, trapped, or stagnant in your current situation, but all the exit doors from that place are labeled evil, then give yourself permission to be evil, and take one of those exits. Become the sinner… the quitter… the betrayer… the abandoner… the loser… the deadbeat… the failure. Wear those labels proudly. They’re all synonyms for explorer.

Steve Pavlina

 

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Consejos para mejorar nuestra vida espiritual con Julio Bevione.

17 Sep

Principios y finales

Me encantan los finales. Cada vez que lo digo en voz alta, algunos piensan que bromeo y otros, que lo que me gusta es el drama de esos momentos. En realidad, me gustan los finales porque estoy convencido que cada final, está continuado por un nuevo principio. Y que todos los cambios son favorables. Todos.

El miedo que trae un final, se mantiene porque especulamos que nada de lo que sigue será mejor. Quizás nublados por la culpa de lo no hecho, la frustración de lo que no fue, o simplemente como nos sentimos cómodos con lo que nos está sucediendo, nos negamos a ver más allá para descubrir que lo que sigue también está repleto de oportunidades.

En mi vida he conocido todo tipo de finales. Los geográficos con sus mudanzas, los generacionales con las edades, los financieros, los sentimentales, de relaciones laborales, los internos y hasta de creencias. Y todo final amenazó con ser negativo. Pero ante cada amenaza, me detuve. Y en esa quietud, pude reconocer cómo detrás de cada partecita vieja que caía, algo nuevo aparecía. Nuevo y mejor.

De lo que se va, nos queda la experiencia. Nada ocurre sin un propósito. Pero cuando ya tenemos la experiencia en la mano, la vida se lleva el resto. Quizás por eso, a veces, seguimos circulando por situaciones parecidas. Porque si no tomamos la experiencia, la vida sigue repitiéndola hasta que la logremos ver y asimilar. Y pareciera que cambiáramos, pero solo hay finales y nada nuevo comienza, solo repetimos. A veces con otras caras, en otros lugares, pero repetimos.

Cuando el próximo final se acerque, estemos atentos a lo que sucede con nosotros. Observémonos. Pongamos atención en apoyar ese final aceptando lo que ya no es, lo que se va. Pero no demoremos en abrir la mirada amplia hacia adelante. Porque siempre, siempre hay más.

Tips para llevar una vida más espiritual por Julio Bevione

 

El camino espiritual

Suelo encontrarme con personas que tratando de hacer un camino espiritual, devoran libros y buscar graduarse en uno y otro método. Pero también veo en algunas de ellas la ausencia de libertad, de paz y, aún más, de alegría, que serían la retribución que quienes hacen el camino espiritual pueden gozar. ¿Qué están haciendo, entonces?

Hacen lo que saben, lo que vieron y lo que pudieron hacer. No están equivocados, porque su búsqueda es honesta. Pero, quizás, el error está en el lugar donde están buscando. El espíritu vive en nosotros, por lo que todo intento de buscarlo en voces de otros, experiencias ajenas y fórmulas que no incluyen lo interno, solo nos desvían de camino. Un camino que tarde o temprano haremos, porque es inevitable que en nuestra vida, al menos un instante, sintamos la inconmensurable presencia que habita en cada uno. ¿Para que demorarnos?

No está en un lugar especial en el mundo.
No hay una filosofía universal que sea la correcta.
No hay un gurú que encierre toda la sabiduría.

El camino es individual, se hace poco a poco, usando como norte la energía del amor y como camino nuestra experiencia cotidiana. Sin escapar de nada ni de nadie, sino permitiendo que todo lo que vivimos nos hable de nosotros. Viéndonos en cada mirada. Volviendo a nosotros cada vez que nos perdamos en las vidas ajenas. Regresando al presente cuando el pasado o el futuro nos entretengan. Eligiendo, con voluntad y conciencia dejar pasar todo lo que no sume a la energía del amor. Eligiendo, con voluntad y conciencia, todo lo que nos sostenga en la energía del amor. Disfrutando de lo que la vida nos da en este momento mientras observamos las especulaciones hasta que pierdan fuerza. Eligiendo otra vez vivir en paz cada momento en que la perdemos. Haciéndonos cargo de nuestra grandeza para ejercerla en cada acto. Es decir, no confundiendo la humildad con la idea de nuestra imposible pequeñez. Y, sí, con humildad, reconociendo que mientras estemos caminando por este mundo, el error será una forma de aprendizaje. Un aprendizaje que es constante. No por falta de sabiduría, sino porque andamos muy distraídos. Cada vez más.

