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Motivación para lograr nuestras metas

20 May

Esfuerzate – Will Smith

 

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La herida emocional más profunda: El rechazo.

4 May

Hay heridas que no se ven pero que pueden arraigarse profundamente en nuestra alma y convivir con nosotros el resto de nuestros días.

Son las heridas emocionales, las huellas de los problemas vividos en la infancia y que determinan en ocasiones como será nuestra calidad de vida cuando seamos adultos.

Una de las heridas emocionales más profundas es la del rechazo porque quien la padece se siente rechazado en su interior, interpretando todo lo que sucede a su alrededor a través del filtro de su herida, sintiéndose rechazado en ocasiones aunque no lo sea.

Origen de la herida emocional del rechazo

Rechazar significa resistir, despreciar o denegar, lo que podemos traducir en “no querer” algo o a alguien.

Esta herida nace del rechazo de los padres hacia su hijo o en ocasiones, del sentirse rechazado por los progenitores, sin haber intención por parte de éstos.

Ante las primeras vivencias de rechazo se comenzará a crear una máscara para protegerse de este sentimiento tan desgarrador que va ligado a la infravaloración de uno mismo y que se caracteriza por una personalidad huidiza según las investigaciones llevadas a cabo por Lise Bourbeau. Así la primera reacción de la persona que se siente rechazada será huir por lo que no es raro que siendo niños se inventen un mundo imaginario.

En los casos de sobreprotección, más allá de la faceta superficial enmascarada de amor, el niño se percibirá como rechazado pues no es aceptado como es. El mensaje que le llega es que sus capacidades no son válidas y por eso tienen que protegerlo.

Cómo es la persona que tiene la herida del rechazo

A partir de las heridas emocionales sufridas en la infancia se conforma una parte de nuestra personalidad. Por ello, la persona que padece la herida del rechazo se caracteriza por infravalorarse y buscar la perfección a toda costa. Esta situación la llevará a una búsqueda constante delreconocimiento de los otros que le costará saciar.

Según Lisa Bourbeau, será con el progenitor del mismo sexo con el que más presente se hará esta herida y ante el que la búsqueda de amor y reconocimiento será más intensa, siendo muy sensible a cualquier comentario que proceda de él.

Las palabras “nada”, “inexistente” o “desaparecer” formarán parte su vocabulario habitual, confirmando la creencia y sensación del rechazo que tiene tan impregnada. De este modo, es normal que prefiera la soledad porque si recibe mucha atención habrá más posibilidades de ser despreciada. Si tiene que compartir experiencias con más gente, intentará pasar de puntillas, bajo el caparazón que se contruye, apenas sin hablar y si lo hace, tan solo será para infundirse valor a si misma.

Además, vive en una ambivalencia constante porque cuando es elegida no se lo cree y se rechaza a sí misma e incluso llega a sabotear la situación y cuando no lo es, se siente rechazada por los demás. Con el paso del tiempo, la persona que padece la herida del rechazo y no la sana, puede volverse rencorosa y llegar al odio, fruto del intenso sufrimiento vivido.

A mayor profundidad de la herida del rechazo, mayor probabilidad hay de ser rechazada o rechazar a los demás.

Sanar la herida emocional de rechazo

El origen de cualquier herida emocional proviene de la incapacidad de perdonar aquello que nos hacemos o nos hacen los demás.

Cuanto más profunda sea la herida del rechazo, mayor será el rechazo hacia si mismo o hacia los demás, el cual puede ocultarse tras la vergüenza. Además, habrá mayor tendencia a la huida, pero ésta tan solo es una máscara para protegerse del sufrimiento generado por esta herida.

La herida del rechazo se sana prestando especial atención a la autoestima, comenzando a valorarse y reconocerse por si mismo sin necesitar la aprobación de los demás. Para ello:

  • Un paso fundamental es aceptar la herida como parte de uno mismo para poder liberar todos los sentimientosatrapados. Si negamos la presencia de nuestro sufrimiento no podremos trabajar para sanarlo.

  • Una vez aceptada, el siguiente paso sería perdonar para liberarse del pasado. En primer lugar a nosotros mismos por el trato que nos damos y en segundo lugar a los demás, porque las personas que nos han herido probablemente también padezcan algún profundo dolor o una experiencia hiriente.

