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Why Some Goals Make You Run in Circles

29 Mar

Why is it that sometimes you can be really clear about a goal, make a plan to get there, and take action on it, but even after years of pushing yourself, you still have little to show for your efforts?

Maybe you made some progress, but perhaps it wasn’t enough to justify the effort. Meanwhile it seems like so many other people are able to achieve similar goals much more quickly. This can be frustrating.

What is it that causes you to run in circles?

A common goal achievement strategy looks something like this:

Define your outcome.
Make a plan to get there.
Take lots of action.
Refine your approach as needed.
Persist until you succeed.
This method will indeed work for certain types of goals. But for other goals, it will actually cause you to run in circles. You’ll burn a lot of time and energy, but you won’t reach your goal in a reasonable period of time.

The method above tends to work okay for goals that don’t require much inner change. Your current thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and behaviors are well aligned with your outcomes. You don’t have to change on the inside. You just have to take certain basic actions that you’re already comfortable with, and you’ll get there.

For example, if you set a goal to organize your home office, and you’re already a fairly neat person, and you know how to organize, and you like the feeling of having everything in its proper place, then you can use this process to achieve that goal. You can imagine your home office the way you’d like it to be. Then make a to-do list of the action steps to get there. Then set aside a weekend to make it so, and go through the steps one by one until you’re done. If something unexpected happens, you can adjust your plan on the fly. This is an achievable goal for you, and if you feel motivated to make it happen, it’s clearly within your power to get it done in a reasonable period of time.

On the other hand, suppose you set that same goal to organize your home office, but your thoughts, beliefs, and feelings aren’t aligned very well. Maybe you’re not particularly happy with the work you do, and having a cluttered office makes it easier to distract yourself from depressing thoughts and feelings. Maybe you worry about having more responsibility. Maybe you fear that your life lacks variety. Maybe you’ve been eating a crappy diet, and it’s bringing down your energy levels, making it hard to feel motivated to de-clutter your office. Maybe you’ve piled up so much clutter that you now view it as a monumental task. Maybe you’re a habitual pack rat and have a hard time throwing things away, even if you haven’t used them in years.

For this second person, the goal achievement process previously described usually won’t work. It may look good on paper, but it can actually have an adverse effect, causing you to run in circles. You may set a goal to have a neat office and make a to-do list just as the first person did, but it won’t yield the same result for you. Even if you make a dent in the clutter, you’ll re-clutter it within a few weeks. Then you’ll beat yourself up, resolve to “stop procrastinating” and “finally get organized,” and try again. Fast forward five years, and your cluttered office still looks pretty much the same, despite investing a lot of mental and emotional energy in trying to improve.

This doesn’t mean you’re broken, lazy, or impotent. It means you’re using the wrong process for your particular goal. If this process isn’t working for you, stop using it. A good process produces good results.

A Tale of Two Vibrations

Albert Einstein is famously quoted as saying that we cannot solve problems at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.

In the case of our first person organizing her home office, she already thinks of herself as a neat and organized person. She likes being organized and feels good about it on the inside. When she sees clutter in her environment, she immediately recognizes it: “This isn’t me.” It feels wrong to her. It’s below her standards to tolerate it for long. Perhaps she just got busy, and things piled up temporarily, but she knows that being neat is congruent with who she is. She may have been at a lower level of thinking when she created the clutter problem (stressed, overworked, tired, etc.), but that isn’t her normal state of being. Once her life is “back to normal,” she feels a strong desire to fix the clutter problem. Clutter isn’t congruent with who she is.

We can say that it’s part of her vibe — her collection of thoughts, feelings, and beliefs — to be neat and organized. While clutter may arise from time to time, it’s in her nature to return to a state of order again and again. Something must knock her down to a lower level of thinking, such as stress or illness, in order for her to take actions that create clutter. And even then, she knows she’ll eventually clean it up when she’s back to her normal self.

With our second person, however, being neat and organized isn’t part of his vibe. His normal, default experience is to create and tolerate clutter, even if he doesn’t like it. He’s a match for clutter. His thoughts, feelings, and beliefs all support the creation and maintenance of a cluttered environment. When he does feel like getting organized and he’s able to get himself to take action, it’s a peak state, and it usually doesn’t last for more than a few days. Even if he can get himself to hold that state long enough to organize his office, he’ll simply re-clutter it in the following weeks when he’s back to his normal level of being.

