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TO MANIFEST YOUR DESIRES – REWRITE YOUR PAST!

6 Jun

When you think about your past, what  makes the old you that lived your old story and your memory of the experiences come alive? Do certain smells trigger a memory? What about music? A song can remind you of a moment in time where you were changed forever. But were you frozen in time? Do you still tell the old story the same way?

Memory is more than just a story – it’s a living part of us and can determine how successful we will be in manifesting our desires for a better life by how strongly we still identify with the self that experienced the past.

Last night Marc and me sat down to watch the Rock N Roll Hall of Fame’s annual award show on TV. It was amazing how all the bands and artists as different as they were had played such an important role as the soundtrack of my life from as early as age 14 to well into my 30’s marking significant moments of feeling like I didn’t belong, growing up, getting really lost, hitting bottom, claiming freedom and finding the broken pieces of myself I left behind in the wake of my becoming.

And (I am really dating myself here) songs from the band Yes to Journey to the late Tupac Shakur, producer Nile Rogers, to Pearl Jam all reminded me of painful moments that are memories that I have long since re-written.

Listening to these important songs ( to me) reminded me how disconnected I had been at one time and another in my life, always searching, yearning for something I didn’t know was inside me trying to find answers for the suffering and abuse but coming up empty. The old me was someone who was ashamed, unworthy, feisty without self esteem, looking for a rescue without respect for the ones who tried. How different things are now.

Those same songs are like sacred journey markers too. I can go back to those moments as I am today and re-write the story from a perspective of empowerment and humility rather than powerless and humiliation.

I have already done that and I went to bed pondering this very thing deeply grateful for the work I put in. The past can be such a sticky place and until we deal with it how many of us trap ourselves like bugs in amber?

The secret to moving forward and co-creating a better life is to set yourself free from the stories you tell about your past.

  • Can you forgive and release your resentments?
  • Can you practice radical acceptance?

Can you relate to this at all? Manifesting is the art of calling essence into being, the invisible into the tangible  and it requires the essence of your desire to be devoid of baggage.

The arrow you shoot to hit your mark needs to soar through the air on the winds of gratitude and joy. We discover the gifts through curiosity and innocence.  How can we expect to be happy if we keep reclaiming the victim, the unlovable, the entitlement, and the expectation that others will always disappoint?

Truth is.. If you or I still play a song and cringe with shame or cling to a nostalgia for the good old days there is still work to do. Loving things as they are, as you are, right here in this moment, releasing our need to see ourselves as victims of our past is a responsibility that is true. Who will you become without telling the tale of woe?

If you are committed to manifest your desires, see your past through a new pair of eyes. Tell the new story often enough and you will reap the greatest rewards. Then when you hear that song… you will smile and know you have always been loved and Spirit has always had your back.

Love you always!!

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OM MANI PADME HUM el mantra de la transformación.

11 May

OM MANI PADME HUM

Cada sílaba de Om Mani Padme Hung nos permite cerrar la puerta a renacimientos en alguno de los seis ámbitos que componen la existencia cíclica:-OM: Cierra la puerta de los renacimientos desde el mundo de los devas.-MA: Cierra la puerta de los asuras.-NI: Cierra la puerta de los humanos.-PAD: Cierra la puerta de los animales.-ME: Cierra la puerta de los espíritus hambrientos (pretas).-HUNG: Cierra la puerta del infierno. 

Cada sílaba purifica de una forma:-OM: Purifica el velo del cuerpo.-MA: Purifica el velo del habla.-NI: Purifica el velo de la mente.-PAD: Purifica el velo de las emociones conflictivas.-ME: Purifica el velo del condicionamiento latente.-HUNG: Purifica el velo que cubre el conocimiento. 

Cada sílaba es por sí misma un mantra:-OM: Por el cuerpo de los Budas.-MA: Por la palabra de los Budas.-NI: Por la mente de los Budas.-PAD: Por las virtudes de los Budas.-ME: Por los actos de los Budas.-HUNG: Por la suma de la gracia del cuerpo, el habla, la mente, la virtud y la actividad de los Budas. 

Cada sílaba se corresponde con las seis Paramitas o Perfecciones transcendentales:-OM: Generosidad.-MA: Ética.-NI: Paciencia.-PAD: Diligencia.-ME: Concentración.-HUNG: Sabiduría.

Cada sílaba se relaciona también con los seis Budas:-OM: Ratnasambhava.-MA: Amaoghasiddi.-NI: Vajradhara.-PAD: Vairocana.-ME: Amitabha.-HUNG: Akshobya.