  • Comenzar a cuidarse con amor y priorizarse. Prestarnosatención y darnos el amor y el valor que merecemos es una necesidad emocional imprescindible para seguir creciendo.

Aunque no podemos borrar el sufrimiento vivido en el pasado, siempre podemos aliviar nuestras heridas y ayudar a que cicatricen para que su dolor desaparezca o al menos se alivie. Porque de acuerdo con lo que dijo Nelson Mandela de alguna manera somos capitanes de nuestra alma.

-Heridas de la infancia: cómo sanar la herida del rechazo

 

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How to Create Life Balance Between Dreams and Habits

30 Abr

An Excerpt from Wayne Dyer’s Bestselling Book Being In Balance
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Alignment

The greatest achievement was at first and for a time a dream. The oak sleeps in the acorn; the bird sleeps in the egg; and in the highest vision of the soul, a waking angel stirs. Dreams are the seedlings of realities…”
— JAMES ALLEN

One of the huge imbalances in life is the disparity between your daily existence, with its routines and habits, and the dream you have deep within yourself of some extraordinarily satisfying way of living.

In the quote that opens this [article], James Allen poetically explains that the dream is the magical realm out of which newly created life emerges. Buried within you is an unlimited capacity for creation, what Allen calls “a waking angel” that’s anxious to plant seedlings to fulfill your dreams and your destiny.

True imagination is not fanciful daydreaming, it is fire from heaven.”
— ERNEST HOLMES

I simply couldn’t resist adding the Ernest Holmes quote describing this dynamic imagination as “fire from heaven.”

They’re both appropriate invitations and reminders that you need to tend to that burning fire, the dream within you, if living a balanced life is important.

How This Imbalance Shows Up in Your Life
This absence of balance between dreams and habits may be very subtle. It doesn’t necessarily reveal itself in the obvious symptoms of heartburn, depression, illness, or anxiety—it’s more often something that feels like an unwelcome companion by your side, which continually whispers to you that you’re ignoring something.

There’s some often-unidentifiable task or experience that you sense is part of your beingness. It may seem intangible, but you can feel the longing to be what you’re intended to be. You sense that there’s a higher agenda; your way of life and your reason for life are out of balance. Until you pay attention, this subtle visitor will continue to prod you to regain your equilibrium.

Think of a balance scale with one side weighted down and the other side up, like a teeter-totter with an obese child on one end and a skinny kid on the other. In this case, the heavy end that tips the scale out of balance is the overweight kid representing your everyday behaviors: the work you do, the place where you reside, the people with whom you interact, your geographic location, the books you read, the movies you see, and the conversations that fill up your life.
It’s not that any of these things are bad in and of themselves. The imbalance exists because they’re unhealthy for your particular life—they simply don’t mesh with what you’ve imagined yourself to be.

When it’s unhealthy, it’s wrong, and on some level you feel that. When you live your life going through the motions, it may seem to be convenient, but the weight of your dissatisfaction creates a huge imbalance in the only life you have now.

You’re perplexed by the ever-present gnawing feeling of dissatisfaction that you can’t seem to shake, that pit-of-the-stomach sensation of emptiness. It shows up when you’re sound asleep and your dreams are filled with reminders of what you’d love to be, but you wake and return to pursuing your safe routine.

Your dreams are also demanding your attention in waking life when you’re petulant and argumentative with others, because in actuality you’re so frustrated with yourself that you try to relieve the pressure by venting anger outward.

Imbalance masquerades as a sense of frustration with your current lifestyle. If you allow yourself to think about this “fire from heaven,” you proceed to rationalize your status quo with explanations and mental meanderings that you know in your heart are excuses because you don’t think you have the tools to get in balance.

You may get to a point where you become increasingly hard on yourself and begin seeking medication and other treatment for feelings of inadequacy—and for what’s called depression. You’ll surely witness yourself feeling more and more angry and moody, with more frequent occurrences of minor afflictions such as colds, headaches, and insomnia. As time goes on in this state of imbalance, there’s less enthusiasm for what has become the drudgery of life.

Work is now even more routine, with even less purpose and drive. These blahs begin appearing in your behavior toward your family and those you love. You’re easily agitated, picking on others for no apparent reason. If you’re able to be honest with yourself, you recognize that your irritability stems from being out of balance with the bigger dream you’ve always had, but which is now apparently slipping away.

