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Qué dicen mis pies? – Lenguaje Corporal – Renata Roa

14 Oct

Los pies son la parte más inconsciente que tenemos y que de manera constante le está diciendo un mensaje al mundo. Es fascinante entender lo que nos quieren decir y sobre todo lo que los demás nos están diciendo. Una parte de la Comunicación No verbal que grita cosas.

 

El Lenguaje Corporal De Las Piernas

En cuanto al lenguaje corporal de las piernas, te voy a comentar 3 cosas muy interesantes. Presta atención si quieres poner a prueba tu habilidad para leer el lenguaje corporal al final de este ejercicio.

1. Las piernas que ocupan el máximo espacio

Aunque esto se puede ver perfectamente cuando una persona está de pie, es cuando está sentada que este fenómeno se hace más evidente.

Si ves a una persona que, sentada, tiene las piernas estiradas, separadas o con un tobillo sobre la rodilla opuesta… es decir, si ves que esa persona ocupa el máximo espacio posible con sus piernas, lo que ese lenguaje corporal dice de ella es que siente una gran confianza en sí misma o que percibe que ella es la dominante de la situación.

Este detalle tanto puede significar que la persona está relajada y sin miedos como también puede indicar que se trata de alguien con un toque prepotente, mandón o incluso engreído.

2. Las piernas que ocupan el mínimo espacio

Como imaginarás, el hecho de que una persona ocupe el mínimo espacio con sus piernas, tanto sentada como de pie, significa justo lo opuesto al caso anterior. Esta persona posee poca confianza en sí misma de forma general o bien se siente intimidada en este momento concreto por algún motivo.

Esto tiene que ver con nuestro instinto más primitivo de proteger nuestros genitales. Cuando una persona retuerce o aprieta una pierna contra la otra, a menos que se trate de algún tipo de picor o ganas de ir al baño, está ocultando inconscientemente su zona genital porque percibe la situación como amenazante.

A este respecto, es probable que, si eres mujer, tiendas a ocupar el mínimo espacio con tus piernas y, si eres hombre, tiendas a ocupar el máximo espacio. Esta tendencia se debe, fundamentalmente, a la educación que hemos recibido; pues una socialización tradicional y estereotipada, que es la que recibimos la mayoría de las personas, nos dice que las mujeres debemos ser discretas y para nada dominantes y los hombres deben imponerse. Me encantaría que pausaras el vídeo aquí sólo un segundo para contarme, en la sección de comentarios, cuáles son tus pensamientos sobre esto.

3. Las piernas cruzadas

Y la tercera curiosidad que quiero compartir contigo en cuanto al lenguaje corporal de las piernas tiene que ver con la dirección del cruce. A rasgos generales, cruzar las piernas indica inseguridad por el motivo que acabamos de ver. Sin embargo, esto sólo puede ser percibido como un indicio fiable en el caso de personas que no suelan cruzar las piernas.

¡Pero hay otras personas que sí suelen cruzarlas cada vez que se sientan! En esos casos se trata de un hábito, no de un indicio de inseguridad. Pero sí hay algo muy interesante que podemos inferir de un cruce de piernas. Los estudios al respecto indican que, en muchas ocasiones, las personas cruzamos las piernas hacia el lado que nos agrada o nos apetece. Es decir, que si mientras conversas con alguien, tras un comentario tuyo, esa persona cruza la pierna que está más próxima a ti hacia el lado opuesto, podría indicar que o no le ha gustado lo que has dicho o, directamente, está deseando marcharse de tu lado.

El Lenguaje Corporal De Los Pies

Te voy a contar dos cosas muy interesantes sobre el lenguaje corporal de los pies que revelan pensamientos ocultos de las personas. ¿Te apetece?

1. Apuntan a nuestro foco de atención

Es probable que ya hayas oído algo al respecto de lo que te voy a contar. Por norma general, también cuando estamos sentadas o sentados pero, sobre todo, cuando estamos de pie, las puntas de nuestros pies apuntan al lugar o persona donde tenemos puesto el foco de atención.