Can you think of goals in your own life where your experience was like that of the first person? And other experiences that were more like the second person?

Are Your Goals Congruent With Your Vibe?

You can use the previously mentioned goal achievement process (or something similar) when your situation is like that of the first person. But it doesn’t work well in the second situation.

Think about some of the goals and projects you’d like to accomplish. Which ones are already a good match for your current level of being? Which ones are not a match for your current vibe?

For example, if you set a goal to earn $1 million this year, but you’ve never earned more than $50K in a year before, it’s safe to say that the first goal achievement process will cause you to run in circles. That’s because your vibe is incongruent with that goal.

However, if you’ve earned $400K, $600K, and $800K in each of the last 3 years, and it feels normal to see your income increase significantly each year, then the first goal achievement process can work just fine. Your current vibe is already a good match for this goal.

Foolish Plans

When your default level of thinking and feeling (i.e. your current vibe) is not a good match for one or more of your goals, don’t try to use the first goal achievement process. It will almost certainly run you in circles. The reason that happens is that you’re trying to achieve a goal at a level of thinking at which it cannot be achieved. You may come up with a nice-looking list of action steps, but they’ll be the wrong actions. When you try to work on that list, something will feel off. You’ll find yourself procrastinating massively, for instance. This doesn’t mean you don’t want the goal. It means you’re trying to use the wrong process to get there. You’ll probably experience lots of clunky starts and re-starts to try to get yourself moving, but you won’t move much.

For example, if you’ve never earned more than $50K in a year, and you decide to earn $1 million this year, but your vibe is stuck below the $50K level, then when you make a to-do list for how to achieve your million-dollar goal, it won’t be a realistic plan. It will be a fantasy. Your plan will be like a child’s plan to build a space ship. It won’t be something you can realistically implement, and it won’t look much like the plan that a true soon-to-be millionaire would use.

Your plan will probably be cluttered with actions that don’t even need to be done, at least not by you personally. It will include a lot of unnecessary busywork. It will focus on actions that won’t produce strong results under real-world conditions.

If someone who was already earning $1 million per year looked at your plan, they’d likely see it as unbalanced and off-base. Even if they were starting from scratch, their plan to earn that first million wouldn’t look very much like yours.

Don’t bother to create plans for goals that you aren’t already a good match for. Such plans won’t work in the real world. First you have to get yourself to the level of thinking at which your goal can be achieved. After you get to that level of thinking, then you can start identifying action steps, and those actions will make sense.

Vibrational Goal Achievement

So what do you do if you have a goal that doesn’t mesh well with your current level of thinking and feeling? How do you bridge the vibrational gap between where you are and where you’d like to be?

You need to use a different goal achievement process for that. I’ll share such a process in my next post. 🙂

By Steve Pavlina

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Find The Key To Freedom And Start Living More Today

23 Mar

Whatever circumstances we are born into, wherever we live, whatever we believe, we all have the innate capacity to feel free. Why? It is part of who we are, in the same way that love is our essential nature.

But, over time, life happens, we find ourselves in difficult situations and sometimes our responses to them take over. Our thoughts about a given situation, our emotional response to it and the stories we tell ourselves about what is going on, expand as we give them attention. Eventually they fill our minds, solidifying into cage bars and trapping us inside. The good news is if you can choose your way into the cage, you can choose your way out.

While you cannot always change your situation, you can always change the way you respond to it. There is always a way to feel more free, whatever situation you find yourself in.

Freedom is the willingness and ability to choose your own path and experience your life as your true self.

When we’re trapped, freedom can seem like a luxury reserved for other people or a concept we think we know but can’t quite remember. Even then, when flying free seems far removed from our current reality, we want to believe that today can be better than yesterday. That tomorrow can be better than today. That life in the cage isn’t all there is. Our current state of living isn’t a life sentence. At the very least, we no longer want to feel trapped, crushed, small. We all want to escape.

Freedom is the Holy Grail. We want to feel that we have the power to direct our own lives, choose our path and consciously manifest our own happiness.

n researching my new book Freedom Seeker I talked to hundreds of people in my community to understand their cages, how they coped and, crucially, how they got out. I also analysed my own experiences of incarceration and escape, digging deep for commonalities and recurring themes.

