Well, this is campaign season, and I have one of my own – a campaign to make you feel better about your wrinkles! Oh, how most of us agonize about signs of aging showing up on our faces!
But every wrinkle has a meaning that can not only make you feel good about aging, but also help you understand yourself and your life experience. For example, here are three wrinkles you might want to know about:
1. “Lie Detectors”
One or more vertical wrinkles directly in front of your ears are called “Lie Detectors!” These lines mean that you can tell when someone is trying to convince you of something that’s not true.
This is a very good quality to have; however these lines are said to develop as a result of a childhood where you had to learn at an early age how to discern what was true. What this means is that in some way at that time, the adults in your life tried to convince you of a reality that wasn’t real.
In some cases, this happened because a parent was an alcoholic. Of course no parent wants their child to know this truth, and they especially don’t want their child to feel unsafe, so they try to cover it up and pretend everything is ok. However, children are naturally very perceptive and can learn to see through to what’s really true.
But it doesn’t always mean a parent was an alcoholic. Patty, one of my clients who had these wrinkles, shared with me that when she was five years old, her mother developed cancer and over the next two years, she slowly declined and then died.
But the family, not wanting this little girl to be frightened, pretended nothing was wrong and made up stories about her mother’s treatments and hospital stays, instead of helping her with the reality of the situation, and finally to prepare for the loss of her mother. Their intentions were good but very misdirected, and of course, Patty came to see through the false stories on her own.
So the origin of Lie Detectors can be from a difficult experience in childhood, but from which you developed an important strength in adult life. Once you’re an adult, the only downside to having these wrinkles is that they can incline you to possibly be a bit too suspicious or mistrusting at times. If you can be aware of that potential tendency, then you’ll do fine.
2. “Joy Lines”
Those diagonal lines by the corners of our eyes that we call “Crow’s Feet” in the West are called “Joy Lines” in Chinese face reading. These wrinkles are definitely ones you want to grow! They’re signs that you smile frequently, that you’re warm and affectionate in your interactions with others.
It’s not that a negative thought never passes through your mind! But these wrinkles give a message to other people that because of your natural warmth, they’ll have a positive experience with you. (We all unconsciously respond to the messages on the faces around us.)
The outer corners of your eyes are one of the places where you can see the health of your emotional heart. In face reading, the emotions of the heart are represented as feelings of joy and love, and the ability to be open to other people. Joy Lines are a sign that your heart is available.
So if you have Joy Lines, please never get them erased! They’re a sign of your loving nature, and if you make them disappear, it can actually impact your love life, your friendships, and your professional relationships.
Botox Your Clients Away?
Denise was a real estate agent who was very self-conscious about her age, and so she had Botox to remove her Joy Lines. Now, not only had these positive messages on her face disappeared, the Botox of course froze her muscles there, which made her incapable of giving a genuine smile, as only a real smile involves the muscles by your eyes as well as those by your mouth.
To make things worse, she experienced a common side effect of this procedure – the Botox affected her eyelids, making them droop over her eyes. In face reading, that tells the world that you’re a very private person and that you may withhold information.
Well, she’d had the procedure done to make sure she stayed youthful-looking so she’d still get clients, but afterwards she actually saw a drop in business. It was only when she had a face reading that she connected the dots. She’d actually changed the positive message her face was giving out to one that told people she wasn’t very warm or friendly, and that she wasn’t going to be open in communications!
3. “Break with the Past”
One of the reasons I have such great respect for face reading is because it not only gives you a beautifully complete view of your inner design, it also shows you a map of how your life is unfolding. One of the signs that can be read in your face reveals an age where you made an important life change, a break with the past.
An example of this is a single horizontal wrinkle going across the bridge of your nose. If you have this sign on your face, it’s likely that at around age 40, you made (or will make) a significant change. For instance, it could have been a big move, a career change or a divorce, but no matter what it was, the meaning of this wrinkle is that you took a major step toward becoming more authentic, and finding a life that was more of a fit for you.
But this wrinkle also tells you something else: By this age you learned an important lesson that allowed you to move beyond who you used to be, and to stand more in your power. It doesn’t mean you got life all figured out or that everything turned golden at 40! But it does mean you achieved a significant new level of “being real” because of the personal growth you’d done to that point, possibly because of some difficult challenges.
In other words, this wrinkle also means “a lesson learned.” It’s a badge of courage and accomplishment and if you have this line, you should wear it proudly!
And if you’re still feeling bad about your wrinkles…
Then I’d like to offer you this change of heart. Below are the words to a song I love, and below that, a link to listen to it. From me to you, with love:
I’m like one of those Japanese bowls
That were made long ago
I have some cracks in me
They have been filled with gold
That’s what they used back then
When they had a bowl to mend
It did not hide the cracks
It made them shine instead
So now every old scar shows
From every time I broke
And anyone’s eyes can see
I’m not what I used to be
But in a collector’s mind
All of these jagged lines
Make me more beautiful
And worth a much higher price
I’m like one of those Japanese bowls
I was made long ago
I have some cracks you can see
See how they shine of gold.
Jean Haner, the author of The Wisdom of Your Face and The Wisdom of Your Child’s Face, teaches compassionate and affirming ways for people to understand their true nature and to look with love at everyone in their lives, including that reflection in the mirror. With her 30 year background in ancient Chinese principles of balance and health, Jean is well known for providing fun, fascinating and practical information that can be put to immediate use in your life.
Jean married into a Chinese family when she was in her 20’s, and first learned face reading from her very traditional mother-in-law. It wasn’t until years later that she discovered how tolerant her mother-in-law had been; since Jean had no “moneybags” on her face, she wasn’t considered to be a lucky match for her husband!
She went on to study the deeper foundations of face reading with many teachers over the years, and learned that it has nothing to do with luck and everything to do with learning to be true to your nature.