Cada sílaba del mantra purifica un defecto:-OM: Orgullo.-MA: Envidia / Deseo de ser entretenido.-NI: Deseo pasional.-PAD: Estupidez / Prejuicio.-ME: Pobreza / Posesividad.-HUNG: Agresividad / Odio.

Finalmente, cada sílaba está relacionada con las seis sabidurías:-OM: Sabiduría de la ecuanimidad.-MA: Sabiduría de la actividad.-NI: La sabiduría que surge de sí misma.-PAD: La sabiduría del Dharma.-ME: La sabiduría de la discriminación.-HUNG: La sabiduría semejante a un espejo.

 

El propio Dalai Lama, Su Santidad el Boddhisatva de la Compasión, explica:”Es muy bueno recitar el mantra Om Mani Padme Hum, pero mientras lo haces debes estar pensando en su significado, porque el significado de las seis sílabas es grande y vasto.

Este mantra es muy especial ya que se encarna la esencia de la compasión de Buda hacia todos los seres vivos. Sus seis palabras tiene una virtud específica y poderosa para provocar la transformación en distintos aspectos de nuestro ser. Nos limpia de los peligros mundanos como la ignorancia, el orgullo, los celos, el deseo, la codicia y la ira, transformándolos en obras de buen corazón, mente iluminada y una conducta armoniosa. Es una poderosa protección contra toda clase de influencias negativas y contra las distintas formas de enfermedad. Su pronunciación la cantaremos en Tibetano que te ayuda a despertar tu intuición y a consagrar la energía donde te encuentres. Sumado a la fe y al esfuerzo de meditación se puede purificar los oscurecimientos del cuerpo, el habla y la mente, llevando a todos los seres al estado de la realización. Debe ser recitado 9 veces, en sus respectivos múltiples a 108 veces.

Om Mani Padme Hum – Versión Original – Mantras Tibetanos

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.

 

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La poderosa luna llena en Escorpión más la luna de Buda este 10 de mayo 2017

8 May

Estamos avanzando hacia una Luna Llena muy poderosa.  La Luna Llena del mes de Tauro es un momento celestial particular: se trata de la Luna de Wesak o Luna de Buda, momento del año en que el Gran Espíritu desciende sobre la Tierra y lanza sus bendiciones según las demandas del hombre, a través del Buda y los iluminados. Es tiempo de darnos nueva luz. Tiempo de transformación. Tiempo de renacimiento.

La Luna Llena de Tauro, que siempre se forma bajo la energía de su signo opuesto, Escorpio, es un momento celestial muy particular. Se trata de la Luna de Wesak o Luna de Buda, momento del año en que, según la cultura de Oriente, el Gran Espíritu desciende sobre la Tierra y lanza sus bendiciones según las demandas del hombre, a través del Buda y los iluminados.

Por eso, cada Luna Llena en Escorpio, como la que se forma precisamente este próximo 10 de Mayo 2017, tiene una especial energía sagrada y por eso debemos prepararnos : es tiempo de recibir la bendición de Buda y expandir su ser adentro nuestro.

Si realmente encontramos ese espacio en el centro de nuestro Ser, ese centro que somos hoy y cuya voz transmite los contenidos del inconsciente, entonces podremos percibir lo que ahora nuestra alma necesita integrar para vibrar verdadera paz y crecer en felicidad.

La bendición de la Luna de Wesak renueva toda nuestra energía. Y esa renovación es renacimiento. Por eso, más que nunca, dedícate un tiempo a leer este post y a observarte, contemplar tu aquí y ahora y encontrar ese espacio adentro tuyo que esta transformándose.

La luna llena en Escorpión y su energía

Cuando llegamos a la Luna Llena (14 días después de la Luna Nueva), el Sol y la Luna están en oposición, es decir, el Sol en un signo astrológico (en este caso Tauro) y la Luna en su opuesto (Escorpio).

Los días de Luna Llena forman el momento más intenso del mes, porque el Sol y la Luna se enfrentan, y nosotros desde la Tierra estamos en el medio de ese enfrentamiento recibiendo ambas energías, que son opuestas y complementarias. Por eso, durante la Luna Llena podemos crear Conciencia a partir de la integración de ambas fuerzas.

Bien. Cuando se formó la última Luna Nueva, comenzamos un ciclo de 28 días en los que la energía nos mueve a dar forma a lo nuevo para manifestar una nueva estructura en la realidad. El mes de Tauro nos conduce a crear las bases fundamentales para dar vida material a ese deseo que hasta ahora habitaba en el universo de la Intuición (energía inmaterial). Es ahora que comenzamos ver su forma, a percibirlo con nuestros cinco sentidos.

