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Do You Control Your Thoughts?

19 Jun

Your life is not hopeless as there are many things that make life worth living. The point is: where do you wish to focus? On the half-empty glass or the half-full glass?

Thoughts are a double-edged sword. They are the foundations for the creative process and they are also the basis for turning our mindsets negative and even destructive. It is the same mind that creates the eternal art of Leonardo da Vinci, the mathematical genius of Albert Einstein and also the madness of Adolf Hitler.

It is now estimated that, on an average, 60,000 thoughts cross our minds every day. The sad part is that most of us have no control over our thoughts. One of the best attributes of a thought I have heard is that it is like mercury: you can never catch it! I think it is pretty much obvious why we should have some control over our thoughts; unless we do, we become their slave. The finest logical deduction I have read about how thoughts shape our destiny is by His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama. He says:

Take care of your Thoughts because they become Words.

Take care of your Words because they will become Actions.

Take care of your Actions because they will become Habits.

Take care of your Habits because they will form your Character.

Take care of your Character because it will form your Destiny.

And your Destiny will be your Life!

I don’t think there is anything more to be said on this topic after you have read, and absorbed, this simple elegant truth by one of the greatest spiritual masters of our times.

There is, however, one aspect of the thought process on which I wish to comment. It is the link between thoughts and depression, a syndrome that is endemic these days. The causes of depression are myriad but they get worsened by our recurring negative thoughts, which ensnare us.

Some of us have the ability to rationalize any untoward incident, but a large number cannot, and get sucked into depressive thoughts, which at the very worst, can virtually paralyze them. That antidepressants are among the largest selling pharmaceuticals only reflects how rampant depression is in our rootless societies where the anchor of a joint family system has been yanked out.

So, how does one try to control thoughts? One way to control anger is to count backwards from fifty to zero. Another method is to try to recall the happy moments of your life. Like memories of your childhood, the beautiful sunset that you last saw, the tender moments with your mother or the touch of your loved one.

It is not just enough to think of these as visuals; you should also feel these moments. If you do so, you will realize that your fit of depression is momentary. Your life is not hopeless as there are many things that make life worth living. The point is: where do you wish to focus? On the half-empty glass or the half-full glass?

Anupam Kher has a repertoire of over 450 films in a career spanning more than 25 years.



Encuentra tu propósito de vida

16 Jun

La gente que conocemos, las conversaciones que tenemos, los programas que vemos, los libros que leemos, todo en nuestro alrededor tiene una fuerte influencia en nuestra vida.

Pero con demasiada frecuencia, no nos tomamos el tiempo para evaluar el entorno en que vivimos y no nos aseguramos de que estén alineados con nuestros objetivos y propósitos de vida.

¿Pero cómo definir nuestros propósitos? Algunas personas los tienen muy claros pero otras van por la vida sin habérselos preguntado o encontrado.

Tú puedes encontrar el propósito de tu vida contestando estas simples preguntas:

  1. ¿Qué te inspira?
  2. ¿Qué te gusta hacer?¿Qué te apasiona? ¿Qué es único y original de lo que sabes?
  3. ¿Para quién lo haces?
  4. ¿Qué es lo que quieren o necesitan de ti?
  5. ¿Cómo cambian o se transforman las personas como resultado de lo que tú compartiste con ellos?

Ahora que tienes definido tu propósito también es importante que tengas muy claro: ¿Cuál es tu sueño o visión del futuro? Más información en cómo desarrollar tu visión.

El siguiente paso es enfocarte a lograr tu visión del futuro

En este proceso es importante tomar en consideración las siguientes tres señales de advertencia de cosas que necesitaras cambiar en tu travesía.

1) La gente alrededor de ti no está centrada en el crecimiento

Si siempre estás a la cabeza del grupo, entonces estás en el grupo equivocado. Es importante contar con las personas que tienen más experiencia que tú, de las que constantemente puedas aprender.

Si tú eres la “estrella”, la que constantemente piensas que brilla, tu crecimiento personal va a comenzar a aminorar. Si la gente que tienes a tu alrededor no tiene interés en crecer, es importante que encuentres grupos de expertos, de personas más exitosas que tú. Una forma rápida de hacer este cambio es encontrar una comunidad. Puede ser un foro en línea o un grupo de networking. Lo importante es identificar personas o grupos que te inspiren y de los que puedas aprender.