Esto lo puedes observar cuando un grupo de personas está charlando de pie. Normalmente, cuando hay un o una líder evidente en el grupo, todos los pies apuntan a esa persona. Si en ese grupo hay una persona que se siente atraída hacia otra (ya sea atracción sexual, admiración o una fuerte simpatía), sus pies apuntarán hacia esa persona. Si en el grupo hay una persona desagradable o antipática, casi con seguridad ningún pie apuntará hacia ella.

Por otro lado, si estás charlando con alguien cuyos pies apuntan hacia la puerta de salida, ya sabes que o tú o tu conversación no le gustáis demasiado. A veces es una simple cuestión de cambiar de tema para comprobar si realmente el problema era que a esa persona no le interesa en absoluto que le cuentes cómo fue el partido de fútbol de ayer.

2. Te delatan si mientes

El reconocido investigador del lenguaje corporal Paul Ekman afirma que, cuando una persona miente, sus pies pueden reflejar la incoherencia entre sus pensamientos y sus palabras a través de movimientos compulsivos inusuales. Esto no siempre es así, de modo que no deberías tomártelo como un indicio fiable. Para saber en qué casos esta información puede revelarte una mentira, fíjate en cómo se comportan los pies de la otra persona en situaciones neutras o incluso cuando está nerviosa pero no está mintiendo. Si llegas a identificar el comportamiento habitual de sus pies en situaciones de “no mentira”, podrás reconocer mucho más fácilmente las situaciones en que sí miente, porque sus pies se comportarán de modo revelador: tal vez se trate de un temblor inusual, de una colocación extraña o de una gran tensión visible.

¿Te has quedado con estos detalles? Si no has visto el vídeo sobre el lenguaje corporal de las piernas, te recomiendo que vayas a él en el menú que verás a continuación en pantalla. Y si ya lo has visto, te animo a que pongas a prueba lo que has aprendido hoy, en ese mismo menú.

 

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.

 

 

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.

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Is Something Missing? Let Wolf and Raven restore life’s magic.

11 Oct

The term spirit guide, also known as a helping spirit or guardian spirit, is a term for any spiritual beings that help us in a life-positive way. We can call on them for guidance, protection, healing, encouragement, and inspiration. We may see them, hear them, feel them, or just know they’re with us, and we can have any number of spirit guides throughout our life whether we’re aware of them or not.

Those spirits that are in animal form that teach us, guide us, empower us, and help us heal are called animal spirit guides or spirit animals. In shamanic and indigenous cultures, they may be called totem animalsor power animals. Often these terms are used interchangeably, although there are subtle differences in meaning.

When an animal or symbol of that animal shows up to you in an unusual way or repeatedly (at least three times in a short period of time), it’s most definitely trying to convey a message from the spirit world to you.

There are four major ways in which you can get messages from the spirit world: visual, auditory, kinesthetic, and cognitive. As your receptivity to the spiritual dimension opens and develops, you’ll discover that one of these pathways is the strongest and feels the most natural, with a secondary one that works fairly well. The more you practice and the more you attune to the spiritual dimension, you’ll find that you can receive input through the other channels as well. What’s required is that you hold a clear intention to receive these messages and simply remain receptive, and they will come to you, often in unexpected and surprising ways.

Here’s an introduction to two of the familiar animal spirits that you might encounter: raven and wolf.

If RAVEN shows up, it means:

Magic is in the air, and something special is about to happen. Pay attention to dreams and visions, especially colorful and powerful ones, as these are indicative of prophecy.

In any undertaking or in any relationship, be very clear as to what your intentions are because whatever they are, that’s what will manifest.

You’re gradually shape-shifting to a more confident, powerful, and spiritually based you that will continue to emerge the more you let go of your old self.

You’ll observe an increasing number of synchronistic events over the next few days, so just notice these, appreciate them, and don’t try to figure them out.

Call on RAVEN when:

You need to clarify your intention about a task, a relationship, or your spiritual path so that you can manifest that intention in third-dimension reality.

You had an especially painful childhood and want to reclaim the lost innocence and joy.

You’ve lost touch with the magic of life and want to recapture that sense of awe and wonder, as well as manifest your desires.