In reverse engineering all these stories, here’s what I discovered: every cage has a door. Every door has a lock. You just need to find the key. It’s that simple. At any time, you have the power to set yourself free.

It’s not about finding a cure for guilt, jealousy, stress, resentment or whatever else your cage bars represent. It’s about taking your mind to a place where those things don’t get any attention – the place where your free self lives.

t turns out there is a very clear pattern to escape – it appears in every single story, in every single situation, with every single person – and it led me to identify a set of eight principles that I call ‘the Freedom Keys’, which can unlock the door of any cage. Whatever is trapping you, however dark the space, these Freedom Keys are your ticket to escape.

You can find all these in my book Freedom Seeker: Live more. Worry less. Do what you love. I want to share one of those eight keys with you here today, so you can start feeling more free right away.

The first of the Freedom Keys is ‘Headspace + Heartspace’. This Freedom Key is a way of finding room to pause, reflect and breathe. It’s about finding quiet opportunities to allow your head and heart to re-attune to one another, and restore your inner calm.

The most important element of this Freedom Key is finding space. This refers to space in your day (time), space in the noise (quiet) and space in the world (place), so you can expand the space in your heart and mind to bring clarity and calm.

By dropping into your body you can find headspace. By dropping into your sense of love, wonder and beauty, you can find heartspace.

This Freedom Key can unlock your cage door when getting up in the morning feels like an effort, never mind getting through the day. When your mind is full and your heart is heavy. When the concept of ‘feeling free’ or ‘doing what you love’ seems a laughable fantasy, because it’s all you can do to remember to eat, in between meetings and family demands, and your overflowing inbox. It can be exactly what you need when you feel drained from the constant giving, emotionally supporting others at the cost of your own wellbeing.

You can activate this Freedom Key by spending time in a physical place that is both restful and nurturing.

You can activate this Freedom Key by spending time in a physical place that is both restful and nurturing. Think elemental – earth, air, fire, water.

If water is a source of inspiration, find a spot on a riverbank or a bench by a lake, or take a stroll by the sea. If you need air, go high, and climb a mountain, hike up a hill, take your flask of tea to a windy clifftop. Watch the clouds or gaze at the night sky. Get up for the sunrise. Marvel at the sunset.

In Japan, they have a therapy called Shinrinyoku, which literally means ‘forest bathing’. It invites you to drink in the healing power of the trees, to be present, grateful, aware. To walk in silence like a fox. To explore, find quiet, sink in, open up. If you can’t get to a forest, go barefoot in your garden, take your dog for a walk or explore a local park.

Nature helps, but it’s not compulsory. It could be a cosy corner of your home or an armchair in your favourite cafe. It doesn’t even have to be a place. It can be inside your daily run, on the pages of your journal, within a yoga pose, in the slow stirring of a risotto, in the flicker of a candle or the flames of a fire pit, on a long cycle ride or in the steam of your morning coffee.

It just has to be somewhere you can breathe deeply and unplug to reconnect. Choose wherever calls to you and take yourself there.

If you can take yourself away somewhere for a long pause, you’ll likely see a huge transformation. Even if that isn’t practical right now, you can start activating this Freedom Key right where you are, with an hour here, a weekend there. Even a few minutes a day makes a difference.

At times like this it’s vital to watch what you’re watching, nurture yourself with gentle music and activities, and protect yourself from violent movies, sensationalist news and social media overload.

When you make space in your head and heart, and filter out any aggressive stimuli, you make room for inspiration and love to rush in.

Beth Kempton is lifelong adventurer whose quest for freedom has taken her to the ends of the earth, and given her a catalogue of wild and crazy experiences. Beth has lived, worked, and travelled in 50+ countries on every continent.

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3 Simple Things To Condition Yourself for Success

20 Mar

Have you noticed that whenever you meet someone new the first question you will get asked is ‘what do you do’? Whether we like it or not this defines us to those we meet. It’s interesting that you can tell in the way someone replies to that question how they feel about their job. A hesitant response usually means they don’t love or aren’t proud of it, whereas a fast, enthusiast response usually means “I like what I do!” Why can’t we all belong to this second category?