Saber menos, sentir más. Confiar en la fuerza que nos mueve y quitarle fuerza a las ilusiones que nos distraen. Tener voluntad de hacer el trabajo del amor en cada paso. Volver a hacerlo cuando nos olvidemos. Y seguir andando. Que nada de este mundo puede igualar a los regalos que sólo el espíritu puede darnos.

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.

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10 Tips For Raising Your Child In A Spiritual Way

14 Sep

In my book Don’t Die With Your Music Still in You, which I wrote with my father Wayne Dyer, we share our insights on family life with a spiritual bent. Using my father’s book 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace as a template, we describe the ways a spiritual focus can help children grow up feeling blessed and empowered:

1. Don’t Die with Your Music Still in You
Serena: There’s something I have heard my father say too many times to count: “You will never regret what you do in life; you will only regret what you don’t do.” Everything I have ever done has taught me something, whether it worked out or not. Sometimes the takeaway is simply knowing what I don’t want. Notice whether you are moving toward or away from what excites you. If you pay attention and let yourself be guided by your intuition, you won’t have to worry about dying with your music inside of you.


2. Have a Mind That Is Open to Everything and Attached to Nothing
Wayne: We become what we think about all day long—this is one of the greatest secrets that so many people are unaware of as they live out their life’s mission. What we think about is the business of our minds. If that inner invisibleness called our mind is closed to new ideas and infinite possibilities, it is equivalent to killing off the most important aspect of our very humanity. A mind that is open and unattached to any one particular way of being or living is like having an empty container that can allow new and endless possibilities to enter and be explored.
3. You Can’t Give Away What You Don’t Have
Serena: It may seem impossible now, but one day, we’ll all look back at the storms we have weathered and give a silent thank you. For many of us, it is the storms of our lives that have given us compassion, kindness, and gentleness that we otherwise may not have known—and that we can now give away to others, because they are inside of us.
4. Embrace Silence
Wayne: I have long known the wisdom inherent in the ancient aphorism, “It’s the silence between the notes that makes the music.” This is a truth that both my wife Marcelene and I attempted to convey to all of our children as we sought to make our home a temple of serenity and peace, amidst all of the activity of a large family. Everything emerges out of the silence.
5. Give Up Your Personal History
Serena: Our personal history is all the things in our background that keep us the same. If more of the same is not what we want, we have to let go of our history. When we do, we let go of all the beliefs we’ve had about ourselves—beliefs which may not even be true. In letting go of the past, you may find that you’re able to be more alive in the present. If you don’t like where you are in life, then you must change your way of thinking.
6. You Can’t Solve a Problem with the Same Mind That Created It
Wayne: I would regularly remind the children that their concept of themselves is nothing more than all of the things that they believe to be true. And if what they believe to be true is helping them to create situations in which they are unhappy or even unhealthy, they are then challenged to change what they have unwaveringly held on to as an absolute truth. This is very difficult for most people to do, and this is why so many stay stuck, because they would rather be right than happy.
7. There Are No Justified Resentments

