Sitting meditation-Meditar sentado 2/5

9 Dic

There is a myth that you have to sit in full lotus pose or look like a human pretzel to meditate. The reality is that you can meditate in any position as long as you’re comfortable. With that said, there are some important guidelines when you’re finding a seat for meditation.

The first thing is simply to sit up straight—on the floor, on a cushion or in a chair—it doesn’t really matter where, but a straight spine will help you to stay alert for your meditations. You want to feel alive and energetic while you meditate—physically and mentally—and sitting in a physical position that is upright encourages that alert state of being.

Try it out so you can experience the difference. You’ll likely find it’s actually much easier to sit for longer periods of time when your spine is stacked properly, as opposed to slouching. When you’re hunched over, not only will that promote a tired feeling, it’s hard to maintain for longer stints of time and you can hurt yourself, causing pain in the back and neck as gravity pulls you down.

If sitting up straight is painful or uncomfortable in any way, lean against a wall or piece of furniture for support to encourage your vertebrae to be stacked. Remember, your number one rule for meditation is to be comfortable, so feel no shame for using props.

If your hips are tight or your knees feel achy when you sit on the floor, you have options. Sitting in a chair is a great place to start meditating, just find a chair that doesn’t invite you to slouch. Notice if your favorite love seat encourages you to sink, and make a choice that will better support your upright position. Over time, you may find that you become more flexible and may want to explore other positions.

Laying down is not the best option for meditation, but if you are in pain or there is some reason where you cannot sit comfortably, it’s absolutely fine to lie down. There are some meditations that actually call for lying down, such as the body scan. But typically, this is not the position you’ll use for your consistent practice.

Check out these eight variations for seated meditations. The list starts with the easiest variation and gradually gets more difficult. Remember that everyone has a different body—you may find that crossing your legs for more than five minutes at a time makes your right shin fall asleep or your big toe go numb. You may find that one variation allows for a straighter spine. Try them all to find out what will work best for you.

8 Ways to Sit for Meditation

In all of these variations, make sure your head is directly over your heart, and your heart is right over your hips, so your vertebrae are stacked. I recommend that you sit on the front edge of a rolled-up blanket, pillow, or cushion; this supports proper alignment—bringing the hips slightly above the knees and allowing the pelvis to tilt forward. Positioning in this way will emphasize the natural curvature in your lumbar spine, bringing stability to support a straight spine for extended periods. Plus, cushions also make your seat more comfortable, which is the #1 rule.

In a Chair

How to meditate in a chairChairs make it easier for most people to sit still for longer periods of time, especially those with knee issues who have trouble in some of the floor-bound postures. If you choose to sit in a chair, make sure both feet are firmly on the floor. If your feet don’t reach the floor, you can use a blanket or blocks under the feet, so they feel supported. You can either sit up straight toward the edge of your seat, or use the back of your chair for support if you need it. In either case, pay attention to the alignment of your spine, and note that it can be easier to sit up straight without using the back of your chair. A cushion or pillow under you may provide more comfort, and will bring your hips slightly over the knees so you’re well-stacked and supported.


Against a Wall

Sitting cross legged against wallSitting against Wall, legged extendedYou can use the wall or a piece of sturdy furniture to help you sit up straight. Cross your legs or extend them out in front of you, whatever feels most comfortable. A cushion (zafu) or blanket under you works well here, too.




Kneeling with Support Between Knees

kneeling meditationWhile you don’t need to use a prop between your knees when you’re kneeling, it takes the pressure off your knees and ankles, and is quite comfortable. You can use a pillow, a zafu cushion turned on its side, a rolled-up blanket, or a yoga block, and place it right between the knees and under your buttocks.





*For the following cross-legged variations, I’ll use references to “right foot” and “left foot,” to make instructions easy to understand. Feel free to swap right and left in any cases to meet your optimal comfort level.

Easy Pose

SukasanaEasy pose is a simple cross-legged position, where your knees are wide, your shins are crossed, and each of your feet is below the opposite knee. You probably loved this pose when you were a kid. I don’t recommend easy pose for meditations over a few minutes, it isn’t an incredibly stable seat, and it can be easier to round the spine in this position. Plus, I’ve found that my feet tend to fall asleep faster in easy pose than any other meditation posture.

If you want to try it out for shorter meditations, it’s great for stretching the knees and ankles, and opening the hips. Make sure to use a prop under you to elevate the hips.