You’re in need of physical and/or emotional healing and want to augment whatever other treatment modalities you’re using.

You have an ailing loved one who is some distance away, or there are others at some distance who are suffering and you want to send strong prayers and healing energy.

If WOLF shows up, it means:

Characteristics and behaviors that no longer serve your spiritual purpose are being culled from your consciousness.

Make cooperation a priority over competition.

Valuable insights, ideas, and new teachings are coming your way, so pay close attention.

It’s important to maintain your self-esteem and integrity and deeply trust in your inner knowing, even when you feel misunderstood or misaligned.

You’re being spiritually and psychically protected at all times.

Call on WOLF when:

You feel lost with regard to a relationship, project, or your career, or else you’re confused about your life path and purpose.

You feel at one extreme or the other with your social ties, either feeling isolated and alone or overly enmeshed with family and friends.

You’ve been feeling a little too civilized lately and want to tap in to the wild and instinctual.

You’re having trouble discerning the sincerity and truth of what someone is communicating to you.

You want to be more expressive in your communication, particularly by adding more body language and vocal inflection.

Dr. Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D., is a shamanic practitioner, Soul Healer, ordained minister, and licensed psychotherapist. He’s the author of the best-selling Animal Spirit Guides, the Power Animal Oracle Cards, Power Animals, Sacred Ceremony, and the guided meditation CD Messages from Your Animal Spirit Guides. Steven is also host of his own radio show, Earth Magic Radio on ContactTalkRadio.

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Why You Should Love Your Body Like Your Best Friend

2 Oct
How To Make Peace With Your Body
Mel WellsLoving your body’ isn’t about looking in the mirror and trying really, really, really hard to love those parts of your body that you’ve spent years trying to get rid of. Nor trying to make it look like someone else’s body – a celebrity’s, a girl on Instagram’s, or your former 20-year-old self’s.

This is the stuff that really sticks.

Treat your body like she’s your best friend. Respect her, honour her, listen to her.

Start to think of her like she’s one of your besties. A girlfriend that you have so much love for that you would never disrespect her. You would never want anyone to hurt her, and looking after her and making sure she’s safe are of upmost importance to you. Maybe instead of a girlfriend it’s your mum, your sister, or your daughter.

Your feelings for her run so much deeper than just what you see on the outside.

(Can you imagine if we loved our best friends, mums, daughters purely because of the way they looked?! If they gained a few pounds or felt bloated would we suddenly turn our backs on them and disown them?! Of course not, don’t be so ridiculous, I hear you cry.)

This love between girlfriends is a real deep love, respect and honour.

This is how we should love ourselves.

This is the love we should have for our body.

It means sticking with your body through thick and thin, listening to her, trusting her innately, respecting her, loving her through and through, and not ignoring her when she’s shouting at you. It means being your body’s cheerleader when she’s feeling rough, and championing her when she’s feeling fab.

Loving your body also means not talking down to her.

Would you talk to your daughter, your mum, your best friend in the same way you talk down to yourself?

Talking to ourselves…they say it’s the first sign of madness… yet we all do it. Whether you’re muttering to yourself while driving or running a subconscious mental dialogue, it’s totally normal!

But the important question is how do you talk to yourself?

That little running commentary in your head isn’t always kind, especially when you’re in certain ‘trigger scenarios’ – in the shop changing-room, in a mirror, even in the bathtub or just getting dressed in the morning.

Have you ever found yourself insulting your body, or calling yourself names for being lazy, or useless – or berating yourself for still carrying around those extra 10lbs?

Would you ever say those things to your best friend? Of course not!

All those insults and cutting judgements about ourselves and our bodies wouldn’t even cross your mind! If you ever spoke to them the way you speak to yourself, they’d probably be so hurt and offended! So why speak to yourself that way?

The longer we talk down to ourselves, the longer we stay imprisoned in body jail, so use the following three steps to upgrade your self-talk.

1. Catch yourself in the act when you are talking down to yourself.

2. Change the script in your head.

3. Be kind, forgive yourself and drown out negative or hateful thoughts with love and compassion. You deserve it and you are enough. Just as you are.

You and your body should be working as a team, rather than you fighting against her.