2) ¿Cuál fue tu último reto? Sal de tu apatía conformista

Dicen que si sientes que algo te incomoda es porque lo necesitas.“La vida comienza al salir de tu zona de confort”. Cada vez que ha sucedido algo importante en mi vida, es cuando me salí de mi zona de apatía y conformismo.

Para crecer necesitamos hacer cosas que nunca hemos hecho, algo que nos produce miedo o incertidumbre e inclusive cambiar nuestra forma de pensar y ver las cosas desde una perspectiva diferente. Dale la bienvenida al cambio y vence tus miedos.

3) No te despiertas emocionado

Solo tenemos una vida y si no te despiertas emocionado es el momento de cambiar. Construimos nuestro futuro con las acciones que realizamos diariamente. No hay botón de reinicio. Una vez que el tiempo se va, nunca regresa. Cada día deberíamos de levantarnos con ganas y entusiasmo trabajando en el futuro que queremos, construir haciendo algo que realmente nos importa.

Haz de cada lunes un viernes. Cuando haces lo que te interesa, todos los días son “fin de semana” pues disfrutas cada momento.

Tamara Medina Sapovalova es Business Confidence Coach, miembro de Tech London Advocates fundadora de Sapovalova Coaching y autora del libro “10 días, 10 acciones, 10 veces más productivo” publicado en ingles y español. Ha escrito en varias revistas y publicaciones internacionales.


Descubre cuál es tu propósito de vida – Marca Personal – Renata Roa Moreno.


Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.




5 Things Not to Do in the Morning | Jack Canfield and more…

13 Jun

When Success Is Slow, What Can You Do?

Pop Quiz: Can success be sped up? Is there an antidote to slow outcomes despite arduous planning and actions taken? What is the secret for seeing huge results right now?!

I get versions of these questions frequently from people who feel frustrated at sluggish progress in their success journey – despite all the know-how and principles they rigorously employ.

First, let’s get one thing straight…

When we admire someone’s success, or even our own, we often focus on the end result and not so much on the effort (and time) that it took to get there. This can cultivate unrealistic expectations, especially the idea that overnight success can happen through careful strategy and an execution of sound advice.

The truth be told, success typically follows a series of little events and achievements that can seem to take an eternity, that include a few disappointments along the way, and that challenge everything about you to the core – your stamina, courage, integrity, and even your willingness to keep going.

If you focus on what’s not working, guess what: You’re likely coming from a place of aggravation as your mind wraps around all that is wrong. You may even have negative thoughts like “I’m not good enough,” “It will never work,” or “Something must be wrong with me.” What this mentally does is engender more of these counter-productive feelings. And given what we know about the Law of Attraction, you attract what you are feeling. So negative experiences, people, and results will beget more negative experience, people, and results. There’s not much success in that.

The key, then, is to focus on what IS working. To do so, I recommend two simple practices: journaling and meditation.

Maintaining a journal (I call it an Evidence Log, Results Journal, or Gratitude Journal) is a great way to steer your attention to the positive and continually renew your vision for yourself.

Start each day with reflections on what you are grateful for in your life (list them out!) and end each day with notes on what went right (again, write them down), however small.

Meditation can be powerful tool for arriving at solutions to problems and shifting your attitude so you can attract success sooner rather than later. The magic of meditation is its ability to essentially shut down the outer layer of your judgmental, highly-critical brain and allow your unconscious mind to take over. This is where you enter a deeper state of inner peace and joy, tapping into a higher level of creativity that will help usher in the results you want.

Don’t know how to meditate? Lots of books and materials are available to guide you this practice. It’s easier than you think.

Okay, let’s say you’re doing ALL these things, but you still aren’t happy with your results. I’ll ask you, are you taking real ACTION?

You may be taking the actions you are used to taking. But therein lies the problem: if you keep doing what you’ve already done then you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten. It’s a matter of practicing some new behaviors. Shake things up a bit and see if you can take new actions or modify existing ones.

Remember the Rule of 5. Every day do five specific things that take you toward your goal. Change up the five actions regularly and be open to feedback so you know when you’re off course.

Lastly, I want to remind you about patience. It’s natural to underestimate how long a certain goal can take, especially a profound one. When I set a goal to become a millionaire the year was 1983. How long did it take? Eleven years. It took time for Chicken Soup for the Soul to hit the bestseller lists. You could say our tenure on the New York Times list was more than a decade in the making. That’s a lot of patience for someone who initially wanted overnight success.