Burmese Position

Burmese PositionThis is a variation of sitting cross-legged. If you’re just starting out, use a meditation cushion or pillow. Sit on the front half of the cushion or pillow, bend your knees in front of you, then rotate your knees out to either side, sitting in a cross-legged position. Bring your left heel to the inside of your right thigh, and your right heel to lightly touch the top of your left foot, ankle, or calf, so it sits slightly in front of you. The sides of your knees may touch the ground and if they don’t, you can use pillows or blankets under your knees for extra support.

Quarter Lotus Pose

quarter lotusUse a zafu or pillow here as well, and set yourself up in the same way as described for Burmese position, sitting on the front edge of your cushion, allowing your hips to open and legs to cross in front of you. Keep your left foot on the floor to the inside or below your right thigh, and your right foot to rest on the calf of the left leg.




Half Lotus Pose

Half lotusSame position as quarter lotus, except you place your right foot to rest on the top of the left thigh instead of calf.

Full Lotus Pose

Full LotusFull lotus is the most stable and symmetrical of meditation postures, but only if you’re flexible and it feels comfortable for you. If you force yourself into full lotus, you can injure your knees. To come into full lotus, begin in the same way you set up for quarter or half lotus, but this time you’ll bring your left foot to rest on your right thigh and your right foot to rest on your left thigh.




If you meditate in half or full lotus, make sure you’re able to sit with a straight spine and with your knees close to the floor. If that isn’t the case, take a modified meditation seat until you’re open enough to maintain proper alignment in lotus. I also recommend alternating legs, from day to day or half-way through your meditations—so that the bottom foot spends some time on top—to create an even stretch and weight distribution.

Try them all before deciding which variation is best for you. Happy meditating!

*This post was adapted from the book, The Type A’s Guide to Mindfulness: Meditation for Busy Minds and Busy People.




Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.


How to use my new Dragon Oracle Cards

6 Dic



Dragons are flooding back to our planet now to help us with the preparation for the New Golden Age. They are amazing, very wise and open hearted beings. Like angels and unicorns we can’t usually see them as they operate on a different wave length from us, but if you are willing to tune into them they are longing to connect with you.

They are of the angelic realms and, like angels, have wings to show that they have huge open hearts.



Dragons are elementals. They can be earth, air, fire or water or a combination of any three of them. Angels and unicorns are of the element air. Humans have all four elements in their make up.

Dragons can be fourth dimensional. In addition there are dragons throughout the frequency ranges. Angels and unicorns are seventh dimensional or a higher frequency.

Dragons can delve into and consume much denser energies than angels. They can destroy matter and create it. They can even clear and transmute matter.

Your Guardian Angel holds the divine blueprint for your life and guides you with whispers. He inspires you and helps you hold your vision.

Unicorns are the purest of the pure and shine light onto you.

Dragons, angels and unicorns all work on different aspects of life. For example, if you are buying a house you need a solicitor, an estate agent and a surveyor. All do something different but important.

Dragons clear the lower energies and prepare the way for the higher frequencies to come in.

Angels and archangels sing over you and light your way.

Unicorns pour high frequency light and blessings onto you.



Dragons are great friends, companions and protectors.

They accompany you and look after you as you move through the dimensions in meditation and sleep. They will guide you through the astral realms where nightmares lie and protect you from experiencing them.

They clear your way in life.

They inspire you and activate higher aspirations.

The dragon cards will reveal many more ways in which you can direct them and they can help you.



They can protect and care for you, be your friend and companion and help in a myriad of ways.

They can physically clear lower energies round you so that you are safe, for example, while you travel.

They accompany you at night if you go through the astral realms. This means they can burn up frightening emotional memories so that you do not have to experience them as nightmares.

They can move in front of you, clearing and lighting up your path. Water dragons can help you to flow round challenging situations and people. Fire dragons can burn up negativity before you reach it. Air dragons can inspire you. Earth dragons can help to ground your ideas and bring your plans to fruition.

They can support your life and illuminate your spiritual journey.

As you work with the Dragon Cards you will discover many ways in which they can help and illuminate you.



Everyone has a personal dragon who is usually the same element as your astrological sign.