When these subtle symptoms surface, it’s crucial to explore the kind of energy you’re giving to the scale to create balance—or in this case, imbalance. The heavy angst is weighing down your reason for being—but you are the only one who can re-balance this scale of your life.

Here are some tools to help you return to a balanced life, beginning with recognizing the ways in which you may be sabotaging yourself.

How to Create Balance Between Dreams & Habits
Your desire to be and live from greatness is an aspect of your spiritual energy. In order to create balance in this area of your life, you have to use the energy of your thoughts to harmonize with what you desire. Your mental energy attracts what you think about. Thoughts that pay homage to frustration will attract frustration.

When you say or think anything resembling ‘There’s nothing I can do; my life has spun out of control, and I’m trapped,’ that’s what you’ll attract—that is, resistance to your highest desires!

Every thought of frustration is like purchasing a ticket for more frustration. Every thought that agrees that you’re stuck is asking the Universe to send you even more of that glue to keep you stuck.

The single most important tool to being in balance is knowing that you and you alone are responsible for the imbalance between what you dream your life is meant to be, and the daily habits that drain life from that dream.

You can create a new alignment with your mental energy and instruct the Universe to send opportunities to correct this imbalance.

When you do so, you discover that while the world of reality has its limits, the world of your imagination is without boundaries. Out of this boundless imagination comes the seedling of a reality that’s been crying out to be restored to a balanced environment.

Restoring the Balance Between Dreams & Habits
The objective of this principle is to create a balance between dreams and habits. The least complicated way to begin is to recognize the signs of habitual ways of being, and then learn to shift your thinking to being in balance with your dreams. So what are your dreams?

What is it that lives within you that’s never gone away? What inner night-light continues to glow, even if it’s only a glimmer, in your thoughts and dreams? Whatever it is, however absurd it may seem to others, if you want to restore the balance between your dreams and your habits, you need to make a shift in the energy that you’re contributing to your dreams.

If you’re out of balance, it’s primarily because you’ve energetically allowed your habits to define your life. Those habits, and the consequences thereof, are the result of the energy you’ve given them.

In the early stages of the re-balancing process, concentrate on this awareness: You get what you think about, whether you want it or not. Commit to thinking about what you want, rather than how impossible or difficult that dream may seem.

Give your personal dreams a place to hang out on the balance scale so that you can see them in your imagination and they can soak up the energy they deserve.

Thoughts Are Mental Currency — Spend It Wisely
Thoughts are mental energy; they’re the currency that you have to attract what you desire. You must learn to stop spending that currency on thoughts you don’t want, even though you may feel compelled to continue your habitual behavior.

You get what you think about, whether you want it or not. Commit to thinking about what you want, rather than how impossible or difficult that dream may seem.
— DR. WAYNE DYER

Your body might continue, for a while, to stay where it’s been trained to be, but meanwhile, thoughts are being aligned with your dreams. The esteemed 19th-century writer Louisa May Alcott phrases this idea in an encouraging and inspiring manner:

Far away in the sunshine are my highest inspirations.
I may not reach them, but I can look up and see the beauty,
believe in them and try to follow where they lead…
— LOUISA MAY ALCOTT

Choosing to restore a semblance of balance between your dreams and your habits seems possible with Ms. Alcott’s phrases in mind: “look up and see,” and “believe in them.” The words bring to life an energetic alignment.

Rather than putting your thoughts on what is, or what you’ve habitually thought for a lifetime, you shift to looking up and seeing, and firmly believing in what you see.

When you begin to think in this manner, the Universe conspires to work with you, and sends you precisely what you’re thinking and believing. It doesn’t always happen instantaneously, but once the realignment is initiated in your thoughts, you’ve begun being in balance.

Reprinted with permission from the beautiful, newly reprinted Being in Balance, Hay House, Inc. (2016)

 

Una práctica de cinco minutos para manifestar y crear lo que quieras. Por Wayne Dyer

 

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille

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SANA LOS 3 VENENOS DEL ALMA

23 Abr

Honrado y agradecido de ser tu maestro de luz guiándote en tus procesos de vida para que sanes tus heridas reconociendo aquellos venenos que inconscientemente tenemos como son el apego, la ignorancia y el resentimiento.