So, yes, patience is a virtue. But keep at it, and in no time, you’ll be only one week, or one day away from your ultimate success.

Remember… be grateful, reflect on what IS working and continue to take ACTION!

© 2007 Jack Canfield

5 Things Not to Do in the Morning | Jack Canfield


Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.


Motivación para lograr nuestras metas

20 May

Esfuerzate – Will Smith



La herida emocional más profunda: El rechazo.

4 May

Hay heridas que no se ven pero que pueden arraigarse profundamente en nuestra alma y convivir con nosotros el resto de nuestros días.

Son las heridas emocionales, las huellas de los problemas vividos en la infancia y que determinan en ocasiones como será nuestra calidad de vida cuando seamos adultos.

Una de las heridas emocionales más profundas es la del rechazo porque quien la padece se siente rechazado en su interior, interpretando todo lo que sucede a su alrededor a través del filtro de su herida, sintiéndose rechazado en ocasiones aunque no lo sea.

Origen de la herida emocional del rechazo

Rechazar significa resistir, despreciar o denegar, lo que podemos traducir en “no querer” algo o a alguien.

Esta herida nace del rechazo de los padres hacia su hijo o en ocasiones, del sentirse rechazado por los progenitores, sin haber intención por parte de éstos.

Ante las primeras vivencias de rechazo se comenzará a crear una máscara para protegerse de este sentimiento tan desgarrador que va ligado a la infravaloración de uno mismo y que se caracteriza por una personalidad huidiza según las investigaciones llevadas a cabo por Lise Bourbeau. Así la primera reacción de la persona que se siente rechazada será huir por lo que no es raro que siendo niños se inventen un mundo imaginario.

En los casos de sobreprotección, más allá de la faceta superficial enmascarada de amor, el niño se percibirá como rechazado pues no es aceptado como es. El mensaje que le llega es que sus capacidades no son válidas y por eso tienen que protegerlo.

Cómo es la persona que tiene la herida del rechazo

A partir de las heridas emocionales sufridas en la infancia se conforma una parte de nuestra personalidad. Por ello, la persona que padece la herida del rechazo se caracteriza por infravalorarse y buscar la perfección a toda costa. Esta situación la llevará a una búsqueda constante delreconocimiento de los otros que le costará saciar.

Según Lisa Bourbeau, será con el progenitor del mismo sexo con el que más presente se hará esta herida y ante el que la búsqueda de amor y reconocimiento será más intensa, siendo muy sensible a cualquier comentario que proceda de él.

Las palabras “nada”, “inexistente” o “desaparecer” formarán parte su vocabulario habitual, confirmando la creencia y sensación del rechazo que tiene tan impregnada. De este modo, es normal que prefiera la soledad porque si recibe mucha atención habrá más posibilidades de ser despreciada. Si tiene que compartir experiencias con más gente, intentará pasar de puntillas, bajo el caparazón que se contruye, apenas sin hablar y si lo hace, tan solo será para infundirse valor a si misma.

Además, vive en una ambivalencia constante porque cuando es elegida no se lo cree y se rechaza a sí misma e incluso llega a sabotear la situación y cuando no lo es, se siente rechazada por los demás. Con el paso del tiempo, la persona que padece la herida del rechazo y no la sana, puede volverse rencorosa y llegar al odio, fruto del intenso sufrimiento vivido.

A mayor profundidad de la herida del rechazo, mayor probabilidad hay de ser rechazada o rechazar a los demás.

Sanar la herida emocional de rechazo

El origen de cualquier herida emocional proviene de la incapacidad de perdonar aquello que nos hacemos o nos hacen los demás.

Cuanto más profunda sea la herida del rechazo, mayor será el rechazo hacia si mismo o hacia los demás, el cual puede ocultarse tras la vergüenza. Además, habrá mayor tendencia a la huida, pero ésta tan solo es una máscara para protegerse del sufrimiento generado por esta herida.

La herida del rechazo se sana prestando especial atención a la autoestima, comenzando a valorarse y reconocerse por si mismo sin necesitar la aprobación de los demás. Para ello:

  • Un paso fundamental es aceptar la herida como parte de uno mismo para poder liberar todos los sentimientosatrapados. Si negamos la presencia de nuestro sufrimiento no podremos trabajar para sanarlo.

