As humans, we have been given a unique gift, the ability to step back and become aware of our unhealthy habits of thinking—we canbecome the Observer of our thoughts. Unlike all other living creatures on this planet, we can also change the way we think and choose to live above and beyond these damaging habits. We can choose to be free. We can choose to sit in the Observer’s Chair.
Let’s have a little fun. Take a seat in the Observer’s Chair. Firmly grip the armrests and hold on tightly. When we choose to sit here in this chair, we are full participants in life. We are whole and complete, confident, valiant, peaceful, deliberate, and unconditional with our self. While reflecting on the needs of others we are empathetic, respectful, accepting, tolerant, just and fair, and compassionate.
This is the place where we receive inspired ideas, impressions, and solutions to challenges—whispers and visions of possibility that ignite our passion and drive our focus, discipline, effort, and action. It is here that we own our clay and act on our own moral authority doing the next right thing for the right reason because we want to, get to, and choose to. It is here that we find joy in the journey.
This is a very good place. We know this chair. After all, we are the Observer.
Now notice the chair that is about ten feet in front of us. This is the chair of our unhealthy habits of thinking. When we choose to sit in that chair over there our unhealthy habits question our worth and worthiness, doubt our ability, and challenge our beliefs and values.
This is where unrealistic expectations are created that foster fear and frustration. This is operation central, the home base for judgment and intolerance, despair and discouragement, overwhelm and confusion. This is where we feel intimidated, exhausted, impatient, and disorganized.
This is where our unhealthy habits of thinking resist, resent, and even rebel against discipline and structure, goodness and light. Sitting in that chair over there, overwhelmed by the incessant noise, we cannot hear divine whispers or see visions of possibility. In that chair over there, our efforts are sabotaged and we are stripped of our freedom and robbed of our hopes and dreams.
This is a very dark place. Sadly, we also know that chair over there all too well.
I have surrendered my free will to the years of accumulated habits and the past deeds of my life have already marked out a path which threatens to imprison my future.
The operative question at any given moment in the day must always be, “In which chair am I choosing to sit?” Am I in this chair—my chair—the Observer’s Chair, or have I surrendered my freewill—my voice and ability to make good choices and wise decisions—and moved over to that chair over there—the chair of my unhealthy habits of thinking?”
That chair over there can sometimes feel comfortable—at least familiar. It did for me—until I fully understood the price it was exacting from my self-esteem. Perhaps it is time for you, too, to discover how to get over here quicker and stay here longer. Success, happiness, and peace of mind depend on us making the conscious decision to sit in the Observer’s Chair.