If you feel like you and your friends are living in a giant reality show with non-stop drama, it may be because of drama addiction.
As you detox from drama addiction yourself, you may need to pull away (temporarily or permanently) from people who feed into the addiction. This is similar to a newly recovering alcoholic distancing him- or herself from previous drinking buddies.
While you can have compassion for everyone struggling with addictions, you’ve got to take strong measures to heal yourself. Pray for your friends who are still addicted, send them helpful articles and books if they’re open to it . . . but don’t allow their influence to pull you off your healthy course.
Here are some characteristics to avoid, especially in the beginning of your recovery from drama addiction. Stay away from people who:
1. Obsessively and repeatedly talk about their problems, without any interest in solutions.
2. Break their promises
3. Act and speak dramatically, in an exaggerated, animated way
4. Treat others disrespectfully
5. Have one-sided conversations—always about being special, either especially wonderful or especially unlucky
6. Speak loudly and rapidly
7. Currently abuse drugs or alcohol
8. Frequently fish for compliments
9. Brag about breaking the law
10. Have “doomsday” fears about the end of the world
11. Constantly express anger about a wide variety of issues
12. Frequently use exaggeration words like always and never
13. Have unfocused eyes that aren’t looking at you
14. Talk at you or to you, not with you
15. Only contact you when they want something from you
16. Brag about how much stress they’re under, like it’s a badge of courage
17. Boast about being a victim, subject to other people’s will
18. Gossip negatively about others (they will do the same about you)
19. Can cite every detail about every celebrity’s life
20. Are incessantly complaining about how much they have to do
21. Are in the habit of telling wild stories about themselves or people they know
How to Break Free of Negativity and Drama-Addicted Friends with Doreen Virtue