When you respect your body, she will reward you with a life beyond your wildest dreams.

For many of us this means undoing a whole lifetime of body obsession or feeling like we are always judged on our appearance. Learning to love your body is something that takes time and daily effort.

Love your body even if you’re not in the best shape of your life.

If you’re not in the best shape of your life right now, maybe you’re struggling to love your body, because you’re constantly comparing yourself to how you used to look.

As a former model I can totally relate to that. I have spoken to athletes and personal trainers who have said the same thing. But it applies to all of us. If you’ve spent a time in what you consider to be great shape, and now you’re not ‘there’ – it can be a real struggle to convince yourself that you don’t need to get back ‘there’.

When I was in ‘the best shape’ of my life – or what I considered to be – I was miserable with how I looked and constantly scrutinizing myself – way more than I do now.

It’s completely fine for you to love your body AND want to make your body the best she can be!

The key is to do it all from a loving place to begin with.

Your body now is your body now. There is no going backwards, no rewinding the clock, only moving forwards.

Living in the past or striving for an old version of yourself will always be a losing battle. How can your body best support you right now, and indeed, in your future?

Only loving your body when she’s in the best shape is like only loving your kids when they are best behaved.

Be your number one fan:

Be proud of yourself.

High-five yourself when you achieve something awesome. (In your mind that is; you don’t want to look crazy.)

Tell yourself how proud of YOU you are.

Champion yourself.

Give yourself pep talks.

Be your own cheerleader.

You are one sassy lady.

And you’ve got this.

Mel Wells is a coach and mentor, and received her training at The Institute of Integrative Nutrition, New York. The founder of ‘The Green Goddess Life’, she has started a movement amongst women worldwide to help them quit dieting, start loving their bodies and live an outrageously abundant lifestyle that they can’t help but fall in love with. Previously a successful actress and model, Mel personally struggled with brutal eating disorders for over 6 years, and created a unique method to heal herself and change her attitude to food. It is now her absolute mission to help as many women as possible have good, healthy relationships with themselves and the food they are putting into their bodies, so they never find themselves starting a new diet, and failing a new diet, ever again. www.thegreengoddesslife.com

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Arquitecto de Sueños – Crecimiento Personal: Dime que te duele y te diré que piensas

29 Sep

 

The Evil Exit

20 Sep

One of your most difficult challenges on your path of personal growth will be dealing with the consequences of seeing your values shift away from the people who are already in your life, such as your family, friends, roommates, or even your spouse.

If you maintain a strong commitment to personal growth, such shifts are inevitable. As you gain more clarity about what’s most important to you in life, you’ll notice increasing contrast between your values and those of others. How you deal with such contrast can really put you to the test.

For instance, you may grow up within a certain religion or culture, but as you mature you may find that those beliefs no longer ring true for you, and you feel the need to shed them and move on.

Or you may grow up with certain eating habits and find yourself shifting away from your childhood diet as you learn and grow.

Or you may have been taught to adopt a certain lifestyle path by default, such as the expectation that you’ll go into the corporate world and get a job working for a large company, but later in life that option may not seem so intelligent to you.

Exploring the Contrast

When you notice this type of contrast beginning to surface, I encourage you to explore it consciously. It may seem a little scary at first — it was for me on many occasions — but I think you’ll find as I have that tremendous growth is to be found within that contrast.

When I was 17 years old and beginning to grasp that my Catholic upbringing was filling my mind with beliefs that didn’t satisfy my intellect, I felt that my only other valid option was to be an evil person. I was never exposed to other possibilities at that time. In my mind I was either Catholic (good) or non-Catholic (evil). So the only valid way I saw to grow beyond this point was to give myself permission to be evil, so I could explore other perspectives. This may seem like a silly choice to someone who’s never experienced that kind of conditioning, but it was very real to me at the time.

Giving myself permission to explore what I previously labeled as evil kicked off an incredible path of growth for me. I shed many false beliefs along the way, had my best year academically, and felt much freer and more alive. The best part was expanding my social circle to include non-Catholics and getting to know them. I dove into evil and found that it was nothing of the sort. It was simply freedom. I soon realized that I’d been brainwashed into thinking that an alternative path was evil by those who were invested in my lack of freedom and self-determination.