  • If you are an Earth sign, Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn, you will probably have an earth dragon.
  • If you are an Air sign, Gemini, Libra or Aquarius, you will probably have an air dragon.
  • If you are a Water sign, Pisces, Cancer or Scorpio you will probably have a water sign.
  • If you are a Fire sign, Aries, Leo or Sagittarius, you will definitely have a fire dragon.
  • If you need to have other qualities to fulfil your life plan, your dragon may have more than one element.

For example:

  • If you need to be strong, bold and courageous your dragon may have some fire.
  • If you need to be more psychic and intuitive your dragon may have some water.
  • If you need to be grounded or to make your ideas come to fruition, your dragon may have some earth qualities.
  • If you need to communicate clearly or inspire others your dragon may have some air qualities.



The Dragon Oracle Cards will attune you to many different dragons. They will also offer you guidance about your daily life, your soul mission, your ascension path and how you can serve the planet.

* Diana will personally select a card from your deck and bless and sign it.

I hope you love the Dragon Oracle Cards as much as I have enjoyed creating them with the dragons. Remember the dragons really love you and want to help you.




Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.


Luna llena en Géminis, crecimiento y re-estructuración este 3 de diciembre del 2017.

3 Dic


Luna llena en Geminis y mercurio retrógrado


El magnetismo y energía lunar está en su máximo, por lo cual tener tranquilidad y paciencia porque nuestras ideas y pensamientos se pueden confundir con lo que otros digan o piensen. Las ideas se desordenan fácilmente así como nuestras energías y genio. Sepan manejar las desarmonías o fluctuaciones emocionales que se presenten, revisen sus metas y objetivos con seriedad sobre todo en su actividad pública y profesional.

Este día no es recomendable cortar el cabello, ni efectuar cirugías del sistema respiratorio y nervioso, hombros, brazos y manos, para las afecciones y dolores en los órganos regidos por este signo es recomendable usar la clave del tarot número seis los amantes, el color naranja, y la nota RE, y repetir tres veces ii, oo aa. Para el asma, enfermedad de los brazos, bronquitis, estornudos, afecciones del cuello, neumonía, problemas de pulmones, tos temores, reumatismo.

El 3 de diciembre Mercurio, termina su tercera y última retrogradación del 2017, transitando el signo de Sagitario, y termina de estar retrogrado el 23 de diciembre del año en curso que se pone directo en este signo, para así terminar su tránsito hasta el día 11 de enero del año 2018.

Cuando Mercurio esta retrogrado todo se hace más lento, no se coordinan actividades, se pueden cometer errores en muchos asuntos diarios, puede ser por actuar precipitadamente o de afán, sin tomar una pausa o analizar tranquilamente y despacio un asunto determinado. Además por ser fin de año todo lo que remos hacer de prisa, lo mejor es la calma y lo que no se pudo déjelo para el inicio de año.

Se recomienda tener paciencia, estar alerta, analizar o asesorarse bien de lo que se haga ya que la mente se confunde fácilmente o nos confunden y manipulan en beneficio de otros. Por lo cual ser precavidos en el manejo de nuestro dinero, posesiones, bienes, y pertenencias, para evitar robos, engaños en negocios y compras. Estos días los picaros y ladrones se les facilita hacer de las suyas, si nos confiamos.

No es recomendable hacer tratos comerciales urdidos a toda prisa, ni dejarlos a medias ya que así quedaran por largo tiempo inconclusos y nosotros llenos sueños e ilusiones. Antes de firmar un documento del que sea, leer la letra menuda, para evitar más adelanté contratiempos.

En asuntos laborales, trabajo, servicio, no es época para renunciar, pedir aumento, firmar contratos a no ser que estén muy bien asesorados por que lo que se haga es definitivo, mucho de lo que se diga después no se cumple. En lo referente a la salud si hay dudas del diagnostico medico o del laboratorio pedir o efectuar un nuevo contra chequeó, pues a veces hay errores.

En la comunicación hablada, escrita, medios de información se dan interferencias, malos entendidos, demoras, perdidas de documentos, esto es válido para los viajes así sean largos o cortos. Muchos elementos de comunicación, tv, eléctricos, trasporte, a veces vienen con desperfectos de fabrica que por lo general no tiene reparo.

En lo que tiene que ver con lo sentimental, amoroso, lo emocional, un rompimiento o divorcio es definitivo, las reconciliaciones, los reencuentros con personas del pasado no hacen sino crear ilusiones nada más.