  • Una vez aceptada, el siguiente paso sería perdonar para liberarse del pasado. En primer lugar a nosotros mismos por el trato que nos damos y en segundo lugar a los demás, porque las personas que nos han herido probablemente también padezcan algún profundo dolor o una experiencia hiriente.

  • Comenzar a cuidarse con amor y priorizarse. Prestarnosatención y darnos el amor y el valor que merecemos es una necesidad emocional imprescindible para seguir creciendo.

Aunque no podemos borrar el sufrimiento vivido en el pasado, siempre podemos aliviar nuestras heridas y ayudar a que cicatricen para que su dolor desaparezca o al menos se alivie. Porque de acuerdo con lo que dijo Nelson Mandela de alguna manera somos capitanes de nuestra alma.

-Heridas de la infancia: cómo sanar la herida del rechazo



How to Create Life Balance Between Dreams and Habits

30 Abr

An Excerpt from Wayne Dyer’s Bestselling Book Being In Balance
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

The greatest achievement was at first and for a time a dream. The oak sleeps in the acorn; the bird sleeps in the egg; and in the highest vision of the soul, a waking angel stirs. Dreams are the seedlings of realities…”

One of the huge imbalances in life is the disparity between your daily existence, with its routines and habits, and the dream you have deep within yourself of some extraordinarily satisfying way of living.

In the quote that opens this [article], James Allen poetically explains that the dream is the magical realm out of which newly created life emerges. Buried within you is an unlimited capacity for creation, what Allen calls “a waking angel” that’s anxious to plant seedlings to fulfill your dreams and your destiny.

True imagination is not fanciful daydreaming, it is fire from heaven.”

I simply couldn’t resist adding the Ernest Holmes quote describing this dynamic imagination as “fire from heaven.”

They’re both appropriate invitations and reminders that you need to tend to that burning fire, the dream within you, if living a balanced life is important.

How This Imbalance Shows Up in Your Life
This absence of balance between dreams and habits may be very subtle. It doesn’t necessarily reveal itself in the obvious symptoms of heartburn, depression, illness, or anxiety—it’s more often something that feels like an unwelcome companion by your side, which continually whispers to you that you’re ignoring something.

There’s some often-unidentifiable task or experience that you sense is part of your beingness. It may seem intangible, but you can feel the longing to be what you’re intended to be. You sense that there’s a higher agenda; your way of life and your reason for life are out of balance. Until you pay attention, this subtle visitor will continue to prod you to regain your equilibrium.

Think of a balance scale with one side weighted down and the other side up, like a teeter-totter with an obese child on one end and a skinny kid on the other. In this case, the heavy end that tips the scale out of balance is the overweight kid representing your everyday behaviors: the work you do, the place where you reside, the people with whom you interact, your geographic location, the books you read, the movies you see, and the conversations that fill up your life.
It’s not that any of these things are bad in and of themselves. The imbalance exists because they’re unhealthy for your particular life—they simply don’t mesh with what you’ve imagined yourself to be.

When it’s unhealthy, it’s wrong, and on some level you feel that. When you live your life going through the motions, it may seem to be convenient, but the weight of your dissatisfaction creates a huge imbalance in the only life you have now.

You’re perplexed by the ever-present gnawing feeling of dissatisfaction that you can’t seem to shake, that pit-of-the-stomach sensation of emptiness. It shows up when you’re sound asleep and your dreams are filled with reminders of what you’d love to be, but you wake and return to pursuing your safe routine.

Your dreams are also demanding your attention in waking life when you’re petulant and argumentative with others, because in actuality you’re so frustrated with yourself that you try to relieve the pressure by venting anger outward.

Imbalance masquerades as a sense of frustration with your current lifestyle. If you allow yourself to think about this “fire from heaven,” you proceed to rationalize your status quo with explanations and mental meanderings that you know in your heart are excuses because you don’t think you have the tools to get in balance.

You may get to a point where you become increasingly hard on yourself and begin seeking medication and other treatment for feelings of inadequacy—and for what’s called depression. You’ll surely witness yourself feeling more and more angry and moody, with more frequent occurrences of minor afflictions such as colds, headaches, and insomnia. As time goes on in this state of imbalance, there’s less enthusiasm for what has become the drudgery of life.

Work is now even more routine, with even less purpose and drive. These blahs begin appearing in your behavior toward your family and those you love. You’re easily agitated, picking on others for no apparent reason. If you’re able to be honest with yourself, you recognize that your irritability stems from being out of balance with the bigger dream you’ve always had, but which is now apparently slipping away.