For me at the time, there was no other way out. I had to give myself permission to walk through the door labeled evil. That was the only exit I could see.

The Evil Exit

I later found that this is common in many belief systems. The interior of the belief system is frequently labeled good, while all of the exits are labeled evil (or variations thereof). So in order to escape, you have to do what you’ve been taught is evil. The more you accept these labels as real, the more trapped you become.

Which exits are labeled evil in your life right now? Which paths do people tell you are wrong, foolish, crazy, etc?

Is it possible that those paths aren’t actually evil? Is it possible that the so-called evil exit is actually the path to greater freedom? Is it possible that you’ve been conditioned to believe that such exits are evil by those who benefit from your lack of freedom? Who gains from your staying put?

Permission to Be Evil

Another situation where I had to choose the evil exit was leaving my marriage five years ago. Culturally speaking, ending a marriage, especially one with kids, is frowned upon, even though most married people eventually find themselves going that route.

That exit was covered with lots of evil-sounding labels. There’s a ton of social conditioning against leaving an unfulfilling marriage.

One thing that helped me, once again, was to give myself permission to be the bad guy. By this point I knew I wasn’t really doing something I felt was wrong, but allowing myself to be labeled as such anyway, and to accept and own that judgment both from myself and others, made it easier to move forward.

By giving myself permission to be evil instead of trying to resist or deny such a label, I was able to make what I felt was an intelligent choice, even if others might vehemently disagree. Sometimes I found it helpful to exaggerate the path in my own mind and to accept the exaggerated versions, which made it easier to accept the reality.

You’re so right — I’m a quitter!

Yup, I’m abandoning my kids. Total deadbeat!

Why yes… I’m doing this so I can sleep around. Such a slut!

Worst husband and father ever!

Yes indeedy… I’m evil! No good person would ever do this…

Being True to Your Own Values

Giving myself permission to choose the evil exit makes it easier to clarify and stay true to my own values, especially when my values diverge from socially conditioned values. I gain the freedom to choose the less popular path without drowning in struggle and resistance that would otherwise keep me stuck.

You see… from the perspective of someone with certain values that are in opposition to mine, I am in fact evil. Relatively speaking, the judgment is accurate. If I seem to be in denial about my obvious evilness, such people will often feel a strong need to criticize, condemn, or convert me. But if I simply agree with them — if I can “yes-and” their point of view — it saves us both a lot of time.

You cannot invalidate a perspective since a perspective is simply a lens through which reality can be viewed. In order to attempt falsification, you have to use a different lens than the original one. No lens can falsify another lens except an outside-in manner, meaning that falsification is lens-specific and certainly not universal. In fact the very notion of falsifiability only arises within certain lenses; without other lenses the notion of falsifiability is meaningless.

It is an artifact of many lenses, particularly persistent belief systems, to define the interior perspective as good, right, and correct and the exterior as bad, wrong, and evil. Subscribers are right. Non-subscribers are wrong.

To many people with certain religious beliefs, I’m evil because I don’t believe what they believe. I’m an outsider, a non-believer. I’m not saved. I’m going to hell. From within their belief system, these are reasonably accurate statements.

Isn’t it simplest to agree with them?

Yes, I’m evil.

When I die, I’ll be going to hell.

I’m here doing the Devil’s work. Muahahaha!

From my perspective as a long-term vegan, it would be simplest if the flesh-loving people in my life would simply admit that they’re evil. After all, from an ethical vegan’s perspective, it’s completely ludicrous that they should pretend to care about animals, the environment, etc. It would be more sensible for them to say, “Yeah, I totally don’t care about animals at all. Fuck animals! I’m evil and love seeing them tortured and killed for my pleasure.” That would be honest.

Your Relationship With Evil

In the absence of such pre-translated language, you can also do your own translation from another person’s preferred lenses into your own.

Go tell a devout Catholic that you’re an atheist, and don’t be so surprised when your statement gets internally translated as, “I’m a sinner.”