El 3 de diciembre tenemos el primer domingo del Adviento (venida del redentor), tradición cristiana que nos prepara para recibir la navidad, hoy se prende la primera vela direccionada al Este u oriente, dedicada al arcángel Rafael, pedir en la meditación salud, paz, amor, perdón, sanación, terminada la meditación se apaga la vela.

Del 4 al 6 de diciembre, la luna ingresa al signo de Cáncer del elemento agua, evitar de ser posible estos días cirugías de senos, estomago, tubo digestivo y lipoesculturas. Para afecciones y dolores de los órganos regidos por este signo usar la clave del tarot numero 7 la carroza, usar el color naranja-amarillo, y la nota RE sostenido, y repetir tres veces ii, oo, aa. Para la vesicula biliar, ulceras estomacales, nauseas, neumonía, tristeza, indigestión, hipo, gases estomacales, problemas del esófago, crecimientos malignos en el estomago.

Con respecto a los apegos y deseos de conservar lo que se consigue en la actividad diaria, nos induce a limitaciones mentales y cierto nerviosismo, ya que hay que responder por los gastos que seden diarios. Ante los gastos tener paciencia disciplina dejando de lado el desasosiego ya que no conduce a nada.

Del 6 al 8 de diciembre, la luna ingresa al signo de Leo del elemento fuego, de ser posible evitar cirugías del corazón, sistema circulatorio y columna vertebral. Para problemas y afecciones del órgano regido por Leo, usar la clave del tarot numero 8 la fuerza, color amarillo, la nota MI, y repetir tres veces ii, oo, aa. Para aneurisma, angina de pecho, problemas de la aorta, arterias endurecidas, actividad cerebral, congestión, dolores del corazón, cuello, tortícolis, equilibrio emocional, temor, estimulo, valor y fuerza.

Disfrutemos de lo que llega del amor, la belleza, el arte, ante los deseos de viajar, hacer planes si se puede se puede si no dejen de lado la desilusión y revisen sus metas analícenlas con tranquilidad Mercurio sigue dando lecciones.

El 7 de diciembre día de las velitas, víspera de la fiesta para los cristianos de la virgen María. Se prende el alumbrado de los árboles de navidad, faroles, y se departe con amigos.

Del 8 al 9 de diciembre, la luna ingresa a Virgo del elemento tierra, evitar de ser posible cirugías del estomago, colon, sistema digestivo y nervioso. Para afecciones y dolores en los órganos regidos por Virgo usar la clave del tarot numero 9 el ermitaño, color amarillo-verdoso, la nota FA, y repetir tres veces ii, oo, aa. Tos, problemas del páncreas, enfermedades del intestino, problemas del hígado, estornudos, problemas del bazo, problemas del abdomen.

Días para disfrutar de lo recreativo del inicio navideño con los suyos, el área de servicio y laboral esta armoniosa, si desean firmar un contrato, o hacer sociedades asesórense si es indispensable hacerlo y lean lo que firman y si es de boca no les recomiendo se dan cambios de parecer mas adelante.

El 10 de diciembre, segundo domingo de Adviento se prende la primera y segunda vela direccionada al sur, dedicada al arcángel Miguel, pedir en la meditación protección, sabiduría, seguridad, fortaleza, pasión, juventud, terminada la meditación se apagan las velas.

Orlando Parra D.


Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.


2018, año del Perro de Tierra.

30 Nov

El Año Nuevo chino 2018 empieza el 16 de febrero de 2018.


De hecho, 2018 esta dominado por el elemento Tierra en su forma Yang, y es un año lleno de acontecimientos, marcado por los problemas de seguridad y de aumento de los movimientos sociales conservadores dentro de la sociedad.

Muchas voces en todo el mundo alzan resaltando la importancia de los valores universales del diálogo y de la solidaridad, valores característicos del signo chino del Perro. El egoísmo, la codicia y la ignorancia son el origen de una fuente importante de las desigualdades en el mundo, así solamente un impulso social y cultural, en el nivel individual y colectivo, pueden dar una nueva esperanza a los millones de personas que todavía sufren de la negligencia, de la indiferencia y del rechazo de su comunidad.


El Año del Perro de Tierra 2018 es un buen período para cambiar de estilo de vida (tiempo de dejar de fumar o cambiar de residencia) y el iniciar nuevos proyectos empresariales.