More and more people are catching onto a secret: they can take control of their lives. It’s becoming increasingly common to see friends and old colleagues ditching the office to create their own businesses. And the best part of this isn’t being your own boss… it’s being able to do something you love for a living! In this short video (3:29) She Means Business author Carrie Green shares three steps to getting started on the path to business success. We bet you’ll be surprised at how easy they are.

It’s that easy to bring success into your life!
The truth is there isn’t one single course or clear path that will teach you how to build the business you want. Carrie learned from experience that sometimes you have to create your own success curriculum and now shows other women that with an idea, a set of clear objectives and your own determination to act, you can create a wildly successful business. She now runs the business of her dreams – the Female Entrepreneur Association, which empowers women from around the world to turn their ideas into reality and do what brings them joy. From the first tiny spark of this idea, Carrie has now created a community of over 400,000 women who work for themselves doing what they love.

We can all make the most incredible things happen when we shift our focus and stay committed. If you’d like to work in person with Carrie and learn how to take the next steps towards creating your own incredibly successful business, book your ticket now via the banner below.

Are you ready to turn your ideas into reality and build a wildly successful business?

She means business

There has never been a better time to say yes! With a computer and an Internet connection you can get your ideas, messages, and business out there like never before and create so much success.In this book, Carrie Green shows you how.

Carrie started her first online business at the age of 20-she knows what it’s like to be an ambitious and creative woman with big dreams and huge determination . . . but she also knows the challenges of starting and running a business, including the fears, overwhelm, confusion, and blocks that entrepreneurs face. Based on her personal, tried-and-tested experience, she offers valuable guidance and powerful exercises to help you:
– Get clear on your business vision
– Move past the fears and doubts that can get in the way
– Understand your audience, so you can truly connect with them
– Create your brand and build a tribe of raving fans, subscribers, and customers
– Manage your time, maintain focus, and keep going in the right direction
– Condition yourself for success . . . and so much more!
If you’re a creative and ambitious female entrepreneur, or are contemplating the entrepreneurial path, this book will provide the honest, realistic, and practical tools you need to follow your heart and bring your vision to life.

 

3 Simple Things To Condition Yourself for Success – Carrie Green

 

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¿Cómo desarrollas tu talento personal?

17 Mar

 

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3 Tools To Help You Forgive Someone

14 Mar

Nothing in life causes more pain and suffering than the judgments we hold about and against others and ourselves. I think Byron Katie says it best: “When you argue against reality, you will suffer.” Judgments are the thoughts or arguments we hold about or against what is, what was, and what should be. All judgments create suffering and need to be forgiven.

Releasing Judgement
Every interaction and experience in life offers the opportunity to become aware of those things that we do not recognize and/or do not accept about ourselves. This is the foundation of all judgments. It is very easy to point out in others the things we deny, dismiss, avoid, excuse, and resist acknowledging that we actually believe are true about us.

When we are willing to be emotionally honest, we will discover that the reactions we have to circumstances, situations, and people give us more information about ourselves than about anyone or anything else. Every upsetting encounter is triggering an emotion that is present on our internal landscape.

When someone makes a remark about us, it may trigger hurt or fear or sadness.

We may judge the person as mean or insensitive or disrespectful. Upon a closer investigation, it’s revealed that the thing being said by someone else is the same thing we may have said to ourselves about ourselves—when no one else was around. However, when a person makes the same remark and we don’t have that judgment about ourselves, chances are we will not be hurt or offended by it. Regardless of the circumstances, our internal reactions to people and events are a reflection of our own self-judgments and long-held toxic emotions. Rarely do our negative reactions have anything to do with another person’s bad behavior.

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3 Learning Tools to Help You Forgive Others
More often than not, judgments can be traced back to one of three primary issues:

1. We do not/cannot tolerate the same behavior or characteristic in ourselves.
When we harbor feelings of inadequacy, inappropriateness, weakness, or the “not-good-enough” syndrome, we resent seeing our behaviors and tendencies demonstrated by another person. Seeing it “out there” embarrasses us, so we condemn what is being demonstrated. A judgment of resentment or embarrassment often reveals that we are not fully expressing ourselves, and we experience resentment or anger when others do so.