Or tell an ethical vegan about how you like having your favorite animal flesh prepared, and the internal translation of your statement may be, “I’m cruel and unkind.”

From an outsider’s perspective, you may be inclined to label these as unfair judgments. But from an insider’s perspective, they’re reasonably accurate observations.

For whichever doors in your life you may be labeling as evil or wrong, there are countless people who’ve already walked through similar doors and explored beyond them. The first question is: Will you walk through that door too? The second question is: Whether or not you walk through that door yourself, how will you relate to those who already have?

Exploring your own answers to these questions is a significant part of your life’s journey.

Exploring Alternatives

On your path of growth, you’re likely to find many doors labeled evil. It’s a label that one human lens often projects upon another. I think you’ll find as I have that many of these paths which are so labeled don’t actually conflict with your values when you explore them. It can take a lot of reflection to clarify whether or not a potential path conflicts with your values or not. Sometimes the easiest way to find out is to walk through the door and explore what’s on the other side. Then you’ll know.

Giving yourself permission to be evil means giving yourself permission to risk violating your own values. It means giving yourself the opportunity to test alternatives and to make mistakes.

Occasionally you may walk through a door labeled evil, explore the other side, and realize that it’s not for you. While there can be notable consequences to doing this in some cases, much of the time the potential negative consequences are overblown, and the exploration is well worth the learning and growth you’ll gain. Different lenses can distort the way consequences appear.

For instance, if you’re considering a divorce, the interior lens will tend to overplay the potential negative impact on your family. It may encourage you to believe that you’ll be the worst person on earth for causing terrible damage and destruction to a handful of people. This kind of belief can really keep you stuck.

The exterior perspective looks very different, however. By staying trapped in an unhappy situation, such a person is surely spreading stress and unhappiness to many more people and crushing their potential for decades of future contribution. Even if taking the exit door would indeed have a largely negative impact on their family, that consequence must be balanced against the many positive ripples that would be created by seeking a path of greater fulfillment… and inspiring others to do the same.

Take the Evil Door Sooner

On my own path of growth, I’ve learned that in those situations where I suspected that the grass might be greener on the other side, I was usually right. My intuition was accurate. The other side was indeed greener, happier, and more fulfilling. My biggest regrets are of the form: I wish I’d walked through the evil door sooner.

I’m glad I’ve taken risks to explore and clarify my values. Even when I’ve made mistakes, it’s hard to regret them in hindsight because I still learned a lot from my worst choices; they still helped to clarify my core values over time.

When you allow yourself to be evil, you gain the ability to float more freely between different lenses. Doors that are labeled evil exit transform into doors that are merely labeled exit. You’re pre-approved to walk through them without having to worry about judgment or resistance. This gives you the freedom to make more open-minded and conscious choices about which alternative paths to explore.

If you’re feeling stuck, trapped, or stagnant in your current situation, but all the exit doors from that place are labeled evil, then give yourself permission to be evil, and take one of those exits. Become the sinner… the quitter… the betrayer… the abandoner… the loser… the deadbeat… the failure. Wear those labels proudly. They’re all synonyms for explorer.

Steve Pavlina

 

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Consejos para mejorar nuestra vida espiritual con Julio Bevione.

17 Sep

Principios y finales

Me encantan los finales. Cada vez que lo digo en voz alta, algunos piensan que bromeo y otros, que lo que me gusta es el drama de esos momentos. En realidad, me gustan los finales porque estoy convencido que cada final, está continuado por un nuevo principio. Y que todos los cambios son favorables. Todos.

El miedo que trae un final, se mantiene porque especulamos que nada de lo que sigue será mejor. Quizás nublados por la culpa de lo no hecho, la frustración de lo que no fue, o simplemente como nos sentimos cómodos con lo que nos está sucediendo, nos negamos a ver más allá para descubrir que lo que sigue también está repleto de oportunidades.

En mi vida he conocido todo tipo de finales. Los geográficos con sus mudanzas, los generacionales con las edades, los financieros, los sentimentales, de relaciones laborales, los internos y hasta de creencias. Y todo final amenazó con ser negativo. Pero ante cada amenaza, me detuve. Y en esa quietud, pude reconocer cómo detrás de cada partecita vieja que caía, algo nuevo aparecía. Nuevo y mejor.