También se espera que algunos de nosotros podrán experimentar breves períodos de soledad o de melancolía transitoria. Sin embargo, este tiempo debe alimentar las más sensibles y creativas de las mentes entre nosotros. Para el resto, estos momentos pueden resultar un descanso en la ejecución de sus planes de vida, que se retrasan hasta el año siguiente.

Los individuos cuyo mapa de energía de los elementos de la astrología china muestran un exceso de Agua y de Madera son más susceptibles que otros a las fluctuaciones específicas de 2018, Año del Perro de Tierra.


La satisfacción y la alegría causada por el éxito de los proyectos realizados en el año anterior, el Año del Gallo del Fuego 2017,sólo pueden ser apreciados completamente en el contexto de la distribución equitativa de los recursos creados.

Para las personas cuyo elemento predominante en su horóscopo de vida es Tierra, una estabilidad especial durante todo el año 2018 debería permitirles organizar su vida personal y profesional de forma segura y eficaz.

Recordemos que el elemento primario del signo del Perro es el elemento Tierra, seguido de fuerzas secundarias proporcionadas por el Fuego y el Metal. El ciclo creativo del Fuego, de la Tierra y del Metal significa que el dinero puede venir a aquellos que deciden optar por la honestidad y la equidad en sus relaciones. Las empresas que garanticen el bienestar y la salud de sus consumidores, en particular mediante el aumento de las inversiones en las áreas de reciclaje y de las energías renovables, serán recompensados con un aumento de sus ingresos.

De acuerdo con los preceptos del WuXing y del ciclo creativo de los 5 elementos de la cosmología china, la Tierra crea el Metal. Con el fin de obtener éxito y alegría durante todo el año, es propicio mostrar su solidaridad y hermandad, para que la justicia noble y el vigoro del Perro de Tierra se vuelva riqueza material y espiritual.

Las fantasías y excentricidades del año pasado (Año del Gallo de Fuego) se olvidan pronto. De hecho, los Años del Perro no son propicios a los residuos y a los gastos innecesarios. En 2018, el éxito, en el amor como en el trabajo, depende principalmente de la calidad de la comunicación entre las personas, y aprender que el ser desinteresado y generoso puede traer la promesa de una cosecha más generosa a cambio.


Repetido una vez cada 60 años en el calendario chino, el Año del Perro de Tierra es un marcador de gran alcance en la vida de los hombres y de las mujeres, ofreciendo, cuando ocurre, una nueva interpretación de nuestra condición humana. La fuerza de carácter, la educación, la moral, la vida social, la salud y el cuidado de nuestros mayores, están todas las preguntas fundamentales que deben ser revisadas y mejoradas durante este período crucial. La aparición de nuevos autores y filósofos, tanto como la reedición de textos olvidados por los grandes escritores y poetas clásicos, deben despertar y alimentar a esta toma de conciencia colectiva.

También podemos esperar el nacimiento de nuevos proyectos industriales ambiciosos, remodelando por completo los modos de producción y explotación de los recursos energéticos, particularmente en el campo de la energía solar, que ahora ha madurado suficiente para convertirse en una de las principales fuentes baratas de energía eléctrica, tanto en transporte como en casa. Todas las iniciativas que muestran una contribución a la reducción de la contaminación y a mejorar la calidad de vida son alentadas y financiadas por la mayoría de los estados, las grandes instituciones financieras e industriales en todo el mundo.

Las acciones basadas únicamente en la unidad individual y la demagogia se desenmascaran y son rechazadas por la mayoría, dando un paso durante este período a los valores más universales de empatía y de justicia social.

El elemento Tierra en su forma Yang, asociado al signo del zodiaco chino del Perro, -al igual que una montaña mira sobre los seres humanos que viven en el borde de su vestido de piedra-, vibra desde el interior con el temblor de la verdad y de la justicia, incluso para algunos de nosotros que no lo queremos oír.


En 2018, la significación y la importancia de la familia son esenciales para la realizacion de las aspiraciones de todos los 12 de los signos del zodiaco chino. Si por casualidad, eres solter@ durante este ciclo anual, no deberías tener problemas para encontrar una pareja antes del próximo Año Nuevo Chino.


Debemos recordar que el signo del zodiaco chino del Perro, símbolo de la inteligencia y de la protección, también se puede convertir en un período sensible, no solo para los activistas y estudiantes, sino también para los ciudadanos ordinarios. La sensación de privación de esperanza y de exclusión social, podrán moverlos a exigir cambios radicales en sus condiciones de vida, y preservar el futuro de sus hijos.