2. We are unaware that we behave a certain way and of the impact that behavior has on others.

So we disown it and project the behavior onto others and dislike it “out there.” Whenever we experience dislike, upset, or anger about how someone is, we must ask ourselves, “How and under what circumstances am I prone to behave the same way?” Only when we become willing to take an honest look within to determine if we share some of the characteristics we dislike in others can we become self-accepting and self-aware.

3. When we are envious and resentful, we must find something wrong with others who have what we want or do what we desire to do.

We judge them in order to make them wrong about who we are and what we have not created for ourselves. When someone attains a certain level of success or recognition, it may remind us of a lack of confidence or success in our own life experience. When feelings of inadequacy surface in the face of success, chances are we will look for and find something wrong with the person to negate what is right or good about them and their accomplishments. This is also known as the “crabs-in-a-barrel” mentality: pulling someone down to the level we believe we are on.

Forgive Yourself First

It is only when we forgive our judgments that we can have compassion for others, even when they behave in ways we would not. With time, practice, and forgiveness we grow a deeper understanding of what we say and do to others that can and will transform how we live within ourselves. See my book, Forgiveness, 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything for more tools to help you forgive.

 

Iyanla Vanzant is the founder and executive director of Inner Visions International and the Inner Visions Institute for Spiritual Development. She is a Yoruba priestess and an ordained minister in Christian New Thought.

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Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.

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12 de marzo 2017, Luna llena en Virgo.

12 Mar

Podemos decir con contundencia que estamos en las vísperas de una Luna llena, por que el ambiente está cargado para muchos y estas fuerte energía que es capaz de subir la marea, se está haciendo sentir con fuerza. Esta es una Luna Llena a 22º Virgo 13′, por tanto el Sol se encuentra diametralmente opuesto a 22º Piscis 13′-

Una de las lecturas de este fenómeno, es que esta Luna Llena en Virgo, forma una T-cuadrante a Saturno (27º) y Folo (29º) en Sagitario, con 5º y 7º de órbita lo que nos dá un visión de la vida y de nuestras posibilidades bastante lúgubre y pesimista. Pero Folo nos invita a mirar qué botón de nuestra memoria ancestral se ha apretado para sentirnos de esta manera.

Mercurio que es el dispositor de esta Luna se encuentra en una cuadratura exacta al Señor de los Anillos. Esto trae un sentimiento melancólico, considerando que el Sol en Piscis que es muy intuitivo y soñador, opone una Luna en Virgo que es lógica y práctica, creando un disyuntiva entre estas dos partes de nuestra psiquis, trayendo confusión y desasosiego. Mercurio que se encuentra a 27º de Piscis, también opone la Luna lo que dificulta nuestra habilidad de expresar nuestros sentimientos de una forma clara y concisa, ya que su energía es dual y aumenta o ilumina nuestra dualidad interna.

Pero es que además, entre el Sol 22º y Mercurio 27º en Piscis se encuentran Pallas a 24º y Quirón a 25º, todo cuadrando Saturno. Como toda ecuación, que envuelve al Señor de los Anillos, nos encontramos resolviendo temas con Instituciones: trámites, permisos, licencias, pero por sobretodo, confrontando decisiones del pasado que pudieron o no estar bien tomadas y sus consecuencias. Pero si miramos un pelín más adentro entonces nos encontramos con la necesidad de comprender este aparente caos interno, que nos fuerza a tomar decisiones, cuando creemos no estar muy preparados para ello.

Teniendo en cuenta que estamos con Venus Retrógrado para esta Luna Llena, y en este momento en cuadratura a Plutón y más exactamente a Juno, la RE-visión de nuestros valores y deseos más profundos están en juego también, la fé en nosotros mismos también. Todo ello agrega a la DI-visión interna y a la duda a la hora de tomar decisiones. La influencia de Pallas Atenea es de no poder tener una estrategia en juego y la imposibilidad de ver los patrones y reglas del mismo claramente. Quirón puede despertar una herida antigua que se resiste a curar y que nos ayuda, de alguna manera, a comprender que no todo lo que sentimos es necesariamente sólo nuestro, sino los restos de historias familiares no concluidas, no cerradas, que por mantenerse en el inconsciente, nos siguen acechando desde la oscuridad. Los signos mutables : Géminis,Virgo, Sag y Piscis están particularmente implicados en esta historia, pero aunque tu signo de Sol sea otro, si tienes algunos de estos signos en tu carta astral, lo sentirás igual. Las casas donde está el ángulo Piscis-Virgo en tu carta es donde más se manifestará.