Así, el mes de Tauro nos regala tiempo para crear la nueva estructura del año. Por eso, ahora es el momento de enfocarnos en producir lo nuevo, darle forma con las propias manos, animarnos a ir más lento para ser más sólidos, para satisfacer las necesidades que aquí y ahora piden concretarse, y que nos brindan seguridad y estabilidad.

No somos siempre iguales, sino todo lo contrario. La vida es cambio, y nosotros cambiamos constantemente. Por eso, es muy importante poder anclar en el presente y observar todo aquello que hoy se presenta como necesidad para vivir bien.

Es tiempo de tomar conciencia acerca de nuestra fuente de energía y nuestro poder para crear estructuras materialmente perceptibles que sean afines a nuestra identidad. Sea un trabajo, una pareja, un proyecto de viaje, casa, familia, nada es verdaderamente nuevo si se vive desde viejas actitudes o patrones de conducta. Por eso, la transformación emocional que esta Luna Llena en Escorpio 2017 nos trae, es la oportunidad de sintonizar nuestro mundo sensible, nuestras emociones, con la nueva estructura que ahora comienza a tomar cuerpo. Es en esta Luna Llena que podemos ver realmente lo que necesitamos soltar para materializar ese cambio deseado que se vuelve más real.

La energía de Escorpio nos irradia poder para la iluminación de la oscuridad, la indagación del inconsciente, el contacto con los temas tabúes y con todo aquello que hemos tapado durante los últimos meses. Ahora es tiempo de destapar todo eso y permitir soltar emociones viejas y estancadas, porque el cambio ya está frente a nosotros, lo podemos ver y percibir, ya es parte de nuestra realidad. Es ahora que tenemos la oportunidad de asimilar dolores, tristezas, miedos, para que, de esa manera, podamos elegir soltarlos, despedirnos de esa versión de nosotros mismos, desapegarnos de lo que ya no nos calza, liberarnos y transformarnos desde adentro.

Toda esta energía psíquica que Escorpio mueve es muy intensa. Por eso, esta Luna Llena en Escorpio trae emociones intensas, y es posible que estemos más sensibles, tensos, inestables y tal vez con cierto miedo. Es natural. Así es toda transformación: intensamente maravillosa si nos animamos a soltar, entregarnos y dejarnos fluir para dejar atrás el pasado y permitir la evolución.

Entonces, conecta con aquello que está mutando adentro de tu Ser, aquello que necesita morir, aquello que es necesario soltar porque ya es parte del pasado.

Conecta con la maravilla del cambio y la transformación, porque al entregarnos a ese proceso participamos conscientemente de nuestro renacimiento, la nueva vida, el nuevo ciclo que emerge cuando nos entregamos a lo que el Universo nos brinda. Visualiza el desapego al pasado, las emociones que ya no pueden ser parte de tu presente, sencillamente porque has cambiado. Acéptalo.

Cultiva la aceptación y el perdón, y todo lo necesario para impulsar la transformación del presente. Si te permites soltar lo viejo, entonces verás brotar la nueva vida.

Esta Luna Llena nos invita a meditar sobre la integración de la Luz y la Sombra, el Cuerpo y la Emoción, la Estructura y la Transformación. Y la importancia de la transmutación emocional para dar vida y fuerza al cambio presente. Permitir el cambio es materializar la evolución de nuestra alma.

Preparación para la Luna Llena de Wesak

Tradicionalmente, según el Budismo, Siddhartha Gautama fue el primer ser dentro del Planeta Tierra que alcanzó la liberación: adquirió los poderes de la Luz y la Conciencia. En este sentido, hizo un voto ante el Logos Solar, prometiendo regresar a la Tierra para bendecir al mundo, manejando la fuerza cósmica, cada año, en la Luna Llena del mes de Tauro.

La Luna Llena del mes de Tauro siempre se forma en Escorpio. Su energía cambia nuestra atmósfera, y según la tradición budista, se introducen en las capas etéricas del Planeta unos átomos pertenecientes a otras dimensiones del espacio. Ello produce la polarización de la Conciencia en niveles superiores, presupone una aspiración superior de parte del individuo, y un gran poder invocativo. Es tiempo para generar paz, silencio, un nuevo orden interno, una nueva armonía. Y ello, para el budismo, es la mejor devoción que podemos dedicarle al señor Buda.