A menudo, se dice que los Años del Perro son portadores de conflictos violentos. En realidad, sólo los Años del Perro de Metal pueden estar relacionados con energías de disolución y movimientos bélicos a causa de su Metal reforzado. El proximo Año del Perro de Metal está planificado en 2030.

Por Karma Weather – 31 de octubre 2016

Ludovica Squirru cuenta todo sobre el 2018 año del Perro de Tierra –


Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.


What is meditation? 1/5

27 Nov

There are many things in life that are beyond our control. However, it is possible to take responsibility for our own states of mind – and to change them for the better. According to Buddhism this is the most important thing we can do, and Buddhism teaches that it is the only real antidote to our own personal sorrows, and to the anxieties, fears, hatreds, and general confusions that beset the human condition.

Meditation is a means of transforming the mind. Buddhist meditation practices are techniques that encourage and develop concentration, clarity, emotional positivity, and a calm seeing of the true nature of things. By engaging with a particular meditation practice you learn the patterns and habits of your mind, and the practice offers a means to cultivate new, more positive ways of being. With regular work and patience these nourishing, focused states of mind can deepen into profoundly peaceful and energised states of mind. Such experiences can have a transformative effect and can lead to a new understanding of life.


Venerable Yuttadhammo (formerly Noah Greenspoon) is a Canadian-born Theravada Buddhist monk, ordained in 2001 under the guidance of Venerable Ajaan Tong Sirimangalo of Chiang Mai, Thailand.

Having practicing intensive and daily meditation following the Mahasi Sayadaw tradition since January 2000, he has taught intensive meditation in Thailand, Sri Lanka, USA and Canada since 2003 and gives online teachings via YouTube ( ) both live and pre-recorded, as well as Dhamma talks in both English and Thai to both intensive meditators and by invitation to the general public. Yuttadhammo studied Sanskrit, Pali and Indian Religion at McMaster University and University of Toronto, formal Thai Dhamma, Abhidhamma and Pali studies at Wat Phradhatu Sri Chom Tong and teaches Pali classes to advanced meditators from time to time.

He has published two books electronically, How To Meditate: A Beginner’s Guide To Peace ( ) and Lessons in Practical Buddhism ( ).  The former has been translated into several languages including Chinese, Spanish, and Romanian. He has also prepared a Pali Workbook ( ) based on the commentary to first verse of the Dhammapada, and is in the process of publishing a Pali study guide based on traditional study methods.

Yuttadhammo has also created a Digital Pali Reader ( ) and a similar Android Tipitaka app ( ) which are used by Pali scholars around the world. He is the President of Sirimangalo International, a non-profit organization that maintains the website and has pages on both Facebook and Google+




Compilación realizada por Lorena Lacaille.


Five Tips to Make Sure Money Doesn’t Kill Your Relationship

24 Nov

Don’t let the number one thing couples fight about destroy your love

In the early 1980’s, I saw a cute blond and fell head over heels in love. That cute blond was Kim. We started dating, and eventually we got married. She’s the love of my life, my best friend, and the reason why I’m successful today. Over the years, our marriage has gotten stronger and better.

A lot of people see Kim and I today and think we’re happy because we’re rich. The reality is that when I met Kim, I was broke and a million dollars in debt after the failure of my first business selling rock and roll Velcro wallets. Thankfully, Kim stuck with me, and I know that Kim isn’t with me because of my money—and I’m not with her because of hers!

For many years, Kim and I struggled financially. In that respect, we were no different than many young couples. I’d be lying if I didn’t say it was stressful at times, but we worked together as a team, persevered, and had a plan.

Money: the #1 thing couples fight about

As Huffington Post reports, according to a recent survey by Money Magazine, found that “70 percent of couples argued about money more than household chores, togetherness, sex, snoring and what’s for dinner.” The substance of those arguments? “Couples cited frivolous purchases, household budgeting and credit card debt as the biggest sources of friction.”

This squares with another report by NBC News, which reported that 60 percent of couples that fight over money do so because one person in the relationship either spends too much or too little.

No surprise there. Money is important for happiness, health, and harmony. When you don’t have enough money to pay the bills, take care of your family, and have a little fun together, it’s a big stress. And it’s an even bigger stress when you know you don’t have enough because of financial mistakes made by one spouse or both.

Money is such a big stress that couples that fight about money more than once a week have a 30 percent higher chance of divorce.