De lo que se va, nos queda la experiencia. Nada ocurre sin un propósito. Pero cuando ya tenemos la experiencia en la mano, la vida se lleva el resto. Quizás por eso, a veces, seguimos circulando por situaciones parecidas. Porque si no tomamos la experiencia, la vida sigue repitiéndola hasta que la logremos ver y asimilar. Y pareciera que cambiáramos, pero solo hay finales y nada nuevo comienza, solo repetimos. A veces con otras caras, en otros lugares, pero repetimos.

Cuando el próximo final se acerque, estemos atentos a lo que sucede con nosotros. Observémonos. Pongamos atención en apoyar ese final aceptando lo que ya no es, lo que se va. Pero no demoremos en abrir la mirada amplia hacia adelante. Porque siempre, siempre hay más.

Tips para llevar una vida más espiritual por Julio Bevione

 

El camino espiritual

Suelo encontrarme con personas que tratando de hacer un camino espiritual, devoran libros y buscar graduarse en uno y otro método. Pero también veo en algunas de ellas la ausencia de libertad, de paz y, aún más, de alegría, que serían la retribución que quienes hacen el camino espiritual pueden gozar. ¿Qué están haciendo, entonces?

Hacen lo que saben, lo que vieron y lo que pudieron hacer. No están equivocados, porque su búsqueda es honesta. Pero, quizás, el error está en el lugar donde están buscando. El espíritu vive en nosotros, por lo que todo intento de buscarlo en voces de otros, experiencias ajenas y fórmulas que no incluyen lo interno, solo nos desvían de camino. Un camino que tarde o temprano haremos, porque es inevitable que en nuestra vida, al menos un instante, sintamos la inconmensurable presencia que habita en cada uno. ¿Para que demorarnos?

No está en un lugar especial en el mundo.
No hay una filosofía universal que sea la correcta.
No hay un gurú que encierre toda la sabiduría.

El camino es individual, se hace poco a poco, usando como norte la energía del amor y como camino nuestra experiencia cotidiana. Sin escapar de nada ni de nadie, sino permitiendo que todo lo que vivimos nos hable de nosotros. Viéndonos en cada mirada. Volviendo a nosotros cada vez que nos perdamos en las vidas ajenas. Regresando al presente cuando el pasado o el futuro nos entretengan. Eligiendo, con voluntad y conciencia dejar pasar todo lo que no sume a la energía del amor. Eligiendo, con voluntad y conciencia, todo lo que nos sostenga en la energía del amor. Disfrutando de lo que la vida nos da en este momento mientras observamos las especulaciones hasta que pierdan fuerza. Eligiendo otra vez vivir en paz cada momento en que la perdemos. Haciéndonos cargo de nuestra grandeza para ejercerla en cada acto. Es decir, no confundiendo la humildad con la idea de nuestra imposible pequeñez. Y, sí, con humildad, reconociendo que mientras estemos caminando por este mundo, el error será una forma de aprendizaje. Un aprendizaje que es constante. No por falta de sabiduría, sino porque andamos muy distraídos. Cada vez más.

Saber menos, sentir más. Confiar en la fuerza que nos mueve y quitarle fuerza a las ilusiones que nos distraen. Tener voluntad de hacer el trabajo del amor en cada paso. Volver a hacerlo cuando nos olvidemos. Y seguir andando. Que nada de este mundo puede igualar a los regalos que sólo el espíritu puede darnos.

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.

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10 Tips For Raising Your Child In A Spiritual Way

14 Sep

In my book Don’t Die With Your Music Still in You, which I wrote with my father Wayne Dyer, we share our insights on family life with a spiritual bent. Using my father’s book 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace as a template, we describe the ways a spiritual focus can help children grow up feeling blessed and empowered:

1. Don’t Die with Your Music Still in You
Serena: There’s something I have heard my father say too many times to count: “You will never regret what you do in life; you will only regret what you don’t do.” Everything I have ever done has taught me something, whether it worked out or not. Sometimes the takeaway is simply knowing what I don’t want. Notice whether you are moving toward or away from what excites you. If you pay attention and let yourself be guided by your intuition, you won’t have to worry about dying with your music inside of you.