When these subtle symptoms surface, it’s crucial to explore the kind of energy you’re giving to the scale to create balance—or in this case, imbalance. The heavy angst is weighing down your reason for being—but you are the only one who can re-balance this scale of your life.

Here are some tools to help you return to a balanced life, beginning with recognizing the ways in which you may be sabotaging yourself.

How to Create Balance Between Dreams & Habits
Your desire to be and live from greatness is an aspect of your spiritual energy. In order to create balance in this area of your life, you have to use the energy of your thoughts to harmonize with what you desire. Your mental energy attracts what you think about. Thoughts that pay homage to frustration will attract frustration.

When you say or think anything resembling ‘There’s nothing I can do; my life has spun out of control, and I’m trapped,’ that’s what you’ll attract—that is, resistance to your highest desires!

Every thought of frustration is like purchasing a ticket for more frustration. Every thought that agrees that you’re stuck is asking the Universe to send you even more of that glue to keep you stuck.

The single most important tool to being in balance is knowing that you and you alone are responsible for the imbalance between what you dream your life is meant to be, and the daily habits that drain life from that dream.

You can create a new alignment with your mental energy and instruct the Universe to send opportunities to correct this imbalance.

When you do so, you discover that while the world of reality has its limits, the world of your imagination is without boundaries. Out of this boundless imagination comes the seedling of a reality that’s been crying out to be restored to a balanced environment.

Restoring the Balance Between Dreams & Habits
The objective of this principle is to create a balance between dreams and habits. The least complicated way to begin is to recognize the signs of habitual ways of being, and then learn to shift your thinking to being in balance with your dreams. So what are your dreams?

What is it that lives within you that’s never gone away? What inner night-light continues to glow, even if it’s only a glimmer, in your thoughts and dreams? Whatever it is, however absurd it may seem to others, if you want to restore the balance between your dreams and your habits, you need to make a shift in the energy that you’re contributing to your dreams.

If you’re out of balance, it’s primarily because you’ve energetically allowed your habits to define your life. Those habits, and the consequences thereof, are the result of the energy you’ve given them.

In the early stages of the re-balancing process, concentrate on this awareness: You get what you think about, whether you want it or not. Commit to thinking about what you want, rather than how impossible or difficult that dream may seem.

Give your personal dreams a place to hang out on the balance scale so that you can see them in your imagination and they can soak up the energy they deserve.

Thoughts Are Mental Currency — Spend It Wisely
Thoughts are mental energy; they’re the currency that you have to attract what you desire. You must learn to stop spending that currency on thoughts you don’t want, even though you may feel compelled to continue your habitual behavior.

You get what you think about, whether you want it or not. Commit to thinking about what you want, rather than how impossible or difficult that dream may seem.

Your body might continue, for a while, to stay where it’s been trained to be, but meanwhile, thoughts are being aligned with your dreams. The esteemed 19th-century writer Louisa May Alcott phrases this idea in an encouraging and inspiring manner:

Far away in the sunshine are my highest inspirations.
I may not reach them, but I can look up and see the beauty,
believe in them and try to follow where they lead…

Choosing to restore a semblance of balance between your dreams and your habits seems possible with Ms. Alcott’s phrases in mind: “look up and see,” and “believe in them.” The words bring to life an energetic alignment.

Rather than putting your thoughts on what is, or what you’ve habitually thought for a lifetime, you shift to looking up and seeing, and firmly believing in what you see.

When you begin to think in this manner, the Universe conspires to work with you, and sends you precisely what you’re thinking and believing. It doesn’t always happen instantaneously, but once the realignment is initiated in your thoughts, you’ve begun being in balance.

Reprinted with permission from the beautiful, newly reprinted Being in Balance, Hay House, Inc. (2016)


Una práctica de cinco minutos para manifestar y crear lo que quieras. Por Wayne Dyer


Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille



23 Abr

Honrado y agradecido de ser tu maestro de luz guiándote en tus procesos de vida para que sanes tus heridas reconociendo aquellos venenos que inconscientemente tenemos como son el apego, la ignorancia y el resentimiento.

Cuando sanamos estas energias que limitan nuestra conexión con el buen vivir nos damos el permiso de ser libres, autenticos, plenos abriendonos a recibir una prosperidad ilimitada.

Alfonso de León