Why couples fight about money

It’s a shame that money causes people who once loved each other to break up. Usually, after asking people who share their stories a few pointed questions, I hear a range of reasons on why money breaks up relationships. Those reasons range from bad planning, poor financial intelligence, to unmet and unexpressed expectations.

But I believe there is one main reason that money breaks up a relationship: they never talk about!

Couples should talk about money constantly—especially at the beginning of a relationship. Why? Because as my wife, Kim, writes, alignment on money is the most important factor in a successful relationship.

Couples who never talk about money will only fight about it because they never had shared vision on their finances.

Because a rich life is about more than just what’s in your bank account, I thought I’d share a few thoughts here on how to get into alignment when it comes to relationships and money.

Make a plan

When Kim and I were broke, we still knew where we were going. Each year, we’d sit down and write out our financial goals. For me, it was starting a financial education company, building businesses, and investing in oil and real estate. For Kim, it was building a substantial real estate portfolio.

Each month, we’d sit down and discuss what we were doing to accomplish those goals, encourage each other, and make adjustments as needed. Everything in our life was directed towards reaching our goals, which helped us with spending decisions, life choices, and commitments.

Most importantly, we communicated our goals, and there was a clear understanding of expectations on both sides.

Encourage independence

Since we were both broke when we got married, we depended on each other instead of one person depending on the other. I was no sugar daddy, and Kim wasn’t my sugar mama. Instead, we grew together.

Today, Kim and I have separate accounts, investments, and ventures. We’re both wealthy and don’t need each other to be secure financially. This makes it much easier to want each other. Because we each take care of our own financial houses, it eliminates much stress and fighting.



Be a team

Even though we’re independent financially, we’re still a team. And we know that as a team we share in each other’s problems and celebrate each other’s victories.

As a team, we communicate constantly, making changes as needed. I seek Kim for advice on my financial ventures, and she does the same. If there are problems, we help each other out. And like a team, we’re not competing against each other. We want to see each other win, and we cheer each other on.

Increase your financial education

The first gift I ever bought Kim was a class on accounting. I knew her goal of becoming a real estate investor, and I knew she’d need to know accounting. For years, we worked on our financial education, often reading books together, taking classes together, and attending seminars together. Now, we write books together, teach classes together, and give seminars together—and we’re still learning.

In any relationship, both partners need to be financially independent. This means both partners need to be financially intelligent and committed to always increasing financial education.

This has always been our goal as a couple, and today, because Kim is so smart financially, she’s independently wealthy.

Learn from mistakes (and laugh)

Finally, understand that life is a journey. Many couples have a hard time with financial mistakes because they have the expectation that hard times won’t or shouldn’t come. Every couple faces hard financial times. It’s your response to them as a couple that will make or break your relationship.

For Kim and I, we always looked at our setbacks as learning opportunities. And because we were a team, we tackled those problems together—and learned from them together.

Also, we laugh together a lot. Kim is my best friend. When life get’s hard, it also often gets absurd. If you can’t stand back with your best friend and laugh at the difficulties and absurdities of life, you’re screwed.

One of the best ways to get financially smarter is to take mistakes as learning opportunities and to stay positive and good humored together.

Robert Kiyosaki



21 Nov

La Verdad Profunda

Guerras, terrorismo, calentamiento global, colapso económico, desestructuración familiar, problemas en nuestras relaciones, etc., tienen algo en común: todos ellos provienen de ciertas suposiciones y concepciones basadas en un modelo científico desfasado e incompleto.La verdad profunda revela nuevos descubrimientos que cambiarán de forma radical y espontánea nuestra visión del mundo y de nuestras relaciones personales. La Teoría de la Evolución resulta insuficiente para explicar nuestra existencia, que estamos programados para la paz y no para la guerra, que nos encontramos en un momento crucial de la existencia y que somos mucho más de lo que pensamos. Cuando los hechos se clarifican, nuestras elecciones se vuelven obvias. Gregg Braden, autor Best Seller por el New York Yimes, es ingeniero aeroespacial y ha trabajado para Philips Petroleum y Cisco Systems. Hoy, es un científico conocido por unir el mundo de la ciencia con el mundo de la espiritualidad. Sus trabajos pueden verse en Discovery Channel, la NBC o History Channel. Es también autor de La Matriz Divina y La Curación espontánea de las creencias y El Tiempo Fractal.