En estos días previos a la Luna Llena de Wesak, el Día del Buda, es importante abrir nuestros  cuatro centros, cuatro cuerpos, las cuatro funciones de conciencia:

  • Centro Creativo : Cuerpo Espiritual : Conciencia Intuitiva
  • Centro Material : Cuerpo Físico : Conciencia Sensorial
  • Centro Intelectual : Cuerpo Mental : Conciencia de los Pensamientos
  • Centro Emocional : Cuerpo Psíquico : Conciencia Emocional

Es importante poner especial atención en el desarrollo del poder de materialización. Para eso, es fundamental estar abiertos, serenos, meditar, estirar nuestro cuerpo, dejar fluir emociones, y conectar con nuestro plano físico, con la voz del cuerpo, y con la conciencia que podemos producir con las propias manos la nueva estructura.

Si puedes, entonces, medita en estos días invocando la presencia de Buda, presta atención a tu voz interior, la conexión plena con tu Ser, y así Buda aparecerá.

Es tiempo de dejar que nuestra estructura se transforme. Es momento de liberar las emociones que ya son parte del pasado. Así que, suelta!

Es ahora que recibimos la bendición del Gran Espíritu para nuestro renacimiento. Recuerda: el cambio es liberación, y todo cambio externo es producto de un cambio interno. Permítete renacer.

Carolina G.

 

Clima astrológico del momento:Mayo

 

 

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.

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How to Create Life Balance Between Dreams and Habits

30 Abr

An Excerpt from Wayne Dyer’s Bestselling Book Being In Balance
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Alignment

The greatest achievement was at first and for a time a dream. The oak sleeps in the acorn; the bird sleeps in the egg; and in the highest vision of the soul, a waking angel stirs. Dreams are the seedlings of realities…”
— JAMES ALLEN

One of the huge imbalances in life is the disparity between your daily existence, with its routines and habits, and the dream you have deep within yourself of some extraordinarily satisfying way of living.

In the quote that opens this [article], James Allen poetically explains that the dream is the magical realm out of which newly created life emerges. Buried within you is an unlimited capacity for creation, what Allen calls “a waking angel” that’s anxious to plant seedlings to fulfill your dreams and your destiny.

True imagination is not fanciful daydreaming, it is fire from heaven.”
— ERNEST HOLMES

I simply couldn’t resist adding the Ernest Holmes quote describing this dynamic imagination as “fire from heaven.”

They’re both appropriate invitations and reminders that you need to tend to that burning fire, the dream within you, if living a balanced life is important.

How This Imbalance Shows Up in Your Life
This absence of balance between dreams and habits may be very subtle. It doesn’t necessarily reveal itself in the obvious symptoms of heartburn, depression, illness, or anxiety—it’s more often something that feels like an unwelcome companion by your side, which continually whispers to you that you’re ignoring something.

There’s some often-unidentifiable task or experience that you sense is part of your beingness. It may seem intangible, but you can feel the longing to be what you’re intended to be. You sense that there’s a higher agenda; your way of life and your reason for life are out of balance. Until you pay attention, this subtle visitor will continue to prod you to regain your equilibrium.

Think of a balance scale with one side weighted down and the other side up, like a teeter-totter with an obese child on one end and a skinny kid on the other. In this case, the heavy end that tips the scale out of balance is the overweight kid representing your everyday behaviors: the work you do, the place where you reside, the people with whom you interact, your geographic location, the books you read, the movies you see, and the conversations that fill up your life.
It’s not that any of these things are bad in and of themselves. The imbalance exists because they’re unhealthy for your particular life—they simply don’t mesh with what you’ve imagined yourself to be.

When it’s unhealthy, it’s wrong, and on some level you feel that. When you live your life going through the motions, it may seem to be convenient, but the weight of your dissatisfaction creates a huge imbalance in the only life you have now.

You’re perplexed by the ever-present gnawing feeling of dissatisfaction that you can’t seem to shake, that pit-of-the-stomach sensation of emptiness. It shows up when you’re sound asleep and your dreams are filled with reminders of what you’d love to be, but you wake and return to pursuing your safe routine.

Your dreams are also demanding your attention in waking life when you’re petulant and argumentative with others, because in actuality you’re so frustrated with yourself that you try to relieve the pressure by venting anger outward.

Imbalance masquerades as a sense of frustration with your current lifestyle. If you allow yourself to think about this “fire from heaven,” you proceed to rationalize your status quo with explanations and mental meanderings that you know in your heart are excuses because you don’t think you have the tools to get in balance.

You may get to a point where you become increasingly hard on yourself and begin seeking medication and other treatment for feelings of inadequacy—and for what’s called depression. You’ll surely witness yourself feeling more and more angry and moody, with more frequent occurrences of minor afflictions such as colds, headaches, and insomnia. As time goes on in this state of imbalance, there’s less enthusiasm for what has become the drudgery of life.