La Gran T-Cuadrada entre Eris-Urano a Plutón y Júpiter son parte de ese desasosiego que nos entra cuando miramos las noticias y vemos la gran división que existe en este momento entre nosotros los humanos. Las religiones, los nacionalismos, nos dividen y nos traen inseguridad y miedos. Sobre todo cuando miramos el tipo de personajes que se pasean por los corredores del poder en este momento en el mundo entero. En esto son los signos cardinales (Aries, Cáncer, Libra y Capricornio) los más sacudidos.

Pero, las buenas noticias son que Saturno en este momento forma trígonos (120º) a Urano- Eris y Marte, por tanto algo de salud mental nos queda y comprendemos que nada es para siempre y que estas dudas también desaparecerán y una voz interna nos dice que todo se terminará arreglando. Vesta, para esta lunación, también forma trígonos al Sol, Pallas y Quirón, y sus consejos son siempre el retirarse, para meditar, para poder mirarse profundamente con calma y sabiduría. Tanto Saturno, como su hija, Vesta, en buen aspecto, nos recuerdan que tenemos todos lo que necesitamos para pasar estos obstáculos y que con trabajo duro y concentrado, con perseverancia, todo se consigue. El secreto está en tomar control de nuestras vidas en vez de dejarla en manos de otros.

Esta es una Luna femenina, júntate con mujeres y comparte tus sentimientos con ellas, pero escucha a Vesta y medita y pasa algún tiempo solo/a también, te ayudará a liberarte de la tiranía de la duda.

Cristina Laird

 

 

Mas información sobre este Plenilunio en Virgo…

Una Luna Llena en Virgo se produce el Domingo 12 de Marzo 2017, a las 14:55 UT. Esta fase lunar completa un ciclo de seis meses que comenzó en Septiembre, con la correspondiente Luna Nueva en Virgo, un signo que vive y brilla en el orden, la estructura, la rutina y la salud. Por otra parte, este signo mutable del elemento tierra llama a la atención plena con todo, desde la comida que ponemos en nuestros platos hasta la huella que dejamos en nuestros ambientes.

La Luna Llena en Virgo-Sol en Piscis, destaca nuestras conexiones emocionales con los demás, así como nuestros propios sentimientos personales de bienestar. Piscis trae información intuitiva y Virgo determina la mejor manera de integrar los conceptos.

Dado que Virgo representa el trabajo del día a día, así como los horarios y las rutinas, es súper importante ahora evaluar la forma en que nos acercamos a esta importante área de nuestra vida. Pensemos en la forma de manejar nuestra vida diaria y hagamos un plan para tener un mejor cuidado de nosotros mismos. Por otra parte, ofrece la oportunidad de purificarnos, mediante la liberación de las toxinas que hemos acumulado durante los últimos seis meses.

La salud es importante ahora. Nuestro cuerpo, el templo que nos alberga aquí en la Tierra. Afinemos nuestro sistema a la manera de Virgo, con la curación natural en primer lugar (a menos, por supuesto, de la legítima necesidad de un médico). Inundemos nuestro cuerpo con agua fresca todo el fin de semana. La deshidratación es a menudo el culpable escondido detrás de nuestros dolores menores.

Virgo gobierna la digestión, así que recordemos que la salud intestinal es la clave para la salud en general, ya que gobierna nuestra salud mental y un sistema inmunológico fuerte. Si no podemos ir o como a mi no me gustan los gimnasios, hagamos estiramientos o paseos al aire libre. Más actividad física puede hacer maravillas. Los tratamientos holísticos como el masaje y la acupuntura también pueden realinear nuestros sistemas.

Salud y orden destellan bajo la luz de esta Luna Llena de Marzo, nuestra tarea es hacerlos prevalecer.

Amada Dorpa Cerpa

 

Luna Llena en Virgo 12 de marzo 2017

 

 

Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.