Cuando sanamos estas energias que limitan nuestra conexión con el buen vivir nos damos el permiso de ser libres, autenticos, plenos abriendonos a recibir una prosperidad ilimitada.

Alfonso de León

 

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3 Secrets to Manifesting Your Heart’s Desire

20 Abr

We all do it. We wish, we dream, we hope. It’s a great part of our humanity to be able to imagine our life differently but, being human, only we can wish something and then not make it happen! Why do we spend so much time thinking about the things we want instead of acting on them?

Wait, I can act on my dreams? I can make them happen? Of course you can! The key is believing in yourself and knowing where to start. In this short video (2:14), best-selling author and celebrated visionary guide Sonia Choquette lets you in on the three techniques you need to succeed in manifesting your heart’s desires. The third technique is going to shock you, it’s so simple yet it is the crucial thing most of us never do.

Now that you know these three techniques it does seem so scary, does it?!

 

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¿En que me puede ayudar un Coach financiero?

17 Abr

Las deudas y la crisis financiera en un hogar son situaciones que le tocan hasta el más alto ejecutivo y que si no se controlan a tiempo, pueden traer grandes pérdidas.

Son pocos los que se atreven a hablar de este tema y muchas veces resulta ser un tabú inmerso en la sociedad, donde se cree que la única solución sólo está entre los integrantes de la familia… y sí, puede que en algunos casos se logre solucionar de esta manera; pero muchas otras necesitan una ayuda de terceros.

Un coach financiero ofrece las estrategias que necesitas para poner tus finanzas en forma y lograr tus metas. Toma nota de los consejos que te da un experto y logra tus objetivos.
Un coach financiero es una persona que te ofrece las estrategias que necesitas para poner tus finanzas en forma y lograr tus metas.

Sin embargo, no es lo mismo que un asesor financiero. El asesor te dice específicamente qué productos comprar, mientras que el coach te educa y entrena para que puedas tomar decisiones correctas. Además, te ayuda desde lo básico: presupuesto, fondo de emergencia, cancelación de deudas, cubierta apropiada de seguros y estrategia de inversión.

En este proceso, el coach se enfoca en la educación y la motivación para que realices planes alcanzables y puedas cumplirlos.

Una buena meta es alcanzar la libertad financiera y aquí te entregamos una lista de enseñanzas que recibirías en un plan de coaching financiero. Toma nota y focaliza tu actitud:

1. Establece una meta
Tu primer objetivo no tiene que ser enorme, pero debe ser suficientemente significativo para que tengas una mejor posición financiera de la que tienes actualmente.

2. Mantén el control sobre el gasto.
No hay nada más peligroso que el gasto excesivo para poner en peligro tus planes de alcanzar la libertad financiera. Una forma de controlarlo es mirar durante un mes las proyecciones de ganancias y decidir lo que hay que comprar y lo que puede esperar.

3. Ahorra con pasión.
Tienes que ser un apasionado de tus ahorros a fin de hacer progresos sustanciales y mantenerte impulsado.

Para alcanzar tu meta de libertad financiera, primero hay que hacer sacrificios. Desarrolla un objetivo de ahorro mensual con una cifra realista y utiliza la disciplina para llegar a él.

4. Evita errores de alto costo.
Todos somos culpables de al menos un error financiero grande en nuestro pasado. Si puedes evitar los errores de alto costo y mantener la atención en tus prioridades y objetivos, podrás continuar en tu camino sin interrupción.

Recuerda que tu actitud hacia cada problema, determina el éxito o el fracaso en superarlos.

5. Invierte con diligencia.
No tienes que ser un corredor de bolsa para saber cómo invertir. Todo lo que necesitas es un poco de auto-educación y el deseo de hacerlo. Puedes empezar con un plan de ahorro o de pensiones.

6. Planifica tus movimientos financieros con prudencia.
Una mala planificación en tus finanzas puede ser devastadora. Intenta evitar los créditos y si los tienes, busca cómo amortizarlos mes con mes hasta eliminarlos.

7. Sé creativo en tu búsqueda.
Las mentes creativas siempre están un paso adelante. Si puedes encontrar una manera de ganar más, aumentando tu productividad, entonces intenta poner todos los medios en hacerlo. La creación de una empresa o producto que abastece a las masas es la clave.