Work is now even more routine, with even less purpose and drive. These blahs begin appearing in your behavior toward your family and those you love. You’re easily agitated, picking on others for no apparent reason. If you’re able to be honest with yourself, you recognize that your irritability stems from being out of balance with the bigger dream you’ve always had, but which is now apparently slipping away.

When these subtle symptoms surface, it’s crucial to explore the kind of energy you’re giving to the scale to create balance—or in this case, imbalance. The heavy angst is weighing down your reason for being—but you are the only one who can re-balance this scale of your life.

Here are some tools to help you return to a balanced life, beginning with recognizing the ways in which you may be sabotaging yourself.

How to Create Balance Between Dreams & Habits
Your desire to be and live from greatness is an aspect of your spiritual energy. In order to create balance in this area of your life, you have to use the energy of your thoughts to harmonize with what you desire. Your mental energy attracts what you think about. Thoughts that pay homage to frustration will attract frustration.

When you say or think anything resembling ‘There’s nothing I can do; my life has spun out of control, and I’m trapped,’ that’s what you’ll attract—that is, resistance to your highest desires!

Every thought of frustration is like purchasing a ticket for more frustration. Every thought that agrees that you’re stuck is asking the Universe to send you even more of that glue to keep you stuck.

The single most important tool to being in balance is knowing that you and you alone are responsible for the imbalance between what you dream your life is meant to be, and the daily habits that drain life from that dream.

You can create a new alignment with your mental energy and instruct the Universe to send opportunities to correct this imbalance.

When you do so, you discover that while the world of reality has its limits, the world of your imagination is without boundaries. Out of this boundless imagination comes the seedling of a reality that’s been crying out to be restored to a balanced environment.

Restoring the Balance Between Dreams & Habits
The objective of this principle is to create a balance between dreams and habits. The least complicated way to begin is to recognize the signs of habitual ways of being, and then learn to shift your thinking to being in balance with your dreams. So what are your dreams?

What is it that lives within you that’s never gone away? What inner night-light continues to glow, even if it’s only a glimmer, in your thoughts and dreams? Whatever it is, however absurd it may seem to others, if you want to restore the balance between your dreams and your habits, you need to make a shift in the energy that you’re contributing to your dreams.

If you’re out of balance, it’s primarily because you’ve energetically allowed your habits to define your life. Those habits, and the consequences thereof, are the result of the energy you’ve given them.

In the early stages of the re-balancing process, concentrate on this awareness: You get what you think about, whether you want it or not. Commit to thinking about what you want, rather than how impossible or difficult that dream may seem.

Give your personal dreams a place to hang out on the balance scale so that you can see them in your imagination and they can soak up the energy they deserve.

Thoughts Are Mental Currency — Spend It Wisely
Thoughts are mental energy; they’re the currency that you have to attract what you desire. You must learn to stop spending that currency on thoughts you don’t want, even though you may feel compelled to continue your habitual behavior.

You get what you think about, whether you want it or not. Commit to thinking about what you want, rather than how impossible or difficult that dream may seem.
— DR. WAYNE DYER

Your body might continue, for a while, to stay where it’s been trained to be, but meanwhile, thoughts are being aligned with your dreams. The esteemed 19th-century writer Louisa May Alcott phrases this idea in an encouraging and inspiring manner:

Far away in the sunshine are my highest inspirations.
I may not reach them, but I can look up and see the beauty,
believe in them and try to follow where they lead…
— LOUISA MAY ALCOTT

Choosing to restore a semblance of balance between your dreams and your habits seems possible with Ms. Alcott’s phrases in mind: “look up and see,” and “believe in them.” The words bring to life an energetic alignment.

Rather than putting your thoughts on what is, or what you’ve habitually thought for a lifetime, you shift to looking up and seeing, and firmly believing in what you see.

When you begin to think in this manner, the Universe conspires to work with you, and sends you precisely what you’re thinking and believing. It doesn’t always happen instantaneously, but once the realignment is initiated in your thoughts, you’ve begun being in balance.

Reprinted with permission from the beautiful, newly reprinted Being in Balance, Hay House, Inc. (2016)

 

Una práctica de cinco minutos para manifestar y crear lo que quieras. Por Wayne Dyer

 

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille

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3 Secrets to Manifesting Your Heart’s Desire

20 Abr

We all do it. We wish, we dream, we hope. It’s a great part of our humanity to be able to imagine our life differently but, being human, only we can wish something and then not make it happen! Why do we spend so much time thinking about the things we want instead of acting on them?