Serena: Growing up, there was a five letter word beginning with a “b” that we were not allowed to say or use. No, I’m not talking about bitch; the real bad word in our household was blame. Dad has a zero-tolerance policy for resentment. He simply wouldn’t allow any of us to place blame on anyone or anything other than ourselves. Freedom comes in forgiveness and letting go. When you free yourself of your past resentments, you release yourself of the worry of the future.
8. Treat Yourself as If You Already Are What You’d Like to Be
Wayne: The greatest gift that any of us are granted is the gift of our imagination. Every single thing that now exists was once imagined, and the corollary of this assertion is that everything that is ever going to exist in the future must first be imagined. In my role as a father and a teacher I felt it was incumbent upon me to help my children understand and apply the phenomenal implications of this basic notion. “If you want to accomplish anything, you must first be able to expect it of yourself.”
9. Treasure Your Divinity
Serena: When we were little, my brothers and sisters and I were taught by our parents that God resided within each of us; that our divinity was not something we needed to go out and look for. Instead, we would find it when we looked within.
10. Wisdom Is Avoiding All Thoughts That Weaken You
Wayne: All I wanted for my sons and daughters, and all of those who read my books and attended my lectures, was to realize that they could always choose a thought that would empower them, as opposed to ones that make them fragile and weak. This is one of the greatest lessons we can all use each and every day of our lives: wisdom is avoiding all thoughts which weaken you. Or as the children heard me say so many times, “Your life is a product of all of the choices that you have made, so choose well.”

For some other lessons I learned from my father, read our book, Don’t Die With Your Music Still In You and watch this video of him reading a letter that I wrote:

A Daughter’s Message to Her Dad: Happy Father’s Day- Serena and Wayne Dyer

 

Serena J. Dyer is the sixth of Wayne and Marcelene Dyer’s eight children. Serena attended the University of Miami, where she received bachelor’s and master’s degrees, and now lives in South Florida with her fiancé. She spends her time traveling, reading, blogging, cooking, and working to combat child trafficking through several local organizations.

 

Vídeo

«Evita los juicios y las etiquetas»

11 Sep

¿Recuerdas cuando eras niño y te reprendían diciéndote que lo que estabas haciendo estaba mal? ¿Y las alabanzas que tanto buscabas y disfrutabas? ¿Te quedarías con las alabanzas?  Ahí es justo donde se sitúan las bases en las que se construye el modelo de la sociedad en la que vivimos. Siempre intentamos inclinar la balanza hacia las situaciones o personas que juzgamos como buenas o positivas. Y la vida es un todo inseparable.

Nos movemos en una realidad que está plagada de dualidad. Todo es bueno o malo. Me gusta o no me gusta. Hemos perdido la capacidad de vivir las cosas por el placer de vivirlas.

Nos proporciona cierta sensación de seguridad el poner etiquetar a todo y a tod@s. Cuando catalogamos las cosas de ‘buenas’ o ‘malas’ sentimos que le damos sentido a nuestra realidad y que estamos respetando nuestro “sentido de la ética o de la moralidad”

Al mismo tiempo, solo con reflexionar un poco, nos podemos dar cuenta de que una misma situación o hecho es juzgado de forma totalmente diferente dependiendo de quién lo observe, y de cuál sea su origen cultural. Por ejemplo, un buen eructo es una muestra de cortesía en Arabia o en China, pero si lo hiciéramos en cualquier mesa europea sería toda una descortesía.

Al final, nuestros juicios siempre van a estar teñidos de un montón de creencias que nos alejan de la verdadera realidad, del hecho enjuiciado o de la persona que a la que señalamos con el dedo.

Te preguntarás entonces, ¿de qué sirven los juicios? ¡Absolutamente de nada!

Enjuiciar cualquier cosa o persona es un hábito adquirido, que muchas veces hacemos de forma inconsciente y que nos dificulta enormemente la vida. Y como todo hábito ha de ser observado, reconocido y, si nos merece la pena, abandonado o sustituido por otro más saludable.

Todo juicio acerca de una situación y, sobre todo, de una persona, nos hace focalizar la atención en una sola parte de esa situación o persona, y pasamos por alto la totalidad que representan. Perdiendo, por supuesto, la posibilidad de un entendimiento cordial y agradable.

Si profundizamos un poco más en lo que son los juicios, por mucho que te sorprendas, nos encontraremos con partes nuestras que no queremos mirar. ¿No te lo crees?

¡Te lo voy a explicar!