Recuerda que todos los grandes negocios comienzan con una pequeña idea creativa.

 

¿Qué hace exactamente un coach financiero?

 

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.

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How to Really Empower Women

14 Abr

Why financial intelligence is the key to female strength

“Fearless Girl” means many things to many people, but to me it’s an important symbol of female strength in the face of the often-intimidating financial world.

For over two decades, I’ve been in the business of helping women find the tools and inspiration to lift themselves out of their present circumstances and achieve great things. From day one, I’ve believed that the best way to encourage female strength and independence is by helping them increase their financial IQ

If we all could be like “Fearless Girl”, standing proud and confident as we stare down our fears and challenges when it comes to money, then I have no doubt that the world would become a much better, more united place.

All it takes for us to get there is finding our courage, and building up our confidence in ourselves.

Control your money
Female empowerment encompasses many different things, but for me it all hinges on a basic and total control of your finances. When women are in control of their money, they have the freedom and power to make their own decisions, without anything or anyone standing in their way.

Many women are held back from controlling their money, for many reasons. I often hear women complaining that they can’t invest because their husband won’t let them. I am always astounded when I hear this, wondering how women ever got into the situation where they had to ask their spouse’s permission to pursue financial freedom.

Other women who earn their own money believe that they don’t make enough to begin their financial journey. But as Robert and I have said time and time again, it’s not a lack of money that holds people back, it’s a lack of education.

With a greater financial IQ, and understanding of how money works, women everywhere could discover their own path to financial freedom. If women claimed this knowledge and strength for themselves, the gender pay gap would disappear completely.

What is financial IQ?
Financial intelligence, or financial IQ, is made up of knowledge from four broad areas of expertise:

1. Accounting
Accounting is financial literacy or the ability to read numbers. It’s fundamental to understanding every facet of your finances. Without the ability to read and understand financial statements, assess your income and liability statements, and identify strengths and weaknesses, you will have no hope of being in control of your money.

2. Investing
Investing is the science of “money making money.” This involves understanding the different asset classes and learning everything you can about the different types of investing. Once you know how to grow your money through investing, you will be on the path to financial freedom.

3. Understanding markets
Understanding markets is the science of supply and demand. You need to know the technical aspects of the market, which are emotion-driven, in addition to the fundamental or economic aspects of an investment. Does an investment make sense or does it not make sense based on current market conditions?

4. The law
A person who understands the tax advantages and protections provided by a corporation can get rich so much faster than someone who is an employee or a small-business sole proprietor. It’s like the difference between someone walking and someone flying. The difference is profound when it comes to long-term wealth.

Increase your IQ
Unfortunately, the things that make up financial IQ, are the very things that send many women running in the opposite direction. We often fear what we don’t understand, and for women who weren’t taught about finances in school, skated by in life until they got married and then allowed their spouses to control the money, these four areas are terrifyingly foreign.

But in the end, knowledge is power, and the first step to controlling your finances is being able to understand them. You will never be truly free and independent until you are able to confidently understand and wield your money.

All it takes is determination and education. Like “Fearless Girl”, you can stare down your fear and find your power.

Begin by studying and learning about the four different areas of financial IQ. Increase your financial literacy using our Rich Dad Glossary. Learn the language of money and start applying it by examining financial statements. Don’t be afraid of numbers; conquer them, and learn to read the story they tell.

Next, learn about the different investment classes. Find one you’re interested and learn everything you can about it. Take classes, read books, find a mentor who has successfully invested in the same assets you are interested in. Little by little, build your knowledge until you are ready to invest.

Begin following the markets. Keep up to date with new developments. Study the way they change based on global events and emotions. Find how they impact your investment class of choice.

Finally, meet with a lawyer who specializes in tax codes and take them to lunch. Make sure you find a knowledgeable and honest lawyer you can trust who can teach you how the rich legally use tax codes and corporations to their advantage.

All of these are small steps that, when combined, make great strides towards independence and financial freedom.

Support the women in your life
Support the women in your life today by encouraging them to take the steps towards financial freedom. No matter your age, career, or financial situation, every woman has the ability to improve her financial situation. We are stronger together, and by helping one woman find her strength, we all find our power.

 

Kim Kiyosaki: The steps women should take to financial independence

 

 

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.