Wait, I can act on my dreams? I can make them happen? Of course you can! The key is believing in yourself and knowing where to start. In this short video (2:14), best-selling author and celebrated visionary guide Sonia Choquette lets you in on the three techniques you need to succeed in manifesting your heart’s desires. The third technique is going to shock you, it’s so simple yet it is the crucial thing most of us never do.

Now that you know these three techniques it does seem so scary, does it?!

 

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Find The Key To Freedom And Start Living More Today

23 Mar

Whatever circumstances we are born into, wherever we live, whatever we believe, we all have the innate capacity to feel free. Why? It is part of who we are, in the same way that love is our essential nature.

But, over time, life happens, we find ourselves in difficult situations and sometimes our responses to them take over. Our thoughts about a given situation, our emotional response to it and the stories we tell ourselves about what is going on, expand as we give them attention. Eventually they fill our minds, solidifying into cage bars and trapping us inside. The good news is if you can choose your way into the cage, you can choose your way out.

While you cannot always change your situation, you can always change the way you respond to it. There is always a way to feel more free, whatever situation you find yourself in.

Freedom is the willingness and ability to choose your own path and experience your life as your true self.

When we’re trapped, freedom can seem like a luxury reserved for other people or a concept we think we know but can’t quite remember. Even then, when flying free seems far removed from our current reality, we want to believe that today can be better than yesterday. That tomorrow can be better than today. That life in the cage isn’t all there is. Our current state of living isn’t a life sentence. At the very least, we no longer want to feel trapped, crushed, small. We all want to escape.

Freedom is the Holy Grail. We want to feel that we have the power to direct our own lives, choose our path and consciously manifest our own happiness.

n researching my new book Freedom Seeker I talked to hundreds of people in my community to understand their cages, how they coped and, crucially, how they got out. I also analysed my own experiences of incarceration and escape, digging deep for commonalities and recurring themes.

In reverse engineering all these stories, here’s what I discovered: every cage has a door. Every door has a lock. You just need to find the key. It’s that simple. At any time, you have the power to set yourself free.

It’s not about finding a cure for guilt, jealousy, stress, resentment or whatever else your cage bars represent. It’s about taking your mind to a place where those things don’t get any attention – the place where your free self lives.

t turns out there is a very clear pattern to escape – it appears in every single story, in every single situation, with every single person – and it led me to identify a set of eight principles that I call ‘the Freedom Keys’, which can unlock the door of any cage. Whatever is trapping you, however dark the space, these Freedom Keys are your ticket to escape.

You can find all these in my book Freedom Seeker: Live more. Worry less. Do what you love. I want to share one of those eight keys with you here today, so you can start feeling more free right away.

The first of the Freedom Keys is ‘Headspace + Heartspace’. This Freedom Key is a way of finding room to pause, reflect and breathe. It’s about finding quiet opportunities to allow your head and heart to re-attune to one another, and restore your inner calm.

The most important element of this Freedom Key is finding space. This refers to space in your day (time), space in the noise (quiet) and space in the world (place), so you can expand the space in your heart and mind to bring clarity and calm.

By dropping into your body you can find headspace. By dropping into your sense of love, wonder and beauty, you can find heartspace.

This Freedom Key can unlock your cage door when getting up in the morning feels like an effort, never mind getting through the day. When your mind is full and your heart is heavy. When the concept of ‘feeling free’ or ‘doing what you love’ seems a laughable fantasy, because it’s all you can do to remember to eat, in between meetings and family demands, and your overflowing inbox. It can be exactly what you need when you feel drained from the constant giving, emotionally supporting others at the cost of your own wellbeing.

You can activate this Freedom Key by spending time in a physical place that is both restful and nurturing.

You can activate this Freedom Key by spending time in a physical place that is both restful and nurturing. Think elemental – earth, air, fire, water.

If water is a source of inspiration, find a spot on a riverbank or a bench by a lake, or take a stroll by the sea. If you need air, go high, and climb a mountain, hike up a hill, take your flask of tea to a windy clifftop. Watch the clouds or gaze at the night sky. Get up for the sunrise. Marvel at the sunset.

In Japan, they have a therapy called Shinrinyoku, which literally means ‘forest bathing’. It invites you to drink in the healing power of the trees, to be present, grateful, aware. To walk in silence like a fox. To explore, find quiet, sink in, open up. If you can’t get to a forest, go barefoot in your garden, take your dog for a walk or explore a local park.

Nature helps, but it’s not compulsory. It could be a cosy corner of your home or an armchair in your favourite cafe. It doesn’t even have to be a place. It can be inside your daily run, on the pages of your journal, within a yoga pose, in the slow stirring of a risotto, in the flicker of a candle or the flames of a fire pit, on a long cycle ride or in the steam of your morning coffee.