Existe un término en psicología denominado proyección que nos explica cómo las personas atribuimos a otros sentimientos, pulsiones o reacciones propias .La proyección nos explica como, al considerar todas estas cosas inaceptables para nuestra autoimagen normalmente, engalanada de perfección, preferimos otorgárselas a los demás. Entonces, desde la postura del censurador nos sentimos cargados de razón y también de inconsciencia, claro está.

¿No puedes soportar algún rasgo en la personalidad de alguna persona?

En este caso, te puedo asegurar que ese rasgo que tanto detestas es tuyo también. Puede que no sea en la misma faceta de la vida, podría ser en otro contexto, pero con toda seguridad está también en ti.

Se suele producir una especie de caricaturización del rasgo detestado para que, de esa forma, sea mucho más fácil de ver. Por ejemplo, aquel mentiroso compulsivo al que tú juzgas duramente, podría estar mostrándote una parte de ti que evita decir la verdad en muchas ocasiones. Lo tuyo es, quizá, más pequeño y se desarrolla en un ámbito diferente al de la otra persona, pero, al fin y al cabo, es una característica de ambos y tú necesitas verla en el otro para después observarla en ti.

¿No hay excepciones?

Imagino que te estarás preguntando si la mala uva de tu suegra o de tu cuñado es tuya también. Pues siento decirte que ¡SÍ! , sobre todo si te molesta mucho y si la criticas a menudo.

Quizá tu respuesta sea que tú nunca has levantado la voz, que eres una persona tranquila por naturaleza y que no soportas los gritos y el mal humor. Pues también ahí puede existir una parte de ti que, en muchas ocasiones, debido a una rígida educación, ha sido sofocada quedando reprimida. Es decir, que no has llegado a ser así por desarrollo propio sino por imposición. Y ahí está tu suegra haciendo su papel de espejo…

¿Tampoco hay juicio para los que me tratan con desconsideración?

Es muy común que cuando una persona te trata como tú crees que no mereces, sea un claro reflejo del modo en que tú te tratas a ti mismo. En muchos casos carecemos de una verdadera relación de amor propio y todo el enfado que sentimos por el ‘maltratador’ oculta, en gran medida, el malestar que nos produce la carencia de ese amor por nosotros mismos. 

¿Y para el resto de las situaciones que presenta la vida?

Cualquier situación que nos presenta la vida no se presenta para ser enjuiciada. Nadie dijo que fuera así. Es solo una costumbre adquirida.

De hecho, cualquier encuentro con otra persona conlleva un juicio, en ocasiones, tan absurdo como al tiempo. Si te encuentras con tu vecino y con el saludo incluyes unas cuantas quejas acerca del frío, del calor o de la lluvia, serás mucho más normal a sus ojos que si le explicas, de entrada, lo mucho que estás disfrutando de lo que esté sucediendo, sea lo que sea.

En definitiva, por mucho que lo creamos, no somos máquinas de enjuiciar.  Vivimos tan acostumbrados a hacerlo que  en muchas ocasiones ni siquiera somos conscientes de que lo estamos haciendo.

Tampoco somos perfectos, sino maravillosamente imperfectos y variados, afortunadamente.  Y cualquier persona, haga lo que haga, ahora o en un tiempo pasado, siempre lo hizo lo mejor que pudo, en base a como ella veía la vida en ese momento. Entonces, ¿por qué no intentar por un momento caminar en sus zapatos y comprender su situación?

Una vez más, necesitamos reducir la velocidad a la que vivimos y disponer de pequeños espacios de silencio o meditación, en los que podamos tomar distancia y observar cómo reaccionamos, cómo vivimos, cÓmo enjuiciamos. Y de esa forma, quizá llegar a entender que de la misma manera que nosotros necesitamos ser comprendidos y amados, tenemos la obligación de otorgar esa misma comprensión a los demás, alejando la censura de nuestra relación con ellos.

Cualquier situación o persona, puede convertirse en una gran oportunidad, en ocasiones para vernos a nosotros mismos o quizá para comprender algo que antes no fue comprendido.

¡Abracemos cualquier experiencia, cualquier persona y liberémonos el juicio que no sirve para nada!

Las etiquetas a otros ¿ayudan? – Marca Personal – Renata Roa

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.