2. Have a Mind That Is Open to Everything and Attached to Nothing
Wayne: We become what we think about all day long—this is one of the greatest secrets that so many people are unaware of as they live out their life’s mission. What we think about is the business of our minds. If that inner invisibleness called our mind is closed to new ideas and infinite possibilities, it is equivalent to killing off the most important aspect of our very humanity. A mind that is open and unattached to any one particular way of being or living is like having an empty container that can allow new and endless possibilities to enter and be explored.
3. You Can’t Give Away What You Don’t Have
Serena: It may seem impossible now, but one day, we’ll all look back at the storms we have weathered and give a silent thank you. For many of us, it is the storms of our lives that have given us compassion, kindness, and gentleness that we otherwise may not have known—and that we can now give away to others, because they are inside of us.
4. Embrace Silence
Wayne: I have long known the wisdom inherent in the ancient aphorism, “It’s the silence between the notes that makes the music.” This is a truth that both my wife Marcelene and I attempted to convey to all of our children as we sought to make our home a temple of serenity and peace, amidst all of the activity of a large family. Everything emerges out of the silence.
5. Give Up Your Personal History
Serena: Our personal history is all the things in our background that keep us the same. If more of the same is not what we want, we have to let go of our history. When we do, we let go of all the beliefs we’ve had about ourselves—beliefs which may not even be true. In letting go of the past, you may find that you’re able to be more alive in the present. If you don’t like where you are in life, then you must change your way of thinking.
6. You Can’t Solve a Problem with the Same Mind That Created It
Wayne: I would regularly remind the children that their concept of themselves is nothing more than all of the things that they believe to be true. And if what they believe to be true is helping them to create situations in which they are unhappy or even unhealthy, they are then challenged to change what they have unwaveringly held on to as an absolute truth. This is very difficult for most people to do, and this is why so many stay stuck, because they would rather be right than happy.
7. There Are No Justified Resentments

Serena: Growing up, there was a five letter word beginning with a “b” that we were not allowed to say or use. No, I’m not talking about bitch; the real bad word in our household was blame. Dad has a zero-tolerance policy for resentment. He simply wouldn’t allow any of us to place blame on anyone or anything other than ourselves. Freedom comes in forgiveness and letting go. When you free yourself of your past resentments, you release yourself of the worry of the future.
8. Treat Yourself as If You Already Are What You’d Like to Be
Wayne: The greatest gift that any of us are granted is the gift of our imagination. Every single thing that now exists was once imagined, and the corollary of this assertion is that everything that is ever going to exist in the future must first be imagined. In my role as a father and a teacher I felt it was incumbent upon me to help my children understand and apply the phenomenal implications of this basic notion. “If you want to accomplish anything, you must first be able to expect it of yourself.”
9. Treasure Your Divinity
Serena: When we were little, my brothers and sisters and I were taught by our parents that God resided within each of us; that our divinity was not something we needed to go out and look for. Instead, we would find it when we looked within.
10. Wisdom Is Avoiding All Thoughts That Weaken You
Wayne: All I wanted for my sons and daughters, and all of those who read my books and attended my lectures, was to realize that they could always choose a thought that would empower them, as opposed to ones that make them fragile and weak. This is one of the greatest lessons we can all use each and every day of our lives: wisdom is avoiding all thoughts which weaken you. Or as the children heard me say so many times, “Your life is a product of all of the choices that you have made, so choose well.”

For some other lessons I learned from my father, read our book, Don’t Die With Your Music Still In You and watch this video of him reading a letter that I wrote:

A Daughter’s Message to Her Dad: Happy Father’s Day- Serena and Wayne Dyer

 

Serena J. Dyer is the sixth of Wayne and Marcelene Dyer’s eight children. Serena attended the University of Miami, where she received bachelor’s and master’s degrees, and now lives in South Florida with her fiancé. She spends her time traveling, reading, blogging, cooking, and working to combat child trafficking through several local organizations.