It just has to be somewhere you can breathe deeply and unplug to reconnect. Choose wherever calls to you and take yourself there.

If you can take yourself away somewhere for a long pause, you’ll likely see a huge transformation. Even if that isn’t practical right now, you can start activating this Freedom Key right where you are, with an hour here, a weekend there. Even a few minutes a day makes a difference.

At times like this it’s vital to watch what you’re watching, nurture yourself with gentle music and activities, and protect yourself from violent movies, sensationalist news and social media overload.

When you make space in your head and heart, and filter out any aggressive stimuli, you make room for inspiration and love to rush in.

Beth Kempton is lifelong adventurer whose quest for freedom has taken her to the ends of the earth, and given her a catalogue of wild and crazy experiences. Beth has lived, worked, and travelled in 50+ countries on every continent.

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The Hidden Saboteurs of Lifestyle Design

18 Feb

by Steve Pavlina
Conscious lifestyle design sounds wonderful in principle. It involves creating a lifestyle that you love and a sustainable income source to fund it. But what many people don’t realize is just how many hidden traps there beneath the surface that can easily sabotage your transition. Let’s cover some of them.

Routine

If you’re transitioning from a routine, humdrum lifestyle to a much richer one, especially in terms of seeking out new experiences, then your pre-existing routines will need to be broken. Your old routine can no longer be your friend.

By default you’re going to catch yourself falling back into old routines that no longer serve you. You’ll stay home when you’d rather be traveling because staying home is what you’ve always done. You’ll socialize with the same people who reinforce your old routine even though you know deep down that they won’t follow you into your new lifestyle.

Even before you transition, it’s good to start breaking your old routine now and then. Begin shifting away from old patterns, and tackle new experiences when you can. Embrace the new.

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Incompatible Friends

You may have friends that are compatible with your old lifestyle, but are they compatible with your desired direction? Could they handle you on the other side? If not, then you can expect to transition out of those relationships, and the sooner you do, the less social drag you’ll experience as you transition.

If you see yourself as a loyal person, then make sure your loyalty isn’t misplaced. Be loyal to your true self. Be loyal to your path of growth. Be loyal to the richly compatible new relationships that await you. Don’t confuse loyalty with stubbornness or fear.

Being loyal to dysfunctional relationships that hold you back isn’t true loyalty. Admit the truth that you’re afraid to move on into uncharted territory, and you cling to old relationships to give yourself an excuse to avoid taking the next step. Once you’re honest with yourself, it will be easier to move forward.

You don’t necessarily have to break up with your old friends deliberately. Just shamelessly embrace your new path, and let them react as they will. If they can be happy and supportive, great. If not, let your transition rattle them, and see if they come around. If they don’t come around and keep resisting, let go. Engaging with such resistance is a waste of life. Trying to convince someone who doesn’t want to be convinced is a delay tactic, so don’t get caught up in such nonsense.

I’ve gone through several big lifestyle transitions. Each time I did so, I lost old friends and gained new ones. Some friends have been able to follow me through multiple transitions. These friends tend to be the most compatible because they’re able to embrace growth-oriented people, and they expect change rather than perpetual sameness.

If you have people in your life who expect you to remain stuck, those people are not your friends. Don’t let their neediness drag you down. That doesn’t serve you, and it doesn’t serve the world.

Incompatible Relationship Partners

A partner that can’t handle your lifestyle transition is one of the greatest saboteurs of all. Transitioning out of an incompatible relationship can be one of the most gut-wrenching challenges of lifestyle design. I’ve been through it, as have many of my readers. But to really create a fulfilling life, it’s often necessary to go through it.

You can’t settle. You can’t drag a partner with you who doesn’t want to go. And there’s no need to do that anyway. There are amazingly compatible new partners waiting for you, but they’ll never recognize you as a match while you remain stuck in your old relationship.

Read the article How to Decide When to End a Long-Term Relationship to see where you currently stand. I also highly recommend the book Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum. It’s probably the best book I’ve ever read about relationships, and it’s a delightful, eye-opening read that will forever change how you view intimate relationships.

You may also enjoy reading the article 4D Relationships if you want a simple model for checking how empowering your relationships are across the four key relationship dimensions.

Addictions

Creating an amazing lifestyle sounds like a lot of fun, but it also takes dedication, self-discipline, and patience. If you have any addictions – and most people do – they’ll sabotage your ability to stay on track.

All addictions weaken the prefrontal cortex, which is the part of your brain responsible for planning and self-regulation. Addictions are insidious because they lower your ability to think rationally and to discipline yourself, thereby making it even harder to overcome the addiction.

It’s fair to say the the more addictions you have, and the more frequently you exercise them, the weaker your self-discipline will be. How can you undergo a major lifestyle transition if you can’t even get yourself to take action consistently? It’s extremely difficult. Most likely you’ll just succumb to endless delays.

If you want to create an amazing lifestyle, make overcoming addictions a serious priority, no matter how challenging it is. This includes alcohol and other drugs; smoking; porn; gambling; excessive Internet, cell phone, or social media usage; unhealthy foods; sex; shopping; video games; and overworking yourself.

The more addictions you drag into your new lifestyle, the more they’ll sabotage your enjoyment of life. When you think about your new lifestyle, cultivate a vision of yourself as an addiction-free person. Positive addictions like exercise are fine, but envision yourself being free of negative, self-sabotaging rituals.

If you’ve had a long-term relationship with an addiction that’s slowing you down, stop trying to negotiate a moderate relationship with it. Your true decision is either to marry that addiction till death do you part, or break it off forever and never see each other again. If you’re not willing to do the latter, then you’re married by default, and you’ll probably have that addiction for the rest of your life. Are you willing to drag it forward decade after decade?

For any kind of addiction you might have, there are countless support groups that can help you. Just do a Google search on “overcoming [addiction type] addiction,” such as “overcoming Internet porn addiction,” and you’ll find abundant resources. Start reading, and open your eyes to how the addiction is hurting you and how to overcome it. You may find a lot of inspiration in reading people’s stories.

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Addiction – Wordcloud Medical Concept. The Word in Red Color, Surrounded by a Cloud of Words Gray.

Discomfort

When you embark on a new lifestyle, you’re going to be uncomfortable. If your new lifestyle involves lots of growth and change, such as frequent traveling, then you’re going to be uncomfortable a lot too.

In your old lifestyle, you may have felt pretty comfortable. Most days seemed normal and met your expectations, even if your expectations were low. You were in your comfort zone most of the time.

That type of experience has to be thrown out the window, at least for a while. When you transition (and perhaps long afterwards), you’ll be outside your comfort zone. As odd as it may sound, you’ll need to develop the ability to be comfortable with discomfort.

You can’t let discomfort stop you because discomfort will be common in your new reality. Travel to a new country where you don’t speak the language, and you’ll be uncomfortable. Do your first coaching session, speech, or interview, and you’ll be uncomfortable. Tell other people about your transition, and you’ll be uncomfortable. It’s all part of the growth experience. If you weren’t uncomfortable, you wouldn’t be growing much.

The more you welcome discomfort, little by little, the easier it gets. Many experiences that used to make me uncomfortable now seem like fun. Next week I’m heading to the UK and then to Italy the following week. I’ve never been to Italy before, and I don’t speak any Italian, so I can expect some awkwardness here and there, but I’ve had enough of these experiences that this doesn’t bother me anymore. I’m now comfortable with this level of discomfort. Years ago this discomfort would have been enough to make me avoid such traveling unless I did tons of advance preparation or played it safe by going with a group.

Self-Centeredness

Our final saboteur is one of the most common among my readers. If your new lifestyle is all about me, me, me, then you’ll probably find it difficult to sustain your journey.

There needs to be some kind of value proposition to your new lifestyle. What are you giving in exchange for all that you’ll receive? How are you including other people in your journey? Why should anyone bother to care or to help you?

Without some positive social support on your path, you’ll have to go it alone, and that’s pretty difficult. It also tends to be demotivating. I’ve seen people give up from loneliness and isolation when they take a me-first approach to lifestyle design. Most of the time they don’t make it very far because they find it too difficult to earn income. If you don’t care about serving others, they why should anyone serve you their money?

It’s great to fulfill your personal desires, but also think about how your gains can benefit others as well. I do this by sharing my growth lessons publicly. When I first started on this path, I didn’t know how impactful that would be. Since I started blogging in 2004, there have been more than 100 million visits to my website, and my content has been shared, translated, and republished all over the world. I get feedback from people on every continent except Antarctica (a stubborn holdout for some reason). This in turn helps to fuel my own journey by bringing lots of growth-oriented people into my life who reinforce what I’m doing. Most of the friends I have today, I’ve made because of this work.

Ideally your work and lifestyle should mesh together well, holistically supporting each other. Creating this balance is a challenge to be sure, but when you finally nail it, you’re golden.

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These saboteurs have crushed many lifestyle transitions, so please don’t ignore them. Keep leaning into these challenges. See them as growth opportunities that will make you stronger for tackling them.